Do you clean your teen's room?

[TinaDeanette]

We told DS that he can keep his room how he wants as long as the door is shut. Well, that's just not working because when I go put his clean laundry on his bed I have to walk through piles of dirty laundry. It's rather disgusting. So I usually clean it for him. I'm wondering now if our 'plan' wasn't the brightest! How should I handle this? Any good plans to use with your teens. I also fear that I am setting him up for failure when he moves out on his own because I'm always cleaning up after him. I don't want him to have to make his room 'sparkling' clean everyday. He's a teen boy!

[mommy24babes]

Don't have teens but I have siblings 7-8 years my junior.

For me it becomes a difference between messy, dirty,and bio-hazard

Messy is ok. It's their space and can be cluttered disorganized or whatever works for them. if the want to live out of laundry baskets fine.

Dirty would be Dirty laundry. I don't see a problem with making them put dirty clothes into a basket and not on the floor.
Heck my 6&8 year olds can manage that 90% of the time.

Biohazard is completely unacceptable. Ie dirty dishes growing things. Making yogurt of sorts in cups ect

Please do have him take responsibility. My 6&8 year olds pick up their laundry and put it in baskets. Dhs on the other hand hits the floor! SMH!

[rverrone11]

Originally Posted by mommy24babes Don't have teens but I have siblings 7-8 years my junior. For me it becomes a difference between messy, dirty,and bio-hazard Messy is ok. It's their space and can be cluttered disorganized or whatever works for them. if the want to live out of laundry baskets fine. Dirty would be Dirty laundry. I don't see a problem with making them put dirty clothes into a basket and not on the floor. Heck my 6&8 year olds can manage that 90% of the time. Biohazard is completely unacceptable. Ie dirty dishes growing things. Making yogurt of sorts in cups ect

This is how I feel as well.

[l_Kimmie_l]

I do not clean my son's room. I allow him to keep it as he wishes. He keeps it clean though. The only clothing on the floor is his PJs from the night before. Once and awhile he will ask me to vacuum and I tell him he has to make sure the floor is picked up for me.

[TinaDeanette]

It's definitely not biohazard level!

[ktmelody]

No way. They have to clean their rooms daily and do their own laundry once a week.

[Puppydog]

You are raising someones husband. Do her a favour and teach him to be a man.

I live with an ex spoiled brat and his inability to clean up after himself causes many fights.

[luvsviola]

Originally Posted by Puppydog You are raising someones husband. Do her a favour and teach him to be a man. I live with an ex spoiled brat and his inability to clean up after himself causes many fights.

This. IMO, I would not clean it. But, privileges would be lost if he didn't make it at least decent.

[iceeholic]

Originally Posted by Puppydog You are raising someones husband. Do her a favour and teach him to be a man. I live with an ex spoiled brat and his inability to clean up after himself causes many fights.

A little messy is ok with us, but nothing major. I deep clean their rooms twice a year and other than that they have to clean them.

[apboyles]

Originally Posted by Puppydog You are raising someones husband. Do her a favour and teach him to be a man. I live with an ex spoiled brat and his inability to clean up after himself causes many fights.

I love you. That is the single most awesome thing I have ever read on DS. I know the words "I'm not your mother" leave my mouth at least once a week and we've been married over ten years. Plus, think of when they live on their own, you want them to know how to clean and take care of their belongings.