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sandhillcranes · 03-01-2013, 04:06 PM

Ok i have had a lot of transactions but i wasnt sure what to do with this.

A mom has several of the same item listed for $Xppd. I told her I was interested and asked if she had feedback elsewhere. She msgd me her pp addy and her feedback info..then 3hrs later when I say sure I will take em lemme send pp in an hr. then she says ...to "avoid fees" i can send funds as personal or i can just cover the extra fees. Uhmmm

I told her i would just pass bc i dont really want to pay OVER her asking price and i dont feel comfortable sending $$ as gifted bc it offers me no protection thru pp. i hope that doesnt come off as mean or rude. The items were listed "ppd" ..was I in the wrong to say id just pass?

Fashionably Green Baby · 03-01-2013, 04:08 PM

She isn't allowed to ask you to cover fees. She needs to account for them in her asking price.

stevensmom · 03-01-2013, 04:12 PM

yes asking for the buyer to cover fees is against DS rules as well as Paypal rules.

Please let me know (via pm) who this person was so we can send a friendly reminder of the rules

sandhillcranes · 03-01-2013, 04:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stevensmom

yes asking for the buyer to cover fees is against DS rules as well as Paypal rules.

Please let me know (via pm) who this person was so we can send a friendly reminder of the rules

It was on facebook swap ..she has a username here but i am not sure how active she has been.

Thank u for helping

stevensmom · 03-01-2013, 04:55 PM

also...never ever ever pay personal for an item...you don't get paypal protection if you do

Fishie Kisses · 03-01-2013, 05:05 PM

It is against PAYPAL'S TOS to ask the buyer to cover fees. No chance would I ever pay as personal. And ppd means that everything is included. I would have done exactly the same as you and passed.

shortcake2386 · 03-01-2013, 05:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stevensmom

also...never ever ever pay personal for an item...you don't get paypal protection if you do

sandhillcranes · 03-01-2013, 05:33 PM

Yeah I never send as gifted but I wasnt sure if it was rude to just kinda wash my hands of the entire transaction...

I guess whatever I said wasnt rude though bc she agreed to sell for her original asking.

Thanks mamas! Love how quick everyone is

I_run_with_scissors · 03-02-2013, 06:24 AM

I would have done the same thing, not worth the risk to send it as anything other than goods

glad it worked out for you mama, i think many times people arent trying to scam or be dishonest, they just want more profit

03-01-2013, 04:06 PM	#1
sandhillcranes Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 5,782 Ratings: 263 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Ummm wwyd? Ok i have had a lot of transactions but i wasnt sure what to do with this. A mom has several of the same item listed for $Xppd. I told her I was interested and asked if she had feedback elsewhere. She msgd me her pp addy and her feedback info..then 3hrs later when I say sure I will take em lemme send pp in an hr. then she says ...to "avoid fees" i can send funds as personal or i can just cover the extra fees. Uhmmm I told her i would just pass bc i dont really want to pay OVER her asking price and i dont feel comfortable sending $$ as gifted bc it offers me no protection thru pp. i hope that doesnt come off as mean or rude. The items were listed "ppd" ..was I in the wrong to say id just pass? __________________ I'm Tia... and I love my family so much they should pay rent in my mind If I haven't left you feedback, please pm me .

03-01-2013, 04:08 PM	#2
Fashionably Green Baby Registered Users Formerly: artistmom Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Indiana Posts: 6,480 Ratings: 34 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	She isn't allowed to ask you to cover fees. She needs to account for them in her asking price. __________________ Mom of 3 little munchkins and currently incubating #4 Swag with me! 10% off at my HC store with code: diaperswappers

03-01-2013, 04:12 PM	#3
stevensmom Super Moderator Squeeze your own darn cheeks Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: a little place called Home Posts: 45,390 Ratings: 427 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Ummm wwyd? yes asking for the buyer to cover fees is against DS rules as well as Paypal rules. Please let me know (via pm) who this person was so we can send a friendly reminder of the rules __________________ Erica , wife to Ben, momma to Steven "Boo"11/30/06 & Emily "MonkeyBuns"9/11/10 Matthew "Bubbles" joined the crew August 29, 2013 Forever in my heart, always on my mind (3.09, 5.09, 12.11)...."Life's too short to buy green bananas" Swag with me! Bing it!

03-01-2013, 04:55 PM	#5
stevensmom Super Moderator Squeeze your own darn cheeks Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: a little place called Home Posts: 45,390 Ratings: 427 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Ummm wwyd? also...never ever ever pay personal for an item...you don't get paypal protection if you do __________________ Erica , wife to Ben, momma to Steven "Boo"11/30/06 & Emily "MonkeyBuns"9/11/10 Matthew "Bubbles" joined the crew August 29, 2013 Forever in my heart, always on my mind (3.09, 5.09, 12.11)...."Life's too short to buy green bananas" Swag with me! Bing it!

03-01-2013, 05:05 PM	#6
Fishie Kisses Registered Users Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: SJV, CA Posts: 17,653 Ratings: 211 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Ummm wwyd? It is against PAYPAL'S TOS to ask the buyer to cover fees. No chance would I ever pay as personal. And ppd means that everything is included. I would have done exactly the same as you and passed. __________________ Tashauna~~proud wife to my trained boo-boo fixer and mama to 4 boys on earth (Jordan-01/15/08, Logan-12/16/09, Connor-05/17/11)...and finally our rainbow Jackson (11/24/13)! and two in heaven ^i^ (10wks-11/12 and 4 weeks 2/13) Try SWAGBUCKS and get paid!! I've earned over $1000 just since Jan 1, 2013!!!