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Old 01-18-2013, 08:33 AM   #1
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MIL- Is Wendy getting her tubes tied? Are you?

Apparently yesterday, my MIL asked DH if I were getting a tubal after this baby (5). He said he was sure that I would not even consider it unless I ended up with another C/S and even then, he was not so sure.

So she asks, well, then are you going to get a vasectomy? DH said no, and being the guy he is went on to comment on how many more children we might have before menapause (I am 12 years older)

MIL said why would you do that to her???

It just tickled me a bit. I KNOW she didn't mean it in a busy body kind of way, but all 3 of her pregnancies and C/Ss were very difficult. All her babies came early and she had to readmitted with an infection after one. I do feel terrible that all her births were so traumatic that she views the possibility of further pregnancies as him doing something to me.

Here's the kicker for me, who never feels like she is ready to say "no more," and who thought DH wanted to be done with #5...I was secretly happy that he felt strongly about not getting a vasectomy (for a host of reasons, I think he is too young to make that decision...what if, goodness forbid, I should pass away and he meets a really wonderful woman in the future? after grieving forme desparately of course!) and that whatever children we have, we have.
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Old 01-19-2013, 09:25 AM   #2
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I think that's great that he was honest and straightforward with his answers
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Love it!
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Old 01-24-2013, 04:42 AM   #4
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Re: MIL- Is Wendy getting her tubes tied? Are you?

Love this! My MIL said the same thing. Sadly for so many reasons I am done after this baby, but still wish mine would butt out!
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Old 01-24-2013, 11:13 AM   #5
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Mine said this to dh, actually her exact words were "you are going to do something about this right?" when DD3 was 11 months old. Little did she or us know I was already pregnant. It kinda pains me that now we are done, for our own reasons and dh is actually going for the big V today. I don't want her to assume her opinion had anything to do with our decision.
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