Diaper Swappers

Kätzchen · 06-06-2011, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by KristieW

Can you even say that no, they DON'T take baby to the nursery, they take her to the room where you'll be staying after you're done in recovery (just like they would if you weren't in recovery), and if the nurses want to do something, then they can do it with dad in the regular PP room? What, do they not trust dads to be alone with their newbies?

I like both of your suggestions.

I'm going to give the hospital another call tomorrow to discuss these options.

KristieW · 06-06-2011, 05:36 PM

Thank you!

Don't "discuss" the "baby doesn't go ANYWHERE without a parent" thing though. That's your RIGHT. Despite our birth plan, DD ended up spending a few days in the NICU due to a traumatic birth, and EVERY STINKIN' TIME we left they gave her formula, even when I'd just finished BFing on their stupid "you can have 15 minutes but any more will be too traumatic for her so you have to LEAVE" clock. They'd call 10 minutes after I left and say, oh, we just topped her off with some formula because she was still hungry (umm, only 15 minutes of BFing and she was still hungry? Ya think?) Knowing what I know now, I'd totally tell them what to do with their clock, but back then I was too overwhelmed and underinformed.

Kätzchen · 06-06-2011, 06:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KristieW

Thank you!

Don't "discuss" the "baby doesn't go ANYWHERE without a parent" thing though. That's your RIGHT. Despite our birth plan, DD ended up spending a few days in the NICU due to a traumatic birth, and EVERY STINKIN' TIME we left they gave her formula, even when I'd just finished BFing on their stupid "you can have 15 minutes but any more will be too traumatic for her so you have to LEAVE" clock. They'd call 10 minutes after I left and say, oh, we just topped her off with some formula because she was still hungry (umm, only 15 minutes of BFing and she was still hungry? Ya think?) Knowing what I know now, I'd totally tell them what to do with their clock, but back then I was too overwhelmed and underinformed.

I would be LIVID. I had a very special needs baby/toddler with feeding issues, maybe that's why I am so nervous

I am very shy and soft spoken, but I would pity the nurse who'd try and sneak formula to my baby. Now, if I can only channel that inner-outspokenness to everyday events :hides:

juliabell · 06-06-2011, 07:47 PM

This sounds like a nightmare. I agree with the "don't discuss" advice. THIS IS YOUR CHILD. You have every right to say no to what they want and do. I can't believe they would tell you that you couldn't be with your baby. I really hope that everything goes well with your homebirth and that you don't even have to worry about some of this stuff.

I'm also a shy and soft-spoken person. But I found that when it came to things with our baby I got really opinionated and obnoxious. When it comes to me, I'm open to more compromise. But don't EVEN try anything when it comes to my child! Mama bear's claws will come out! I found an amazing pediatrician who does delayed vax and all that other good stuff and I called when I was pregnant to make sure I could see her and they said I could. Then when I called after our little boy was born to make his first appt., they said she wasn't taking new patients. The poor woman who told me that got an earful, I was put on hold, and when she came back I got my appts! Sometimes it helps to be a brat

cinderella08 · 06-06-2011, 10:43 PM

I agree with the posters 100% who are saying not to discuss, but to simply state the way things will go.

Don't "request", or "ask" that your baby not be taken away for an exam or the hearing test. If you want your baby with you at all times, simply say, "I'm not comfortable with the baby going anywhere without me, if you need to do something, please do it here. If you can not do it in my presence, then it will not be done".

You certainly do not have to be mean or aggressive, but be bold and firm - oftentimes - it is the only way your voice will be heard.

Good luck mama

KristieW · 06-07-2011, 12:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Kätzchen

I would be LIVID. I had a very special needs baby/toddler with feeding issues, maybe that's why I am so nervous

I am very shy and soft spoken, but I would pity the nurse who'd try and sneak formula to my baby. Now, if I can only channel that inner-outspokenness to everyday events :hides:

I was LIVID... but so overwhelmed by all the unexpected events that I didn't even know where to start, so I'd end up just sobbing until they'd "allow" me to go back for the next SCHEDULED

feeding. Just thinking about it now makes my blood pressure rise!

I'm going in COMPLETELY loaded for bear with this next one... we're planning on a birth center, but if something should go wrong and we end up back at the hospital, we KNOW our rights.

songbird516 · 06-07-2011, 09:15 AM

We did not pick a pediatrician for our daughter, but a family practice that we all go to. I didn't see any reason to have a pediatrician, unless there was a problem.

As for the ped at the hospital, I didn't know you could pick that person? We hadn't picked a doctor at that point, so they just looked at her, said she was perfect, and that was it.

I also have only taken her to the doctor 2 or three times since her newborn checkup in the hospital, mainly to get her weight checked. Since we don't vaccinate, there's not much of a point unless she gets sick, which she hasn't since she was born.

Hillargh · 06-07-2011, 07:25 PM

Make sure you ask for any waivers you need to sign. Here, you have to have already signed a waiver declining vit k and eye drops BEFORE you give birth. And PKU is mandated here by law. So if you request to sign a waiver, you are reported to CPS and have to follow up with them when you have the procedure done. Beyond what is mandated by law, you have the right to refuse any treatments for your child. Make sure you have anything you need signed by your ped in place, and I would even go so far as to ask them to attach a copy of them to the blanket consent forms they have you sign upon admission (or when pre-registering).

