Diaper Swappers

EmilytheStrange · 02-20-2013, 02:20 PM

some of you guys must have some amazing 26month olds.

There's no way in the world that my child would have understood 'you can't come back if you tantrum now' at that age. She's almost 29 months and she still wouldn't get that.

and I give her a lot of credit. I tell her things like 'girls who tantrum don't get "__" (whatever)' because I figure someday she'll get it.

that's why I just go with the sweet and short, simple options. 'you do it or mom does it' and giving her time to see me and realize that it'll be time to leave soon instead of just arriving and swooping in and taking her abruptly (not saying you do that).

but anyways.. just some thoughts.

Mom2Connor · 02-20-2013, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by EmilytheStrange

some of you guys must have some amazing 26month olds.

There's no way in the world that my child would have understood 'you can't come back if you tantrum now' at that age. She's almost 29 months and she still wouldn't get that.

and I give her a lot of credit. I tell her things like 'girls who tantrum don't get "__" (whatever)' because I figure someday she'll get it.

that's why I just go with the sweet and short, simple options. 'you do it or mom does it' and giving her time to see me and realize that it'll be time to leave soon instead of just arriving and swooping in and taking her abruptly (not saying you do that).

but anyways.. just some thoughts.

My thoughts as well. I would skip the shoe change, I totally get that it's cold but even socks would be fine for a walk to the car. Use a blanket or carseat poncho instead of a jacket if the jacket is a real fight. Then pick her up and walk out tantrum or not.

Our DS only goes to daycare (a hone center of a woman we know) occasionally and I swear he would live there if he could. He used to throw HUGE fits when we would show up. We finally just had to start saying in a happy voice things like, "I know you are having fun, but it's time to go home now. We will come play again soon." eventually, he got better. He is now 2 1/2 and this started at about 2ish. We didn't use daycare ever before that.

stevensmom · 02-20-2013, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by EmilytheStrange

some of you guys must have some amazing 26month olds.

There's no way in the world that my child would have understood 'you can't come back if you tantrum now' at that age. She's almost 29 months and she still wouldn't get that.

and I give her a lot of credit. I tell her things like 'girls who tantrum don't get "__" (whatever)' because I figure someday she'll get it.

that's why I just go with the sweet and short, simple options. 'you do it or mom does it' and giving her time to see me and realize that it'll be time to leave soon instead of just arriving and swooping in and taking her abruptly (not saying you do that).

but anyways.. just some thoughts.

agree..I don't believe in threats like "you can't come back"

Choices choices choices. And choices that you can both live with.

mibarra · 02-20-2013, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by EmilytheStrange

some of you guys must have some amazing 26month olds.

There's no way in the world that my child would have understood 'you can't come back if you tantrum now' at that age. She's almost 29 months and she still wouldn't get that.

and I give her a lot of credit. I tell her things like 'girls who tantrum don't get "__" (whatever)' because I figure someday she'll get it.

that's why I just go with the sweet and short, simple options. 'you do it or mom does it' and giving her time to see me and realize that it'll be time to leave soon instead of just arriving and swooping in and taking her abruptly (not saying you do that).

but anyways.. just some thoughts.

I'm with you, although I'm sure some kids do understand it, it's not something I would generally expect developmentally. Also unless I misread it sounded like daycare was non optional as both parents work, so you can't really stop sending her.

mrsrozberry · 02-20-2013, 05:19 PM

When we get into situations like that where my son doesn't want to leave. I empathize with him. Most of the time he just wants his feelings heard and knowledged and he'll peacefully leave.

sashaz122 · 02-21-2013, 06:24 AM

Ok update 1: a couple of days we were doing better then my husband calls this morning:
She is obsessed with socks (his or mine, the long ones that go to the knee - we know this fact from before too). Last night she found a pair and demanded to get them on. They go all the way up like stockings for her. Satisfied she fell asleep. This morning he took them off to get dressed and she started a 1hr long scream fest. No breakfast, no shoes, no hat, no jacket, scream scream scream. He ignored it and attempted to give her choices but no luck. She only subsided by the time they made it to daycare - and he had to walk to it in the cold (got her mostly dressed by then).

She has this big person (used to be obsessed about her socks so we just left them on) socks now but she can't wear them all the time???

Ugghhh now she's hungry and at daycare - they do give them a snack but not a full breakfast.

We'll see how the pick up goes...

mibarra · 02-21-2013, 11:33 AM

Some of it's the age mama, just prime tantrum time. My DD1 was relatively easy going at this age, DD2 is a stubborn tantrum throwing 2 year old. Whatever you decide to do, consistency is key. Good luck!! I feel your pain!

