Re: daycare misgivings
Smoking would be an absolute deal breaker for me. The provider smoking "outside" wouldn't be an acceptable solution for us. In Michigan, smoking in a licensed daycare is prohibited - "outside" or not.
The diaper rash would also be a deal breaker for me. That's neglectful of her. Both of mine are well beyond their diapers but when they were, our provider took excellent care of them (I often thought they rec'd special diapering attention because of the novelty of our cloth diapers). I brought home a full wet bag every day.
I'm sorry Mama but I think your gut is talking and it's time to start looking for something else.
Emily - Proud Mama to Will (Dec 06) And Lillian Rose (Feb 09)
My Lily was 9.11lbs and delivered by VBAC - I did it!