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Old 05-30-2013, 06:48 PM   #1
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I really want to send our Born at Home birth announcement to the OB who refused to do my prenatal care and told me I only had a 7% chance of VBAC. Too passive-aggressive?

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Old 05-30-2013, 06:52 PM   #2
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Nah- I considered sending a letter to the OB who told me that due to my single layer closure c-section he wouldn't allow me to VBAC and neither would any other OB- guess what? I've had 2 VBAC's (without incident) since!
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Old 05-30-2013, 06:54 PM   #3
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I would do it but most likely they won't even remember who you are so it would just waste an announcement.
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Old 05-30-2013, 07:48 PM   #4
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I wouldn't send a birth announcement I would call and ask to talk to the Dr and tell them but I am just like that I signed myself out of 2 different Dr offices where they were insisting that I be put in an ambulance and transported an hour and a half to a teaching hospital because they refused to provide me care.
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Old 05-30-2013, 08:55 PM   #5
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Probably won't do anything to change the docs mind.
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Old 09-21-2013, 07:56 PM   #6
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If I'm successful, I think I will probably be sending my old OB office a letter.
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Old 09-21-2013, 08:07 PM   #7
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I understand the desire, but drs have to do what's in their best clinical judgement, because they are the ones responsible if anything goes wrong and they don't have any business doing something outside their professional comfort zone. Cant really fault them for that. It's fantastic that you were successful, but that OB didn't want to take the risk of unsuccessful. Maybe the knowledge that that OB wasn't the right fit for you and move on. I'm sure the OB would be happy for you having a successful birth, they may even be happy to hear from you, and wondering what had happened. I doubt it would encourage him/her to get more training and start doing more VBAC though.

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Old 09-21-2013, 08:28 PM   #8
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I would feel the same way as you, but honestly, it's not going to change anything, and you'll just look witchy. IF you wanted to honestly educate him, rather than just shove it in his face (which I'm totally cool with, lol), I'd send him a letter. Simply telling him your experience and stating while he obviously is on one side of the fence, he might learn to be a little more open to the other side.
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Old 10-07-2013, 08:06 PM   #9
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I thought about sending a letter too. Luckily the fates intervened and my husband ran into my old OB one month after my VBAC. She was in his office building for business and they looked at each other and were like, "How do I know you?" Then he introduced himself and she knew exactly who he was and asked how the birth went. He said she looked genuinely surprised that I had been successful, and she even remembered my due date (at my last appointment she didn't even remember if I was having a girl or a boy, so she must have looked more closely at my file after I left . . . if so, I give her credit for that).
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Old 10-07-2013, 08:08 PM   #10
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I doubt they would even acknowledge it.
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