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1) How soon before I can hold my baby?

I got to see both while in the o/r but didn't get to hold them until I was out of recovery which was an hour.

2) How does the csxn affect breastfeeding? How soon can I breastfeed? I've dealt with oversupply with my other two, but I've heard planned csxns often struggle with supply?

I was able to bf as soon as I was out of recovery. I feel like my milk doesn't really come in until day 3/4 in general but I still nurse on demand and both kids did have a bit of formula in the hospital. But that was my choice not the nurses.

3)With my vaginal births I never took anything other than motrin...obviously I'll likely be needing something stronger this time around. How has this affected your LOs when breastfeeding?

I didn't notice any adverse reactions to pain meds in the babies. I think I got demerol on day 1 and then an AMAZING suppository day 2/3.

4)How soon before usually before you're in a postpartum room typically?

I spent an hour in recovery both times and then went right to my room.

5)I desperately want to be able to see my other 2 girls that afternoon/evening. They are 4 and DD2 will be 21 months when I have this LO...I don't want to traumatize them either...will it be appropriate for them to visit?

Absolutely! Just make sure they know to be careful around you. You will likely have an IV still and a cath so you might not want them climbing all over the bed.
6)I'm assuming I'll need someone with me the first night especially if I want to keep baby with me, but I prefer DH to go home with the others kiddos to try and keep things as normal as possible. Will I need someone after the first night with minimal help from the nurses or would I even be able to keep baby with me?

The first night of both c-sections I was allowed to have the baby sleep in the nursery with the nurses. After that they roomed in with me. I was in a lot of pain and felt really dopey and wanted to sleep lol.
7)How awful is it going home...especially with older kiddos (DD1 is 4 and fairly independent, but super active...and sassy. DD2 again will be 21 mos., and she's super attached to me now). I've told DH that he needs to take at least 2 weeks off of work. Will that be enough? Getting others to help is kind of a pain b/c my MIL is super sweet, but drives me nuts so she's only helpful in small doses, my mom usually watches my sister's kids (and not really well) so I end up with 4 kids tearing my house apart instead of just my own 2, and most of my close friends also have kids so I really don't want to burden them...plus again some of them it ends up being more like a circus than any help with the addition of their kids.

I think 2 wks will be plenty, especially if you rest during them! I did a lot more resting with my second c-section and couldn't believe the difference it made in recovery time.

Lastly, what kind of things will I need/make thigns easier in the hospital and at home. Can anyone reccomend an abdominal binder? If you've used one did it seem to help?

I found a recliner was amazing to sleep in for a couple of weeks. It is really hard to get up off of your back. Also if you have two floors make sure you have a full set up on each so you don't have to be doing stairs all day. We had a bassinet, and diapers etc. in the living room and upstairs in the babys room.

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Old 11-13-2012, 09:45 AM   #12
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So I am due with my 3rd LO in February. Due to some complications with DD2 (brain hemmorhage which led to seizures/stroke) my husband and I were worked up for bleeding issues/disorders etc. Turns out that while they do not believe that it caused my daugther hemmorhage, we are at risk for having a baby that has neonatal alloimmune thrombocytopenia. Because of this our doctor feels that a C-section this time around is best. I'm not crazy about the idea, but am accepting of the fact that it truly is best for baby. I'm still freaking out about it though, and have a TON of questions.
1) How soon before I can hold my baby?
2) How does the csxn affect breastfeeding? How soon can I breastfeed? I've dealt with oversupply with my other two, but I've heard planned csxns often struggle with supply?
3)With my vaginal births I never took anything other than motrin...obviously I'll likely be needing something stronger this time around. How has this affected your LOs when breastfeeding?
4)How soon before usually before you're in a postpartum room typically?
5)I desperately want to be able to see my other 2 girls that afternoon/evening. They are 4 and DD2 will be 21 months when I have this LO...I don't want to traumatize them either...will it be appropriate for them to visit?
6)I'm assuming I'll need someone with me the first night especially if I want to keep baby with me, but I prefer DH to go home with the others kiddos to try and keep things as normal as possible. Will I need someone after the first night with minimal help from the nurses or would I even be able to keep baby with me?
7)How awful is it going home...especially with older kiddos (DD1 is 4 and fairly independent, but super active...and sassy. DD2 again will be 21 mos., and she's super attached to me now). I've told DH that he needs to take at least 2 weeks off of work. Will that be enough? Getting others to help is kind of a pain b/c my MIL is super sweet, but drives me nuts so she's only helpful in small doses, my mom usually watches my sister's kids (and not really well) so I end up with 4 kids tearing my house apart instead of just my own 2, and most of my close friends also have kids so I really don't want to burden them...plus again some of them it ends up being more like a circus than any help with the addition of their kids.

