Nov Chat - Aug '11 babies

[katengrace]

I've always loved Harper...such a cute name for a little girl!

[estradaamyl]

I really like Harper Lee.

[katengrace]

Oh and I like Lee for a middle name...it is mine as well.

[dagmomma]

Oh thank you everyone. I have not told my family the name yet. I am holding off. My mom was negative about the name Peyton but now she loves it. I think it will be the same with Harper. LOL my mom is not that bad I know it sounds like she is. She just gets a little weird about things sometimes. Then she will be like OH I heard the name at such a place and it sounded really nice. lol

[katengrace]

I know how you feel, my family wasn't fond of Brynn's name either. Honestly I got my first compliment ever on the name the other day at the peditrician's office.

[mommabritt]

Originally Posted by dagmomma Oh thank you everyone. I have not told my family the name yet. I am holding off. My mom was negative about the name Peyton but now she loves it. I think it will be the same with Harper. LOL my mom is not that bad I know it sounds like she is. She just gets a little weird about things sometimes. Then she will be like OH I heard the name at such a place and it sounded really nice. lol

I was afraid to tell our family the name Harper. Actually kept into myself for quite a while just not wanting to hear anything that anyone had to say. Once I needed to share it I went ahead and I was pleasantly surprised everyone loved it. Especially mil who is VERY outwardly opinionated. Maybe I'll go the same for you.

Originally Posted by katengrace I know how you feel, my family wasn't fond of Brynn's name either. Honestly I got my first compliment ever on the name the other day at the peditrician's office.

Now this shocks me. I absolutely love the name Brynn! Dominic's best friend at school is named the same, spelled Brynne. I can't imagine someone not liking it.

[mommabritt]

Morning ladies! It's been so quiet here lately. I'm about to vent so beware....

We are reallllly struggling with Dominic more than ever. His tantrums and outbursts are becoming extreme again, his words are so hurtful sometimes . It literally takes all of my energy and I have nothing left for the other kids. I told Dh that I feel sorry for them that they behave and still have no positive time with me as DS is sucking the life out of me every minute. It is so trying to stay patient and not yell back and I fail more often than not, as embarrassing as that is to say. His constant emotional swings are crazy. He really seems to go through phases, and I am ready for this one to go. I want my funny, silly, eager to please boy back. Right now he seems to be on a mission to be defiant. We don't have a therapist and need one, but where we need to go for that is an hour away. Gas to drive there each week, twice, isn't a possibility.

I guess I don't know the point of this. Just sending it out into DSland to get it out. I'm sorry for the Sunday morning rambling. Guess I need to make some breakfast and start the shower shuffle for the munchkins. Church today. I need it.

I hope you all have a great day!!

[Lifeisjoy]

oh so sorry you are struggling with him Britt. Now how old is he? has he been 'labeled' anything by your doctor yet?

Was 70 degrees here yesterday and we went to the annual chirstmas parade here. was so nice and kids loved the candy and floats.

[mommabritt]

Official diagnosis is PDD-NOS, odd, 'mild autism spectrum disorder'. He is so high functioning that many just think he's ornery and defiant. We're struggling in school right now with stim behaviors that his teacher thinks are just him making poor choices (because she's an expert on children on the spectrum since she has a son with autism :insert sarcasm here: ) At home he just blows his steam to release stress. He struggles to control his anger and frequently loses control and once he's in the zone there is no rationalizing until he is calm, which is something only he can choose to be.

Dh and I have always been against medicating him but I have to be honest with myself. There is a point in which his emotional roller coaster becomes so destructive and disruptive to the family unit that the other children suffer. I am struggling as a parent to have balance there. We need a therapist who will work individually with him and then with Chris and I as his parents. We tried one lady who was very nice and had wonderful recommendations but she wanted us to go through this Parent and Child Relationship Training and it was crazy. The methods we were told to use were so unnatural to us and quite frankly impossible with other children at home. We need real life solutions. Not a fantasy home with bubble wrap around it.

ETA ... He is our 7 year old.

[dagmomma]

So sorry Britt. Sorry if you have done this already just throwing it out there bc you said you do not want to medicate--Have you tried holisitic approaches? My 2 nephews are on the spectrum and they go to a specialist in Rhinebeck, NY. They are on a vitamin regimen and it is like night and day. They are younger then you lo though I think so I do not know if that comes into play.

Don't feel guilty about how you feel though. I struggle with my guy too and it is crazy bc there will be weeks were he is this amazing child and then there are weeks in a row that he is an emotional train wreck. Just hugs again and know you can vent anytime!!!!

AFM--We went car shopping bc my car is on it last leg and we neeed a bigger car for baby. But the longer I look the more I struggle and the more stressful it gets. We saw one with "all the bells and whistles" and I guess I was suppose to be excited but I was just thinking "what the heck am I going to do with all these buttons?" and it just stressed me out more!

Then I got sick after we got home--puke. And I am feeling so achy today! I was hoping and still hoping it is just m/s but dh got sick thursday night so I am thinking it is a bug. I hope everyone else does not get it!