Re: Irresponsible-ish Grandma
A simple "we are not comfortable with it" should suffice. If pressed, I'd probably say we are not familiar enough with him at this stage and we expect that when she is left with Grandma, she is supervised by Grandma.
However, how uncomfortable are you? Are you getting a bad vibe or is it more of a principle thing? Because I'm sure there are times when MIL takes a shower or goes to move the laundry around and your DD would be accessible to this guy. So is the issue the overstepping of the MIL by leaving her in his care without your consent or is it a concern for her safety?
If it's the boundaries thing, I'd mention it as above to MIL and then work on getting to know your soon to be BIL better so you can put your concerns to rest.
Last edited by Mommy to Eli and Baby#2; 02-08-2013 at 12:17 PM.