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Old 01-10-2009, 07:43 PM   #71
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Old 01-10-2009, 07:49 PM   #72
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We put a gate across DD's room, but there are lights on in the hallway. I do not feel right closing the door while she is awake. If we are going to be upstairs, sometimes I close the door after she is asleep, but I open it before morning. We also have a video monitor, so I can see what she is doing.
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Old 01-19-2009, 10:57 PM   #73
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I couldn't bear to hear my DS cry like that or hold the door closed on him like that.

My DS had a lot of trouble transitioning to a toddler bed. Before he started trying to climb out of his crib he would settle down and fall asleep in his crib within 5 minutes.

Without the crib, he was disoriented and had trouble transitioning and falling asleep each night. We had to lay next to him on the floor for several months and then either my DH or I had to lay in the hall and keep him company when he was falling asleep. I think he had come to view it as a big slumber party every night. He would talk, sing and play there in his bed. Seriously, it got to be an hour to hour and half slumber party before he would finally crash.

So, he is 2 1/2 now and we just recently started leaving his him in his room alone to fall asleep and shutting the gate to his room. If he stands at the gate and cries we go back, put him back in bed, say goodnight and tuck him back in. 2 weeks later, he falls asleep without crying and is asleep within a few minutes once again. He is getting a proper night's sleep and we have time to ourselves now.

His bedroom door is at the top of the stairs, one footstep away from a nasty fall. So, we have an extra tall gate in his doorway. We have outlet covers, his ceiling light dimmed with dimmer switch and his dresser is strapped to the wall with a safety strap. I have seen what my DS is capable of when I turn my back, so I refuse to give him access to the whole house when I am sleeping.
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Old 01-19-2009, 11:18 PM   #74
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Re: Locking 18 mo old in room for bedtime?

that 1-2-3 Magic crap actually advocates parents locking their kids in their room when they can't listen or control themselves. (UGH!) One of my friends is CIO, no co sleep, no bf, etc etc.....and while she's a very very nice person adn I love her dearly......I don't agree with her parenting style at all. To the point where I will not talk kids with her, especially not those subjects. Her ds's have slept in their own room by themselves since birth, with the door shut and a baby gate up.
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Old 01-19-2009, 11:44 PM   #75
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Wow I really can't imagine, I have 3 boys, my youngest is 16mo and there is no way he would understand that, I think that's just cruel. There are so many other ways to do that and it would take the same time if not less as standing there holding a door closed while you listen to your child freak out that would much so much less traumatic. That's just horrible
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Old 01-19-2009, 11:46 PM   #76
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I agree with others that she did not transition her child the right way. It doesn't sound like the kid needs a lock on the door it sounds like she just didn't feel like buying another crib and moved her child to a bed too early. I made sure to transition my DD to her own room months before my DS was born (they are only 14 months apart) and I knew she was not ready for a toddler bed so I got another crib. It's not fair to the older kid to be transitioned like that when they're not ready because you're having another baby IMO. I understand some moms reasons for locking doors (like for safety purposes) but I don't agree with it for behavioral purposes like a 2 year old throwing a fit. My DD moved into a big girl bed when she was 2 but I knew she was ready for it and she never throws fits about going to bed and she stays there. I dunno, maybe I'm not understanding everyones views supporting this but I just don't agree with it and I think it's just mean.

And I should add that occasionally I will let my DS CIO for a minute or 2 in his crib because he still wants to play at 11 or 12 and I don't think it's a big deal because he goes right to sleep after whining for a minute but I feel that the topic at hand is a very EXTREME way of handling this. It's similar to leaving a baby to CIO for like an hour or 2. I can't stand to hear them cry for more than 5 minutes and I couldn't imagine just locking the door on them. :shrugs:
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We turned the knob around so the lock is on the outside. We don't lock the door at night, we have a monitor and bells on the door to let me know if the are up (we close the doors at night) I did have to start using the lock for temper tamtrums and time outs when I had my 3rd baby. A time out spot stopped working when they realized mom had a new baby and may not be able to escort them back to a time out spot if they got off the spot. They are only in there (their bedroom) for 2-3 min or until they can calm themselves. If they are having a tantrom they need to be placed in a safe place for them and everyone else. (again moms hands might be full or I would normally do a bear hug until calm). Nothing like the OP, but none the less, I do lock my kids (the 4 and 2 yr old, mainly the 4) in their room at times.
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Old 01-20-2009, 09:36 AM   #78
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The thing that bothered me is not that she's locking the door for safety, I totally understand that! It's that she's locking her in there to make her go to bed, because she refuses to sleep in her new toddler bed. It's the tactic used to make her go to bed rather than locking it that I have an issue with. To me that's literally focing her to be alone and go to bed out of sheer desperation, because she knows that no matter how long she cries, mommy and daddy are just going to hold the door shut. She told me the door locks from the inside so she and her Dh take turns holding it shut until she goes to bed.
Agreed. The toddler probably feels replaced by a newborn, and banished to a strange bed she doesn't want, where her parents are forcing her to be alone in a dark room. Poor kid.

I'm learning a lot from this thread. Before reading all the posts, I'd have said that it's never ok to lock your kid in their room. I can see now that there is another perspective. It's never been an issue at our house....I nurse my 2.5 yo to sleep in her toddler bed, and I leave the door open a crack so she can come join us in our bed in the wee hours of the morning. She has no desire to wander; if she wakes up, she just wants mommy. I would be very loathe to lock my kid in but maybe i'd feel differently if she was wandering the house late at night and getting into things.
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18 months is just too young for that. At that age a child doesn't understand, and I really think that's going to have some negative effects on her feelings toward the baby She sees the baby come along, HER bed get taken away all of a sudden, and mommy locking her in a dark room alone and upset. Its easy to start expecting more from a young child than you should when you have another baby. I still catch myself doing it. It sounds like frustration and not knowing what else to do... so maybe she just needs a little help?

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Old 01-20-2009, 05:11 PM   #80
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If you look at fire safety it is recommended that you keep bedroom doors closed at night anyway.
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