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Old 02-06-2013, 01:50 PM   #11
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I know how she feels. Im not a fan of large groups of people. The school experience was different for me because my family was moving almost constantly after I was 11, but it was absolute h*ll for me. When ds was in prek, only 16 hours a week, it was very draining on him. He likes being around other kids, but the big group setting every day for so long was more than he could handle. I started to see things in his behavior that made me really sad, and I didnt want to see him go further down that path of feeling the way he did, and acting out because of it. We decided to homeschool him this year and there has been a huge difference in his confidence. He's much happier, much more confident in who he is and what he likes, and since there isnt the contant need to be surrounded with other kids, he is more outgoing and eager to play/get to know other kids when he meets them now. He's sometimes still shy in a big group of kids, but since he doesnt have to do it all the time it doesn't stress him out nearly as bad.

I know homeschooling isnt an option for everyone but I thought Id mention that.


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Old 02-07-2013, 07:58 AM   #12
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There is a great book that came out last summer called "Quiet:The Power of Introverts". While the focus is on adults, I think there are things that can be applied to kids. I am an introvert and my Dd is too. It is hard to negotiate the world sometimes when the ideal expectation is group learning and extroversion.
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Old 02-07-2013, 08:16 AM   #13
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you don't NEED to do anything. Just love her the way she is. I was always this way as a child. I know it's difficult to watch but just encouraging her but not pushing her and being there for her. Let do things in her own time. Some children need more time to warm up to other people and activities. Have you heard about sensory processing disorder? I would seriously look into that. Also the book " Your Highly Sensitive Child " might help if you look into that. Trying to "change" her is NOT going to work and only make her more frustated. Some people really ARE introverts and there is no reason to try to make them more extroverted. Some people need more time than others to get used to things . The sensory processing disorder is something that goes undiagnosed alot.
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