My thought is that the request has a lot to do with the wording. If the room mom sent an email along the lines of, "hey all, just wanted to let you know that Ms. Soandso was just mentioning how much she'd love to get an iPad. I was thinking that if any of you were planning to get her a gift and hadn't decided what to get her yet, perhaps a gift card to Target would be nice. That way she can combine them together to use towards buying herself one." I wouldn't bat an eye. OTOH, I would be more offended by something more along the lines of the following: "With Christmas coming up, it's time to start thinking about gifts. Ms. Soandso would like an iPad this year. We'll be collecting Target gift cards towards the purchase."
Hi! I'm Shannon
Wife to J
Mama to a couple of crazy boys - L (12/07)
and E (2/11)