If I were in this situation I would be pulling my kid tomorrow. Sorry but smelling like smoke is unacceptable to me. I don't care if she isn't smoking around the kids, third -hand smoke from clothing and furniture is a real thing. And the diaper rash is almost as bad. Not worth it IMO.
Can you hire a tween or teen to be a mother's helper after school? To play with your DD at your home while you study? Or study after DH is home in the evening and weekends? Is there any alternative to daycare? If I couldn't figure something out I would put my schooling on hold. Listen to your gut mama.
Rachel, SAHM to a 9yo teenager
, a 4yo charmer
, and a toddling koala bear
, and wife to my hard-working hubs. Mostly AP, co-sleeping (with all 3!), BFing, quite crunchy, thrifty, curly-haired mama. Loving my life.