Re: How many gifts for Christmas?
This year our kids will get one gift from Santa, their stocking (though there are no toys except a lego mystery guy in there), 2 gifts from us, and they "buy" each other gifts because they love to shop for others. All in all, they'll have probably 4-6 gifts each to open.
DH and I don't buy each other big gifts anymore - once the kids got old enough to want to pick out things for us, they started stealing all the good gift ideas! So we do a stocking for each other and take the kids to shop for the other parent.
This year my in-laws will be here as well, so I'm not sure what extra the kids may get from them. But that's what we're doing ourselves.