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Suzi · 12-10-2012, 07:22 PM

I was catching up on posts in here and it dawned on me that after I get married I will be fairly traditional. There will be steps and ex's to work with but 6more or less things will be traditionalish. I've been a single mom for almost 6 years. I hardly know how to be a parent without being a single mom.

Don't get me wrong. I'm totally excited for the wedding but its always sad to leave a big part of your life behind

adjroberts · 12-10-2012, 10:15 PM

(Hug)

pine_apple_goat · 12-20-2012, 03:32 PM

You're moving on to a new chapter. I'm sure it'll still be amazing. Hugs. Congrats on the wedding!

Almacham · 12-25-2012, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by pine_apple_goat

You're moving on to a new chapter. I'm sure it'll still be amazing. Hugs. Congrats on the wedding!

This.

abunchoflemons · 12-25-2012, 03:29 PM

Agreed.it's different but new chapter of your life.congratulations on wedding.

debcita429 · 12-25-2012, 07:52 PM

It's interesting... I was reading a book recently on emotionally healthy churches, and they were talking about taking the time we need to grieve whatever needs to be grieved. One of the things they listed was grieving the loss of singleness when you marry. It may seem counterintuitive for a time of joy, but it can carry its own trauma (and certainly its own adjustments). So I guess let yourself feel all of what you are feeling--the strangeness and the wonder, the loss of identity (in some sense) and the co-creating of new identity.

Congratulations!

Suzi · 01-12-2013, 09:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by debcita429

It's interesting... I was reading a book recently on emotionally healthy churches, and they were talking about taking the time we need to grieve whatever needs to be grieved. One of the things they listed was grieving the loss of singleness when you marry. It may seem counterintuitive for a time of joy, but it can carry its own trauma (and certainly its own adjustments). So I guess let yourself feel all of what you are feeling--the strangeness and the wonder, the loss of identity (in some sense) and the co-creating of new identity.

Congratulations!

Exactly!

ZnBmama · 01-11-2013, 05:18 PM

Congrats on your wedding!

Vitaminsnap · 02-28-2013, 09:04 PM

Aww. Congrats, momma! Grieve what you need to, and enjoy the rest.

**ChunkyMunky** · 02-28-2013, 09:12 PM

Thats sad and amazing. Enjoy your new life!!

12-10-2012, 07:22 PM	#1
Suzi Registered Users Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 2,658 Ratings: 67 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Feel a little sad I'm going to be losing my "non traditional" status soon I was catching up on posts in here and it dawned on me that after I get married I will be fairly traditional. There will be steps and ex's to work with but 6more or less things will be traditionalish. I've been a single mom for almost 6 years. I hardly know how to be a parent without being a single mom. Don't get me wrong. I'm totally excited for the wedding but its always sad to leave a big part of your life behind __________________ Suzi, working mama to my ODS(2004), YDS(2006), DSD(2004) and married to the love of my life

12-20-2012, 03:32 PM	#3
pine_apple_goat Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: MI Posts: 3,479 Ratings: 24 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	You're moving on to a new chapter. I'm sure it'll still be amazing. Hugs. Congrats on the wedding! __________________

12-25-2012, 03:29 PM	#5
abunchoflemons Registered Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: usa Posts: 5,194 Ratings: 29 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Feel a little sad I'm going to be losing my "non traditional" status soon Agreed.it's different but new chapter of your life.congratulations on wedding. __________________ A stay at home mom on a budget.here's my list: here, ask me about my $ app Here, or my online swag HERE

12-25-2012, 07:52 PM	#6
debcita429 Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2012 Posts: 1,088 Ratings: 10 Feedback: 100%	Re: Feel a little sad I'm going to be losing my "non traditional" status soon It's interesting... I was reading a book recently on emotionally healthy churches, and they were talking about taking the time we need to grieve whatever needs to be grieved. One of the things they listed was grieving the loss of singleness when you marry. It may seem counterintuitive for a time of joy, but it can carry its own trauma (and certainly its own adjustments). So I guess let yourself feel all of what you are feeling--the strangeness and the wonder, the loss of identity (in some sense) and the co-creating of new identity. Congratulations!

01-11-2013, 05:18 PM	#8
ZnBmama Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 1,428 Ratings: 4 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Feel a little sad I'm going to be losing my "non traditional" status soon Congrats on your wedding! __________________ Hunting and pecking for fresh baby and children's deals! Follow me! *CheapMamaChick on Facebook* & Cheapmamachick.com