Lastly, what kind of things will I need/make thigns easier in the hospital and at home. Can anyone reccomend an abdominal binder? If you've used one did it seem to help?

Ughh thinking about this is giving me anxiety.
I'm now expecting my 5th (which will be my 5th C/S) so I'll share what I've learned along the way :
1) As soon as the baby is born you can ask to hold he/she right away - just keep asking and reminding everyone you want to. They will need to take the baby to wrap he/she up before long b/c it is so cold in the ER but they can pull the baby's warmer so that you can see what's going on and as soon as the baby's wrapped up they should let you hold he/she again - keep asking them to and remind them you want to (or have DH do so). Tell the nurse who will be with you in the OR too - she will stay with you from before the C/S, through the C/S, and then after the C/S - she is a good advocate for you.
2) 4 C/S and I've BF each child as long as I've wanted without any issues - they should let you try to BF in the recovery area/room - ask them to bring the baby to you if they don't offer - get DH to ask - get your nurse to ask if need be. You can BF in the recovery room - usually an hour or so after delivery if not before that. I have had 4 C/S (3 planned) and never had a supply issue.
3)You NEED the pain meds - take them - take them like they direct. This will help you get better sooner...help you get up and walking sooner and help you A LOT when you get home (keep taking them at home)...they won't affect the baby much - if anything the baby might be a little sleepy but they are at that age anyway so I've never been sure if they notice the meds at all in the baby.
4)Right after recovery - as soon as you can lift your bottom off of the bed without assistance - generally around 6 hours or so after your C/S is complete...enjoy recovery they can give you morphine there - ask them to give you a final dose before you leave - it's much harder to get it outside of the recovery area and you'll need it when you have to start moving your self to the regular hospital bed and when all of your feeling begins to return.
5)It would probably be appropriate for them to visit shortly. Depending on the time of your C/S - if it's like 7AM a short visit would probably be good for all of you - but a SHORT visit...you are going to be tired and in pain and if they stay to long they'll want to climb all over you if they are like my kids .
6)You don't HAVE to have someone with you. The nurses are on call all the time. They will let you keep the baby with you as much as you want to (at almost any hospital now days)...it would be easier if you had someone with you or if you send the baby to the nursery and simply ask them to bring the baby to you when the baby is hungry...you need rest and you won't be able to change a diaper, get the baby out of the bassinet or anything like that - plus you'll be TIRED!
7)Going home is an adjustment - let things go and don't stress about the normal stuff like laundry and cleaning. If people want to help ask them to bring you dinners you can freeze and re-heat, come alone and do laundry, or vacuum or mop or take your kids to the park or something to give you a break. You will need to ask your dr. about driving - when they will let you drive again - based on meds and such. You should ask how long they will put you on pain meds. You need someone with you or at least with your kids while you are on pain meds - you are not yourself then and you will sleep more b/c your body needs it. Once you are off pain meds you will probably be ok by yourself but if your 21 month old NEEDs to be picked up this will be an issue since you shouldn't pick her up for a while (ask you dr. exactly how long - could be as much as 6 weeks)...move her to a toddler bed before the baby is born so she can climb in and out...she'll get move used to not being picked up as you are towards the end of the pregnancy anyway (you'll be big and she'll be heavy ). If you have family and friends that can help and want to help ask them to take the kids somewhere and give you a break so their kids are wearing you out too...or ask them to come alone and help with household stuff so you don't have to do it.

