[luvsviola]

I know that if you are married, the husband is legally considered the father, even if he isn't really the father. When DS was born, his mother's husband went on the birth certficate, even though everyone knew he wasn't the father, and he was given that man's last name per Indiana law. They then had to petition the court for paternity to have his name changed to the real father's name. They did that when he was about 5 months old.

I think the father can consent for the circ without mom's approval here because only one parent has to consent.

As far as naming, the mom can put whatever she wants on the paper, but the dad can take her to court to use his name, and it will be legally changed to the dad's name.