Re: I could use some advice...
I don't buy that she doesn't remember that it's their birthday. We talk in advance...she'll ask me if we are having a party or not. Two of my kids share birthdays with my dad and my other sister...very memorable dates. I always post things on fb about their birthdays...she sees it. There are many opportunities for her to be reminded. It's like she does it on purpose.
Carrie, married to my best friend, Scott and mama to Grace '05, Kate '07 and Claire '08 and Brynn born 8/18/11