Diaper Swappers

allisonrose · 01-18-2013, 10:17 PM

Just last week I discovered that I miscarried. Since finding out, I have barely been able to sleep. Even when I was in the hospital and was given Ambien, I only got 6 or so hours of sleep. Other nights it has been 4 hours in a row or sometimes two blocks of 2 or so hours.

I know my loss is still quite recent so when does it get better? Any suggestions on what I can do? (My doctor offered to send me home with a prescription for Ambien, I declined because I cosleep with my two year old.)

amyltc · 01-18-2013, 10:38 PM

I miscarried Dec. 7 at 7 weeks and I really had a hard time sleeping. For about the first 2 weeks I didn't sleep much and then I did better, but then I regressed again about 2 weeks ago. I took melatonin but that didn't help me all the time, it does help relax you though, it helped me get to sleep just not stay asleep. Then I tried Advil pm. I'm really sensitive to sleep aids but I'd I took a half of an Advil pm it helps me stay asleep but didn't make me completely unresponsive. I also took a couple of anti anxieties along the way, those do knock me out. I tried unisom, but I don't like it. I also tried progressive muscle relaxation which helped a little.

finleyjudemommy · 01-19-2013, 06:58 AM

After I delivered my son sleeping (at 24 weeks) my OB prescribed me Ambien...

So sorry...I didn't read your whole post. I'm so sorry for your loss. There is no time frame on when it will get better. There is no time frame on when things will hit you. I had my very first loss in March of 04 and it didn't really hit me until that June. Everyone is different. Cry when you need to, talk about it, journal. When I had my very first m/c. I bought a book called Mommy, Please don't cry, there are no tears in Heaven and that did help.

(((hugs)))

willownz · 01-19-2013, 03:12 PM

I am having trouble sleeping too. Night is when the grief is so much worse. I am going to try upping my physical activity to tire me out but I am waiting until a week past delivery to start. I really dont want to take medication.

Kiwi mum of 4 including Benjamin born still at 19 weeks on Jan 17th 2013.

danimdel · 01-19-2013, 03:34 PM

So sorry for your loss mama

. I had the same problem and ended up taking Motrin pm. Just a half dose because my kids were going through a phase of waking up. I don't think it helped. It took a couple weeks before I could sleep well. Feel better soon.

allisonrose · 01-20-2013, 10:37 AM

I switched off with my hubby last night and coslept with my 4 y/o rather than my 2 y/o. I fell asleep with him around 8:30, half woke a few times and slept till about 7:30. I guess I really needed that.

Ten · 01-24-2013, 02:18 PM

So, so sorry for your loss and your heartbreak. I wish I could give you a date to look forward to, knowing it will be better... but I think the truth is that everyone is different, and some days will always be worse than others. It's been more than three years since I lost my first daughter (3rd trimester) and there are nights I still have trouble.

Wishing you peace. I will light a candle for your little one.

lyterae · 01-24-2013, 02:31 PM

I'm sorry for your loss. I think it was around the 3.5-4 week point that I finally started sleeping all night and it was just because I was so exhausted. For the first few weeks I was staying up very late at night until I couldn't help but fall asleep.

We are at about 7 weeks since we lost our baby (11 weeks along) and there are still nights that I am up all night or have nightmares.

As someone already said, nighttime is the worst time. It's when I'm finally quiet and alone and have time to think.

stevensmom · 01-24-2013, 02:33 PM

it's so hard and like Ten said...there is no set in stone date that makes it all better. Everyone grieves in their own way. I still grieve over the m/c I had 4 years ago.

allisonrose · 01-25-2013, 08:03 AM

I seem to be in a pattern of sleeping lousy for a couple of nights then crashing for 10-11 hours overnight. Better than what it was.

Erica - Thanks for your comment. Yesterday I was chatting with a friend who also had a miscarriage and she said something about moving on or forward or something. My thought was geez this just happened.

01-18-2013, 10:17 PM	#1
allisonrose Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 741 Ratings: 21 Feedback: 100%	Sleeping after a miscarriage Just last week I discovered that I miscarried. Since finding out, I have barely been able to sleep. Even when I was in the hospital and was given Ambien, I only got 6 or so hours of sleep. Other nights it has been 4 hours in a row or sometimes two blocks of 2 or so hours. I know my loss is still quite recent so when does it get better? Any suggestions on what I can do? (My doctor offered to send me home with a prescription for Ambien, I declined because I cosleep with my two year old.) __________________ Mama to two boys 9-08 and 1-11 1-16-13 Interested in earning free Paypal and gift certificates? Swagbucks

01-18-2013, 10:38 PM	#2
amyltc Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 5,028 Ratings: 106 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Sleeping after a miscarriage I miscarried Dec. 7 at 7 weeks and I really had a hard time sleeping. For about the first 2 weeks I didn't sleep much and then I did better, but then I regressed again about 2 weeks ago. I took melatonin but that didn't help me all the time, it does help relax you though, it helped me get to sleep just not stay asleep. Then I tried Advil pm. I'm really sensitive to sleep aids but I'd I took a half of an Advil pm it helps me stay asleep but didn't make me completely unresponsive. I also took a couple of anti anxieties along the way, those do knock me out. I tried unisom, but I don't like it. I also tried progressive muscle relaxation which helped a little. __________________ Amy, mom to Allie-6 Hannah-4 and missing our little lost love baby 'M' (7 weeks) Blessed to be expecting a rainbow in December Yarns, YYMN and patternsHERE

01-19-2013, 06:58 AM	#3
finleyjudemommy Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1,237 Ratings: 16 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	After I delivered my son sleeping (at 24 weeks) my OB prescribed me Ambien... So sorry...I didn't read your whole post. I'm so sorry for your loss. There is no time frame on when it will get better. There is no time frame on when things will hit you. I had my very first loss in March of 04 and it didn't really hit me until that June. Everyone is different. Cry when you need to, talk about it, journal. When I had my very first m/c. I bought a book called Mommy, Please don't cry, there are no tears in Heaven and that did help. (((hugs))) __________________ Susan, laundry doing , dish doing SAHM to twins F&J , A , 3 early M/C's and Baby Jack born sleeping 10/22/10 http://Frugalme-Frugalyou.blogspot.com/ Last edited by finleyjudemommy; 01-19-2013 at 07:03 AM.

01-19-2013, 03:12 PM	#4
willownz Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Dunedin, New Zealand Posts: 2,313 My Mood:	I am having trouble sleeping too. Night is when the grief is so much worse. I am going to try upping my physical activity to tire me out but I am waiting until a week past delivery to start. I really dont want to take medication. Kiwi mum of 4 including Benjamin born still at 19 weeks on Jan 17th 2013. __________________ Helen. New Zealand living, cloth nappy using and making. Totally addicted to knitting. Mum of Samuel (11/05), Mollie (6/08), Meghan (5/10) and Benjamin (17/1/2013) born 19 weeks 2 days.

01-19-2013, 03:34 PM	#5
danimdel Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: NE Ohio Posts: 1,783 Ratings: 30 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	So sorry for your loss mama . I had the same problem and ended up taking Motrin pm. Just a half dose because my kids were going through a phase of waking up. I don't think it helped. It took a couple weeks before I could sleep well. Feel better soon. __________________ Danielle, Married to Alan (9-23-05) Mommy to Brenna Noelle (12-18-07) and Alexander David (9-9-09)