Diaper Swappers

rivershere · 12-12-2012, 04:03 PM

My husband and I have a wonderful 16 month old daughter. She is the light of our lives and brings us so much joy. When she turns 2 hubby would like to try to have another baby....but... I think I might feel differently. We had always agreed that we would have several children, we both like big families but... I had 1 miscarriage before our daughter, and my entire pregnancy with her was high risk... I was sick all 9 months and I just DREAD going through another pregnancy like that. Plus I love my daughter SO MUCH I'm sort of afraid of having another. I cant imagine loving another child as much as her. I horrible for having these feelings? Our daughter was totally worth everything I went through, but seriously pregnancy felt like a severe 9 month flu, plus I got a PUPPS rash for the last 3 weeks.

MDever · 12-12-2012, 04:16 PM

No! Of course not

Deciding how many children to have and when to have them is a most personal decision. You went through a lot and your concern is for her too. I had similar fears. How would I take care of LO1 if I was that sick again. Maybe you can sit down with your DH and just tell him you are not saying never just not right now. You are just not ready. Maybe you will change your mind and maybe you won't. That is your choice.

Melinda29 · 12-12-2012, 04:22 PM

Not horrible at all! Lots of families are very happy with one child. It would certainly make life easier (not better--I love all my kids--but easier) stopping with one. All the time and attention and focus, not to mention having my relationship with DH take priority again sooner. Good luck whatever you decide!

wyatt09 · 12-12-2012, 04:31 PM

not at all mama, i felt the same way that if having another it would be taking attention away from the other and how could I possibly love the same ..but it just added more love and my first and second just loved the new girl so much

rivershere · 12-15-2012, 11:02 AM

Thanks ladies. I talked to hubby and we came to the conclusion to wait until she is 2 before we would even think about trying again. That way she would be 3 before we had another. Right now she is still in her "baby" stage so by the time she is 3 perhaps she will be more independant, able to communicate more etc. SIGH. sorry for the panic lol

12-12-2012, 04:03 PM	#1
rivershere Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Ohio Posts: 85 Ratings: 8 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Am I Horrible? My husband and I have a wonderful 16 month old daughter. She is the light of our lives and brings us so much joy. When she turns 2 hubby would like to try to have another baby....but... I think I might feel differently. We had always agreed that we would have several children, we both like big families but... I had 1 miscarriage before our daughter, and my entire pregnancy with her was high risk... I was sick all 9 months and I just DREAD going through another pregnancy like that. Plus I love my daughter SO MUCH I'm sort of afraid of having another. I cant imagine loving another child as much as her. I horrible for having these feelings? Our daughter was totally worth everything I went through, but seriously pregnancy felt like a severe 9 month flu, plus I got a PUPPS rash for the last 3 weeks.

12-12-2012, 04:16 PM	#2
MDever Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 5,312 Ratings: 33 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Am I Horrible? No! Of course not Deciding how many children to have and when to have them is a most personal decision. You went through a lot and your concern is for her too. I had similar fears. How would I take care of LO1 if I was that sick again. Maybe you can sit down with your DH and just tell him you are not saying never just not right now. You are just not ready. Maybe you will change your mind and maybe you won't. That is your choice. __________________ Melony-Wife to my AMAZING DH Roger and SAHM to our tribe. DD1 Emmaleigh 1/02,DS1 Avery 8/03,DD2 Ainsley 9/05, Bonus T 8/06 & DD3 Poppy 12/10, DS2 Fionnlagh 2/13 we are a crunchy, CDing, EBF, bed sharing, babywearing, intact, very cautious/delay vaxing, ERF, homeschooling FAMILY.

12-12-2012, 04:22 PM	#3
Melinda29 Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 2,018 Ratings: 27 Feedback: 100%	Re: Am I Horrible? Not horrible at all! Lots of families are very happy with one child. It would certainly make life easier (not better--I love all my kids--but easier) stopping with one. All the time and attention and focus, not to mention having my relationship with DH take priority again sooner. Good luck whatever you decide!

12-12-2012, 04:31 PM	#4
wyatt09 B/T with caution Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: B/T with confidence! :) Posts: 1,901 Ratings: 153 Feedback: 95% My Mood:	Re: Am I Horrible? not at all mama, i felt the same way that if having another it would be taking attention away from the other and how could I possibly love the same ..but it just added more love and my first and second just loved the new girl so much __________________ MoM To W 2-24-09 & S 9-9-02& Nevaeh Mariah due (3-13-2012) ARRIVED (3-6-12!)

12-15-2012, 11:02 AM	#5
rivershere Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Ohio Posts: 85 Ratings: 8 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Am I Horrible? Thanks ladies. I talked to hubby and we came to the conclusion to wait until she is 2 before we would even think about trying again. That way she would be 3 before we had another. Right now she is still in her "baby" stage so by the time she is 3 perhaps she will be more independant, able to communicate more etc. SIGH. sorry for the panic lol