Re: The spanking debate.
We spank when it is necessary.
We do not spank for aggressive, violent behavior (hitting your sibling, throwing something, etc.)
It is not often at all, twice a month - maybe. There are times that we feel it is necessary. If it done in a way that helps the child understand why, not out of anger, and is not excessive... it can be beneficial, for SOME children. It does not work for my middle DS.