[harmoni247]

Originally Posted by LittleThingsMama638 I have no advice but I.know exactly what you are talking about. I feel that way a lot and often think about how I struggle with the two and I don't know how to not he a mom.

You can't "not be a mom". You are one, but you can also be sexy. Like PP said: be multifaceted. Be all of you all of the time. Think of yourself like that song

"I'm a b**ch, I'm a lover, I'm a child, I'm a mother, I'm a sinner, I'm a saint. And I do not feel ashamed."

People are not flat, you can be a child to you mother and a mother to your child at the same time, just as you're a sister to your siblings, a friend to your friends, and....... a wife to your partner. You shouldn't be trying to switch between different personas. I'm sure you want your child to embrace their whole selves. You are what they're watching, you give them the example.