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Old 02-18-2013, 06:17 PM   #1
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ok, so we started PL with DS (now 22mo) in mid december. from about day 4 until a week ago (about a month and a half), he very rarely had pee accidents. At first, his obvious body language told us he needed to urinate, but after that he verbally told us. he did not want to poop on the potty though. he wasnt afraid, he just didnt want to stop playing. finally, one day a couple weeks ago, id had enough and I gave him a time out. he hasnt had a poop accident since.
the problem now is pee. about a week ago, he stopped telling us when he needs to pee. he also stopped his obvious body language cues. sometimes it seems like he doesnt even know he is peeing....but he has to know because just a week ago he was fully potty trained.
we started over with no bottoms and telling him to hold it and rushing him to the potty when he starts going. and it really is like we are starting at the first day (except he tells us for poop). he is having accident after accident and when we tell him to hold it, half the time he wont he will just keep peeing as i carry him through the house.
has anyone had this happen? any ideas on where we went wrong, or what we should do?
im frustrated and confused.

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Old 02-18-2013, 08:33 PM   #2
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My DS just started going pee in his pants after graduating from going commando to undies with pants. Really really annoying, so I know how you feel. For him, I think he's just gotten lazy and too involved in other more important activities, like he expects me to remind him all the time. And when I say let's go potty, he'll resist, then pee a little bit in his pants and then come to the potty to finish the rest. I've been telling him that the characters on his undies don't like getting peed on, and it seems to register, because he looks sad, but then he does it again! We went through 6 pairs of pants yesterday- grrrrrrr!!!! I think I need be more consistent in having him change himself. I'm also planning on taking away toys as a short consequence. Our kids KNOW how to do it, they're just choosing not to. I guess I've also got to prompt him more often than I thought. Maybe you will need to do that, too. I'm right there with you, mama! You are not alone!
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Old 02-19-2013, 06:09 AM   #3
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My DS just started going pee in his pants after graduating from going commando to undies with pants. Really really annoying, so I know how you feel. For him, I think he's just gotten lazy and too involved in other more important activities, like he expects me to remind him all the time. And when I say let's go potty, he'll resist, then pee a little bit in his pants and then come to the potty to finish the rest. I've been telling him that the characters on his undies don't like getting peed on, and it seems to register, because he looks sad, but then he does it again! We went through 6 pairs of pants yesterday- grrrrrrr!!!! I think I need be more consistent in having him change himself. I'm also planning on taking away toys as a short consequence. Our kids KNOW how to do it, they're just choosing not to. I guess I've also got to prompt him more often than I thought. Maybe you will need to do that, too. I'm right there with you, mama! You are not alone!
wow. it really does sound like we are in the same boat! thanks, its nice to know we arent the only ones with this problem! everyone ive talked to around here just says some form of, "hes too young, hes not ready". but that just doesnt make sense to me. I agree with you, they KNOW, but are choosing not to.
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Old 02-19-2013, 06:17 AM   #4
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One thing I learned, just because they know doens't mean they are ready physically or mentally.

If he is have many many accidents, no amount of pressure, you (general) telling him to hold it, or rushing him to the toilet is going to make him go in the potty.

Its up to you if you want to clean up pee all the time. Me I don't. So my response is if they are having more than the occasinoally accident they back in diapers for a while and then we try again.

I refuse to stress my self or my child over potty training. Especially if they are under 2.5 years.
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Old 02-19-2013, 06:49 AM   #5
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One thing I learned, just because they know doens't mean they are ready physically or mentally.

If he is have many many accidents, no amount of pressure, you (general) telling him to hold it, or rushing him to the toilet is going to make him go in the potty.

Its up to you if you want to clean up pee all the time. Me I don't. So my response is if they are having more than the occasinoally accident they back in diapers for a while and then we try again.

I refuse to stress my self or my child over potty training. Especially if they are under 2.5 years.
I agree, it's stressful and I can't stand cleaning pee off of furniture or carpet. I don't know if I'd go back to diapers but I would do cloth trainers so you aren't cleaning up all the time. And he'll still feel wet.

Personally, I'm not a fan of disciplining when it comes to using the potty. I feel like it's developmental just like walking.
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I personally think that "setbacks" don't mean that a child isn't ready. It's a learning process and learning does not always happen smoothly or linearly. Having done both, I think it's much easier to train a 2 year old than a 3 year old, so my 2 cents is don't give up now! Were there any other changes in his life recently? I don't have any answers as to why that might have happened but know how frustrating it is and wish you good luck!
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I would want to rule out bacteria infection! Maybe he cant hold it anymore.
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One thing I learned, just because they know doens't mean they are ready physically or mentally.

If he is have many many accidents, no amount of pressure, you (general) telling him to hold it, or rushing him to the toilet is going to make him go in the potty.

Its up to you if you want to clean up pee all the time. Me I don't. So my response is if they are having more than the occasinoally accident they back in diapers for a while and then we try again.

I refuse to stress my self or my child over potty training. Especially if they are under 2.5 years.
Totally agree.

At less than 2, it's really early. Yes, he's demonstrated success for a several weeks (which is already amazing and something to be proud of!), but still, he just might not be ready either physically or intellectually to do it 100% of the time. Some kids are, some kids aren't. It's like crawling and walking. Every kid is different.

I know cleaning up messes can be so frustrating. But recognize that you are frustrated about cleaning up. Try not to confuse that with frustration about your child not being ready to eliminate in the potty.

At 2 years old, not pulling himself away from activity even though he "knows" he needs to potty is NOT a sign of willfullness, laziness or wanting to irritate you. It simply shows he's not intellectually ready. He doesn't have the decision making skills.

When they are ready, they are ready and it will happen. Don't worry: (assuming there's nothing physically wrong) it's very unlikely he's going to be wearing diapers in Kindergarten!! Our job is to give them the opportunity when they ARE ready. And to have the patience to recognize when they AREN'T ready. If he's having lots of accidents, he's telling you he's not ready. I would recommend taking a break. And I wouldn't frame it in a punitive way, or make the child feel bad about wearing diapers again.

Personally, I do not believe in punishing a child for a potty accident. PL is like any other milestone. For example, let's say my DS started walking one day at 9 months. Everyone would say WOW, because that would be "early" by most standards (although, I don't like paying too much attention to "standards"). Then let's say after a few days, he reverted back to crawling and didn't want to walk anymore. I wouldn't be frustrated and put him in a time out for reverting back to crawling, even though I "know" he can walk. And if he didn't walk again until he was 13 months old, that would be ok

I think punishing for potty accidents can be very counterproductive and make the child fear elimination.

Just my 2 cents! Good luck, mama!!
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