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Joyful Tie Dyes 02-20-2013 12:08 PM

Appropriate consequence
for a 3 year old intentionally waking infant sibling. :banghead:

Times outs are not helping, taking away stuff has never worked on him. We don't spank.

FindingMercy 02-20-2013 12:15 PM

From naps? If you wake the baby from this nap you have to spend his next nap sitting on the couch until he wakes up on his own.

HeatherlovesCDs 02-20-2013 12:43 PM

Re: Appropriate consequence
Oh, I SO feel your pain! My baby is 4 months and my olders (the ones doing the waking and such) are almost 3. My baby sleeps in a room they cannot get into. I have him in his crib (which is in our room) and use a monitor. I don't close the door (which would be pointless since they can open it), but I use a door monkey on it. It's this thing you can get from Amazon that allows you to close the door but leaves a crack in it. The little kids can't open it or close it. It is stuck, but it is VERY easy for anyone else to open. It does on any door and moves around from door to door with no installation required. (It just clips on the door.) This way, my kids can't get in and wake the baby, but the door isn't closed either. I'll link it....

ETA - A note about the door monkey in case you get almost 3 year olds have no problem opening it. I have to put it up very high on the door so they cannot reach, even with a chair or bucket or toy or pile of books or etc....You get my point. ;)

As for a consequence, I often have mine do time out next to me. So, what I would do is require them to sit next to me while I nurse or do whatever for a period of time. If it continues day after day, I would require them to sit next to me during the following nap time. They cannot be trusted to not wake baby, so they must stay next to me where I can monitor their actions closely. This is what I do with mine when they won't leave my baby alone. My twins like to bug him while he is hanging out in his exersaucer or bouncy or whatever. They also wake him up, but now I put him in my room to sleep.

I'm really sorry he is doing it because I know how frustrating it is. We deal with it times 2 (plus a 7 year old and twin 5 year olds who are generally good, but still kids ;))

Hope he stops soon! :hugs:

carriek38 02-20-2013 01:26 PM

Re: Appropriate consequence
Wake him up? :dunno:

DD will be 3 in a couple weeks. We can't take just anything away from her--it has to be something that she values enough that the removal has an impact, but not so valuable to her that she has nothing left to lose, KWIM? We've done time-outs (we do occasionally when I'm so angry w/ her behavior that I need to get it together) & spanking, but neither has much of an impact on her behavior. Neither does talking it out. She does respond to removing belongings or privileges, as long as it's done thoughtfully. She also does better when she's busy enough that she can't misbehave (i.e. she can wreck the living room while I'm in the kitchen doing dishes, but she loves to "help" with dinner, so I put her on a stool & let her stir something) & responds really well to rewards & reward charts...she can earn anything from new clothes or hair ties to toys to treats to special time w/ Mama/Mommy. It just has to be something she wants, KWIM? GL!

cdeweese 02-20-2013 01:44 PM

Re: Appropriate consequence
Are they sharing a room or is he going into the baby's room to wake them up? If they don't share I'd make him lay down in his bed the next time the baby naps. Tell him if he wakes the baby he'll go down every time the baby does. He may not mind at first, but he'll get tired of going down for a nap several times a day. If they share then make him lay down on the floor in the hall (my kids share and naps are sometimes done like this).

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