Diaper Swappers

boy-oh-boy · 07-23-2010, 09:59 PM

DSS1 was removed from his home yesterday for a repeated sexual acting-out towards his little sister. He's going to be living with his gma and being allowed no contact with other kids. BM is upset and feeling like a failure as a parent, I'm bummed, DH acknowledges that of course DSS (12.5yo) is going to be curious and possibly trying things - but angry about it being towards the sister (not DH's child) and the sister's age as well (6).

He's going to be gone indefinitely. We can't see him unless we don't have our kids here, and BM can't have him at her house unless her other kids are gone. DH is being a butt and insisting that he can take DSS on a float trip with our side of the family next week (with all of the cousins and some extra kids).

DH is the kind of guy who thinks he is above any rules and can do whatever the something he wants. It's infuriating.

DSS2 comes home from his summer visitation with HIS other family next Friday. He's fairly close to DSS1, and it is going to be tough having to tell him that he won't be able to see DSS1 for a looooong time.

klilley · 07-23-2010, 10:07 PM

mama, it will all work out....

Winter · 07-23-2010, 10:07 PM

Sorry to hear this!
Isn't there some kind of transitional help that can be sought for a supervised visitation? I mean, think of the phsycolocical ramifications that could happen if your DSS1 is alienated for his natural (albeit innappropriate with his sister) curiosity!

boy-oh-boy · 07-23-2010, 10:14 PM

I don't know. His mom homeschools him, so she's getting to taker her younger ones to school, then pick him up to do his schooling, then take him back before picking up the others. At least this way she will still get time with him. And she will get to be with him at her mom's house, but he can't be around the younger kids. His other option was juvie, which neither BM nor DH felt would be a good choice. The biggest problem is that it is a repeated offense amidst still going to his therapy sessions. I don't feel like he is being alienated so much as severely restricted.

Winter · 07-23-2010, 10:22 PM

Well, that's good that he can still be with his mom for school. Sad that he is going to miss out on alot of memories with his sister. How do you feel about your husband wanting to overstep his son's limitations with get togethers?

boy-oh-boy · 07-24-2010, 08:05 PM

He ended up talking to BM about it and she emphasized that she did not want him to go on the trip. And he doesn't fight with the BMs over anything like he would with me. So, he won't be going.

Jei · 07-25-2010, 12:33 AM

I'm glad things went the right way. I will pray for your family.

07-23-2010, 09:59 PM	#1
boy-oh-boy Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: NE OK Posts: 2,770 Ratings: 77 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Bummed DSS1 was removed from his home yesterday for a repeated sexual acting-out towards his little sister. He's going to be living with his gma and being allowed no contact with other kids. BM is upset and feeling like a failure as a parent, I'm bummed, DH acknowledges that of course DSS (12.5yo) is going to be curious and possibly trying things - but angry about it being towards the sister (not DH's child) and the sister's age as well (6). He's going to be gone indefinitely. We can't see him unless we don't have our kids here, and BM can't have him at her house unless her other kids are gone. DH is being a butt and insisting that he can take DSS on a float trip with our side of the family next week (with all of the cousins and some extra kids). DH is the kind of guy who thinks he is above any rules and can do whatever the something he wants. It's infuriating. DSS2 comes home from his summer visitation with HIS other family next Friday. He's fairly close to DSS1, and it is going to be tough having to tell him that he won't be able to see DSS1 for a looooong time. __________________ 6 boys!

07-23-2010, 10:07 PM	#2
klilley Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Las Vegas, NV Posts: 1,652 Ratings: 73 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Bummed mama, it will all work out.... __________________ wife to my lover and best friend; City girl, in the closet semi-crunchy, First time mama to our PRECIOUS homebirthed baby girl born 03/10. EDD 10/28/11 We babywear, co-sleep, , EC'ng, ...!! Breastmilk Donor My ISO http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/....php?t=1232959

07-23-2010, 10:07 PM	#3
Winter Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Where the wild things are... Posts: 2,498 Ratings: 120 Feedback: 100%	Re: Bummed Sorry to hear this! Isn't there some kind of transitional help that can be sought for a supervised visitation? I mean, think of the phsycolocical ramifications that could happen if your DSS1 is alienated for his natural (albeit innappropriate with his sister) curiosity! __________________ Standing behind the cloak of invisibility. Last edited by Winter; 07-23-2010 at 10:10 PM.

07-23-2010, 10:14 PM	#4
boy-oh-boy Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: NE OK Posts: 2,770 Ratings: 77 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Bummed I don't know. His mom homeschools him, so she's getting to taker her younger ones to school, then pick him up to do his schooling, then take him back before picking up the others. At least this way she will still get time with him. And she will get to be with him at her mom's house, but he can't be around the younger kids. His other option was juvie, which neither BM nor DH felt would be a good choice. The biggest problem is that it is a repeated offense amidst still going to his therapy sessions. I don't feel like he is being alienated so much as severely restricted. __________________ 6 boys!

07-23-2010, 10:22 PM	#5
Winter Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Where the wild things are... Posts: 2,498 Ratings: 120 Feedback: 100%	Re: Bummed Well, that's good that he can still be with his mom for school. Sad that he is going to miss out on alot of memories with his sister. How do you feel about your husband wanting to overstep his son's limitations with get togethers? __________________ Standing behind the cloak of invisibility.