MyPerfectLife · 06-07-2011, 07:46 PM

I had a repeat c-section but this one was much different than my last now that I know my rights. Baby stayed on my chest after delivery for the remainder of the surgery. I was able to BF while they finished sewing me up! I was in recovery for only 20 minutes while hub took baby back to our room and did skin to skin. Then, I was wheeled back to our room and baby was with me the rest of the time! They didn't take him for ANYTHING except the hearing test; which my husband went along for. Good luck mama!

niadara · 06-07-2011, 09:33 PM

In FL, you can refuse all those newborn things (eye ointment, vaccines, vitamin K shot). Even if you have a RCS, have your husband be with your baby at all times. They cannot refuse your diapers, they cannot refuse having you or your spouse present for the hearing screening (which you can refuse). The PKU is "mandated" but you can opt out and do it with your midwife or if at the hospital do it at two days (we did it at 8 days with our midwives, as some diseases do not manifest until after the milk comes in and is digested). Your husband can stop them from giving baby formula. The key is that one of you ALWAYS has to be with baby. They cannot refuse rooming in.

06-06-2011, 05:36 PM	#12
KristieW Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Pacific Northwest Posts: 1,997 Ratings: 50 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Pediatrician Questions: Need some advice! Thank you! Don't "discuss" the "baby doesn't go ANYWHERE without a parent" thing though. That's your RIGHT. Despite our birth plan, DD ended up spending a few days in the NICU due to a traumatic birth, and EVERY STINKIN' TIME we left they gave her formula, even when I'd just finished BFing on their stupid "you can have 15 minutes but any more will be too traumatic for her so you have to LEAVE" clock. They'd call 10 minutes after I left and say, oh, we just topped her off with some formula because she was still hungry (umm, only 15 minutes of BFing and she was still hungry? Ya think?) Knowing what I know now, I'd totally tell them what to do with their clock, but back then I was too overwhelmed and underinformed. __________________ Married to my best friend since 10/04, Mommy to DD1 since 10/08 and DD2 6/11 Avi: REALLY old pic of my girlies <3

06-06-2011, 07:47 PM	#14
juliabell Registered Users Join Date: May 2010 Location: Seattle area Posts: 575 Ratings: 16 Feedback: 100%	Re: Pediatrician Questions: Need some advice! This sounds like a nightmare. I agree with the "don't discuss" advice. THIS IS YOUR CHILD. You have every right to say no to what they want and do. I can't believe they would tell you that you couldn't be with your baby. I really hope that everything goes well with your homebirth and that you don't even have to worry about some of this stuff. I'm also a shy and soft-spoken person. But I found that when it came to things with our baby I got really opinionated and obnoxious. When it comes to me, I'm open to more compromise. But don't EVEN try anything when it comes to my child! Mama bear's claws will come out! I found an amazing pediatrician who does delayed vax and all that other good stuff and I called when I was pregnant to make sure I could see her and they said I could. Then when I called after our little boy was born to make his first appt., they said she wasn't taking new patients. The poor woman who told me that got an earful, I was put on hold, and when she came back I got my appts! Sometimes it helps to be a brat __________________ Julia. Wife to B. Mama to M (May 2011.) CD, BF, BW, AP, UU, Waldorf, minimalist.

06-06-2011, 10:43 PM	#15
cinderella08 Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: South Carolina Posts: 12,842 Ratings: 343 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Pediatrician Questions: Need some advice! I agree with the posters 100% who are saying not to discuss, but to simply state the way things will go. Don't "request", or "ask" that your baby not be taken away for an exam or the hearing test. If you want your baby with you at all times, simply say, "I'm not comfortable with the baby going anywhere without me, if you need to do something, please do it here. If you can not do it in my presence, then it will not be done". You certainly do not have to be mean or aggressive, but be bold and firm - oftentimes - it is the only way your voice will be heard. Good luck mama __________________ Hi, I'm Amber. Wife to an amazing man, mama to Ava {12.20.08} and Levi {8.19.10}. Expecting Aspen Elyse in July *48121620242832*36 40*

06-07-2011, 09:15 AM	#17
songbird516 Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Virginia Posts: 6,151 Ratings: 36 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Pediatrician Questions: Need some advice! We did not pick a pediatrician for our daughter, but a family practice that we all go to. I didn't see any reason to have a pediatrician, unless there was a problem. As for the ped at the hospital, I didn't know you could pick that person? We hadn't picked a doctor at that point, so they just looked at her, said she was perfect, and that was it. I also have only taken her to the doctor 2 or three times since her newborn checkup in the hospital, mainly to get her weight checked. Since we don't vaccinate, there's not much of a point unless she gets sick, which she hasn't since she was born. __________________ Sara- mommy to Claire (01/10) and Micah (3/12) Birth doula and life-long student of Everything! Need a doula in the central VA area? Let's talk! www.beyondbirthsupport.com Gorgeous custom baby carriers- www.batikbabyslings.weebly.com

06-07-2011, 07:25 PM	#18
Hillargh Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Temple, GA Posts: 5,442 Ratings: 14 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Pediatrician Questions: Need some advice! Make sure you ask for any waivers you need to sign. Here, you have to have already signed a waiver declining vit k and eye drops BEFORE you give birth. And PKU is mandated here by law. So if you request to sign a waiver, you are reported to CPS and have to follow up with them when you have the procedure done. Beyond what is mandated by law, you have the right to refuse any treatments for your child. Make sure you have anything you need signed by your ped in place, and I would even go so far as to ask them to attach a copy of them to the blanket consent forms they have you sign upon admission (or when pre-registering). __________________ Proud mama of William Alexander (6-12-11) and Benjamin Atticus (9-8-12) I now sell Thirty-One. Check it out here!