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Old 01-26-2013, 10:19 AM   #1
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TTC or Wait: What Would You Do?

We've been TTC since August, and I'm considering taking 6 months off, and would appreciate some unbiased opinions on my situation. I have more reasons to wait than to continue to TTC but I'm not sure which to listen to, my head or my heart. Here it goes!

Reasons to wait...
+ I'm only 12 credit hours away from having my associate's degree (I'll have it by summer's end)
+ my DD is still having some minor development issues (separation anxiety, sensory threshold, low muscle tone and below average coordination) nothing too serious, but I still want to be able to give her plenty of my undivided attention to help her catch up to her age group.
+ My DH (active duty Air Force) is testing for promotion this summer, so he will most likely promote before a new baby comes if we wait 6 months to TTC.
+If we wait 6 months, we will be debt free before a new baby arrives.
+ If we wait, my husband will be applying (after his test this summer) for a position @ a base in a larger town (I'm not impressed with my OBGYN choices in the town we are in)
+ I've had a suspected ectopic pregnancy (resolved early on its own) since TTC and I'm emotionally exhausted.
+And the silliest reason.... If i wait 6 months, i might get an April baby, and all our family's birthdays will line up by consecutive months and age!
+ I'll have time to get into shape again.

Reasons to TTC now...
-I've been unable to conceive for 5 months already. If I wait and that pattern continues, it could be a year or more before I conceive, and DH might deploy again in that time!
- I don't think I want my kids to be born too far apart. (then again, IDK. my brothers were born 2 years apart, but I'm 5 years younger than my brothers, and we get along fine now). Any thoughts?
-All my friends are pregnant, and got pregnant immediately after TTC. My self image has taken a bit of a blow, I'll admit.
-I'm ready to be pregnant again!

So bring on the advice! I won't be offended, I really want some unbiased opinions, especially from moms who have more than 1 child. What would you do?

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Old 01-26-2013, 12:05 PM   #2
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Re: TTC or Wait: What Would You Do?

I'm probably no help, because once we start "trying" I am ready! I think that your reasons to wait are valid (as are your reasons not to wait!). If you decided not to try this month, would you feel peace about that? I am a big believer in that. Maybe you can take it month by month? Give this month a rest and then revisit it next months? Like you said, just because you decide to try doesn't mean you'll conceive right away.

Hoping for the best for you!
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Old 01-26-2013, 01:13 PM   #3
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I say keep trying! I am a firm believer that if it is meant to happen at a given time, it will. I would just keep moving forward with school, promotions, paying off debt etc and IF you get pregnant, you can alter your plans. If not, you'll get all those things accomplished and won't be wondering "if we had kept trying, I could be pregnant by now". You know? I have had babies in less than ideal circumstances and it has always worked out and I had a little one to love on. hope that helps!

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Old 01-26-2013, 03:50 PM   #4
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Re: TTC or Wait: What Would You Do?

I think you should not try, not prevent and not test. Work out, be a do-er, get all your ducks in line and just let the baby happen when he or she happens. But absolutely remove all the TTC stress from your life that you possibly can. <3
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Re: TTC or Wait: What Would You Do?

Thanks everyone. I think going to just stop actively TTC and enjoy life and let the new baby happen in God's time.
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