I could use some advice...

[katengrace]

I don't buy that she doesn't remember that it's their birthday. We talk in advance...she'll ask me if we are having a party or not. Two of my kids share birthdays with my dad and my other sister...very memorable dates. I always post things on fb about their birthdays...she sees it. There are many opportunities for her to be reminded. It's like she does it on purpose.