EmilytheStrange · 02-21-2013, 01:26 PM

why can't she wear big person socks all the time?

I'd just buy her some and let it go.

I have a friend who's child has been wearing the same snowboots for about a year now (including summer time) and he's been wearing the same capeshirt for almost as long. She just bought 3 of them so she can keep him in a clean one.

not a battle worth fighting. I'd just give her adult socks that go up to her thighs.

ETA: the little boy mentioned above..... he is 2.

stevensmom · 02-21-2013, 01:33 PM

yep not a battle worth fighting over...get her her own pair of socks and let her wear them!

SpartyGuard · 02-21-2013, 01:39 PM

Any time I can, I let my DD kinda finish out what she's playing with/working on when I come to pick her up. I get her stuff packed up or I sit down and play with her. I try to respect that in her mind, what she's doing is important and that I wouldn't appreciate someone walking into a room and declaring I have to be done and leave.

I realize that's not an option for everyone's schedules but it works for us more often than not.

02-20-2013, 02:20 PM	#11
EmilytheStrange Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Mountain Home, ID Posts: 6,251 My Mood:	Re: Toddler Tantrums - need help :( some of you guys must have some amazing 26month olds. There's no way in the world that my child would have understood 'you can't come back if you tantrum now' at that age. She's almost 29 months and she still wouldn't get that. and I give her a lot of credit. I tell her things like 'girls who tantrum don't get "__" (whatever)' because I figure someday she'll get it. that's why I just go with the sweet and short, simple options. 'you do it or mom does it' and giving her time to see me and realize that it'll be time to leave soon instead of just arriving and swooping in and taking her abruptly (not saying you do that). but anyways.. just some thoughts. __________________ SAHM to Magnolia May (09/10) and Luke Russett (04/13) and wife and best friend to my airman.

02-21-2013, 06:24 AM	#16
sashaz122 Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 424 Ratings: 10 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Ok update 1: a couple of days we were doing better then my husband calls this morning: She is obsessed with socks (his or mine, the long ones that go to the knee - we know this fact from before too). Last night she found a pair and demanded to get them on. They go all the way up like stockings for her. Satisfied she fell asleep. This morning he took them off to get dressed and she started a 1hr long scream fest. No breakfast, no shoes, no hat, no jacket, scream scream scream. He ignored it and attempted to give her choices but no luck. She only subsided by the time they made it to daycare - and he had to walk to it in the cold (got her mostly dressed by then). She has this big person (used to be obsessed about her socks so we just left them on) socks now but she can't wear them all the time??? Ugghhh now she's hungry and at daycare - they do give them a snack but not a full breakfast. We'll see how the pick up goes... __________________ Happy family of 3 plus a kitty. Hoping for a few more down the road.

02-21-2013, 01:26 PM	#18
EmilytheStrange Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Mountain Home, ID Posts: 6,251 My Mood:	Re: Toddler Tantrums - need help :( why can't she wear big person socks all the time? I'd just buy her some and let it go. I have a friend who's child has been wearing the same snowboots for about a year now (including summer time) and he's been wearing the same capeshirt for almost as long. She just bought 3 of them so she can keep him in a clean one. not a battle worth fighting. I'd just give her adult socks that go up to her thighs. ETA: the little boy mentioned above..... he is 2. __________________ SAHM to Magnolia May (09/10) and Luke Russett (04/13) and wife and best friend to my airman. Last edited by EmilytheStrange; 02-21-2013 at 01:34 PM.

02-21-2013, 01:33 PM	#19
stevensmom Moderator Squeeze your own darn cheeks Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: a little place called Home Posts: 35,060 Ratings: 372 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Toddler Tantrums - need help :( yep not a battle worth fighting over...get her her own pair of socks and let her wear them! __________________ Erica , wife to Ben, momma to Steven aka Boo11/30/06 & Emily aka MonkeyBuns9/11/10 "Opidy" joining the crew August 2013 Forever in my heart, always on my mind (3.09, 5.09, 12.11)...."Life's too short to buy green bananas" Swag with me! I've made over $520 in amazon gift cards & $225 in paypal

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SpartyGuard Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Knoxville, TN Posts: 369 My Mood:	Re: Toddler Tantrums - need help :( Any time I can, I let my DD kinda finish out what she's playing with/working on when I come to pick her up. I get her stuff packed up or I sit down and play with her. I try to respect that in her mind, what she's doing is important and that I wouldn't appreciate someone walking into a room and declaring I have to be done and leave. I realize that's not an option for everyone's schedules but it works for us more often than not. __________________ Sarah, wife to Keith , WOHM to Brooke 9/08 Cautiously expecting our rainbow baby 6/2013 Visit me at my blog Tired Mommy Tales and get Swaggy with me!!