Re: Defiant little girl...I have to tell my friend that her DD can't play with DS any
First off, ignore that post - I agree, kicking you while you're down.
Secondly, it sounds like she's taking it personally - just like most parents would/do when they're told something about their own kids. You get defensive, you don't want to admit that your kid does wrong, it feels like an attack on you or your parenting - kwim?
I think you did the right thing, although I don't know that I would have gone that far into it.
Third, if you lose her as a friend, so be it. And if your DH is pissy about it, whatever. You stood up for your child, you put his safety first, and that's your job as his mommy - to keep him safe, no matter how uncomfortable that may be for you.