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Old 03-04-2013, 04:01 AM   #1
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I am ready to wean my 19 month old but she clearly is not interested. I have been going about this the wrong way I think. She can go throughout the day without nursing (except at nap and bedtime) BUT wants to nurse throughout the night. I need to sleep and want her to as well. I am no longer interested in BFing mainly because she is so demanding and rough about it. She will pull my shirt down and yell "booby now". Also, I have a 4 year old and I think the 19 month old manipulates me into bf'ing her and not tending to her sister.
Please be kind and supportive. This is a sensitive issue. I have a very hard time watching her get so upset over not nursing but its clear that this system is not working for our family. Kind responses, please and thank you!

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Re: How do we start this process?

I'm in a similar boat, Mama. I wish I had some advice but I'm just starting the process, too. Mainly because I'm expecting #2 and and #1 still nurses 4 times a day, regularly (at 20 months old.) I don't want to totally wean him just yet but I do want to cut down some and I don't know how. I've tried replacing it with other types of milk and he gets very upset and says "No! Momma's milk!" My friend's mother told me she put band-aids on herself and said they were broken. Although I'm not one to lie to my kids... maybe a little white lie wouldn't be so bad?
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You've done a great job, Mama! 19 months is a huge accomplishment.

I would recommend putting a bandaid over each nipple, and next time she asks to nurse, tell her Sorry- nursies are broken (or have owies- whatever you feel she will understand best)! Then redirect- ask her if she wants to snuggle the nursies.
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I am working on the same thing with DS2, who is 21 months. He was only nursing before nap and before bed at night. I started going back to school at night in January so DH had to put him to bed, so he didn't have much of a choice. He didn't give DH any problems. On the nights I was home he would pull at my shirt and I would just tell him no sweetie. Lets snuggle instead. He gave in pretty easily. He is still nursing before nap and I think that will be the hardest to get him to give up.
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I'm in a similar boat, Mama. I wish I had some advice but I'm just starting the process, too. Mainly because I'm expecting #2 and and #1 still nurses 4 times a day, regularly (at 20 months old.) I don't want to totally wean him just yet but I do want to cut down some and I don't know how. I've tried replacing it with other types of milk and he gets very upset and says "No! Momma's milk!" My friend's mother told me she put band-aids on herself and said they were broken. Although I'm not one to lie to my kids... maybe a little white lie wouldn't be so bad?
This made me chuckle thx for the support, really appreciate it!
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Thank you everyone! I'm not 100% sure I want her to wean entirely, I just need her to be considerate if she could be discrete and not abuse the privilege I would LOVE to continue until she just lost interest. I guess that's it, I just want her to want to stop
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Thank you everyone! I'm not 100% sure I want her to wean entirely, I just need her to be considerate if she could be discrete and not abuse the privilege I would LOVE to continue until she just lost interest. I guess that's it, I just want her to want to stop
Maybe teach her the sign for milk- and tell her to get milk, she has to use the sign- make it a game- a secret sign- just for her and you- which will also help if she's doing it for attention?
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