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Old 05-02-2013, 12:24 PM   #1
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Ever since I couldn't nurse ds1 I was determined to nurse ds2 as long as he wanted. He is 18 months.We co sleep, nurse on demand etc. well honestly I'm getting so frustrated and ready to be done. He doesn't sleep. At all. He won't sleep longer than an hour (usually more like 20-30 minuets) without me. This includes nap time. I NEVER get time with dh. We get alone time MAYBE twice a month. We live in the middle of nowhere and don't know anyone yet. Getting a sitter isn't an option.

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On top of this he is RUDE! Pulling my shirt down whenever he pleases. And THEN he insists in pulling the opposite side down while he's nursing on the first side! He has always tried to play with the opposite sides nipple which I have NEVER allowed but lately he throws a major tantrum every time I stop him! This can go on for ages. I've tried lovies for him to use while he nurses, necklaces you name it. He wants to play with my boobs.

He's on and off it 20 times a day just playing. Not for comfort, not for food, just like "yup! Checkin to see if it was still there!"

I'm so ready to just quit, but I don't want to regret it later on.

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Old 05-02-2013, 12:54 PM   #2
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For me personally, by that age I wouldn't continue in that situation. I was DONE when DD2 was 13 months. Couldn't nurse DD1. I decided to stop. And other than night time for nursing to sleep, guess what? She hardly missed it at all! I redirected her to other drinks snacks like 3 times and she didn't ask anymore. Not saying you should quit, just saying you won't necessarily regret it either. You have to do what's best for you and your LO!
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Old 05-02-2013, 01:01 PM   #3
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I don't do rude nursing. At that age they are old enough to be polite and respectful and if my ds1 acted that way he didn't get any.

If you want to continue that's great! But make sure your needs are getting met too. Whether that's sleep, or a couple hours out on a date night with your hubby. (At 18 months your ds should be okay going several hours without nursing).

Mamas tend to put their needs last but we need to do better!

Eta: I would set certain times he could nurse. When ds1 was that age we did: first thing in the morning, before both naps, and at bed time. So plenty of cuddles but respected cuddles.

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Old 05-02-2013, 01:04 PM   #4
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Re: I could use some encouragement.

Hugs mama. You do have to do what's best for your family, whatever that might be...and at the same time, you need to be at peace with whatever you decide.

I couldn't nurse DS1 either - I barely made droplets. I made about 1/3rd of DS2's needs, and he self-weaned just before his 3rd birthday. We co-slept until about a month after he weaned. I didn't know what alone time was!!! Until he was >2.5, he nursed to go to sleep, and then nursed all night long. I cut out the during-the-night nursies because I really wanted to get my period back...but he'd still wake up if I wasn't right next to him.

And he too liked to play with the "non-active" boob. Annoying, yes. I guess I just kept moving his hands away - although not that long ago, it feels like a distant memory now.

Again, you have to do what you have to do...but also know that this is such a short time in your LOs life that you'll never get back. If your heart really wants to let him self-wean, then go with it and let that happen.

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Ever since I couldn't nurse ds1 I was determined to nurse ds2 as long as he wanted. He is 18 months.We co sleep, nurse on demand etc. well honestly I'm getting so frustrated and ready to be done. He doesn't sleep. At all. He won't sleep longer than an hour (usually more like 20-30 minuets) without me. This includes nap time. I NEVER get time with dh. We get alone time MAYBE twice a month. We live in the middle of nowhere and don't know anyone yet. Getting a sitter isn't an option.

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On top of this he is RUDE! Pulling my shirt down whenever he pleases. And THEN he insists in pulling the opposite side down while he's nursing on the first side! He has always tried to play with the opposite sides nipple which I have NEVER allowed but lately he throws a major tantrum every time I stop him! This can go on for ages. I've tried lovies for him to use while he nurses, necklaces you name it. He wants to play with my boobs.

He's on and off it 20 times a day just playing. Not for comfort, not for food, just like "yup! Checkin to see if it was still there!"

I'm so ready to just quit, but I don't want to regret it later on.
I hear ya! DS is 13 months old and will not go to sleep without me. His normal bed time is 7:30 and DHs is 2 AM!!! Needless to say I do not see my DH unless children are awake. He nurses like a newborn and gets pissed off if I do not have a boob out. He rips at my shirt when I put them away. He also tries to play with my other nipple. Oh hellllllll nooooooooooooooo! It drives me crazy.
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Re: I could use some encouragement.

My daughter did the playing with the other nipple thing; I refused to let that happen with my son. Any time he tries I cover up completely.

You have to do what's best for you. That is a little intense. My son is the same age, and although he still nurses quite a bit, I don't let him snack like that. Can you carry him on your back? Also, I nurse him to sleep at night, then lay him down, then hubby and I have some time to ourselves before he wakes up an realizes that I'm not there, then he does in the bed with us. Is it possible that something like that would work?
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Re: I could use some encouragement.

You are doing such a good job sticking with it this long! I'm still not sure how long we'll BF, but I think like another poster said you have to be at peace with your decision... so I say whichever way you feel the most at peace with.
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Nursing manners. I don't allow craziness around breastfeeding, not even from babies. We have specific rules that we follow. My oldest weaned at 38 mo. DD2 and DD3 are still nursing. Just because you have rules, doesn't mean you can't have a full breastfeeding relationship.
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