I hope that helps - the 2nd C/S is generally easier than the first so know that ahead of time. GL and feel free to PM me if you think of anything else you want to ask .
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Oh, and what to take to the hospital:
Nursing pads
Nursing bra/tank
Soft and warm socks
Robe (that covers you well)
House shoes that aren't slippery
Lansinosh Cream
Lip Balm
Lotion
Toilteries for your showers
Hair items (brush, ties, etc.)
Knitting, books, something to keep you busy if you get bored easily
Camera
Cell Phone with phone #'s to call/email
Music/Laptop to help you sleep in a noisy hospital
Change for hubby to grab a drink or snack at the vending machines (cafeteria might be closed)
Change of clothes for hubby just in case
NOT bikini style underwear for you to wear home - they will rub in all the wrong places. Soft stretchy pants or a dress to wear home
Baby clothes, etc.
Carseat (obviously)
Sometimes we've done baby gifts from the baby to the other kids and given them to the other kids in the hospital
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And I agree with PP - recliner is your friend! I slept and pretty much only sat in one for a few weeks - they are easy to get in and out of .

I have never used and abdominal binder...don't really know what they are but sounds painful...
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First off.... I'm sorry that you're having to worry about this Mama! I have had 2 c-sections (1 failed induction/failure to progress post dates, 1 went into labour on my own and failed to progress with some scary pains along my previous incision ~ this one was 3 months ago... so still fresh). I will hopefully be able to shed some light based on MY experiences.


1) How soon before I can hold my baby? Baby comes out in the OR and typically goes to the nursery with DH or whomever is your birth partner while you are closed up/cleaned up. You go to the recovery area for about an hour or so. They just typically wait until you stop shaking as a result of the anesthetic wearing off, and when you feel your extremities again. You can ask your OB/hospital to have DH and baby stay with you. Some places allow it, some don't. It also depends on what other surgeries are happening as sometimes patients (not neccessarily you) are combative or require lots of attention post surgery and adding baby on top of that isn't the easiest for the recovery nurses

2) How does the csxn affect breastfeeding? How soon can I breastfeed? I've dealt with oversupply with my other two, but I've heard planned csxns often struggle with supply? I also have an oversupply and have had c-sections with both births. However, I was induced/went into labour on my own. If you are concerned about this, address it with your OB. Perhaps they can induce you to prepare your body for labour/breastfeeding and still do a c-section. Alternatively perhaps you could wait for labour to start on its own and do a c-section.

3)With my vaginal births I never took anything other than motrin...obviously I'll likely be needing something stronger this time around. How has this affected your LOs when breastfeeding? I had some sort of suppository inserted for the first day and a half while in hospital (no effect). Then took tylenol 3's until going home where I switched to Tylenol/Ibuprofen alternating. Also with no effect. Baby can be a little sleepier than usual.

4)How soon before usually before you're in a postpartum room typically? About an hour to an hour and a half depending on your recovery time


5)I desperately want to be able to see my other 2 girls that afternoon/evening. They are 4 and DD2 will be 21 months when I have this LO...I don't want to traumatize them either...will it be appropriate for them to visit? Absolutely! You will still have your IV/catheter in most likely so as long as they are prepared to see that, and know to be gentle on the bed/with your belly and the baby it shouldn't be an issue. Especially if you are scheduled for an early morning surgery.

6)I'm assuming I'll need someone with me the first night especially if I want to keep baby with me, but I prefer DH to go home with the others kiddos to try and keep things as normal as possible. Will I need someone after the first night with minimal help from the nurses or would I even be able to keep baby with me? You should be able to keep baby with you. I know I had one nurse that wanted to take her away to "let me rest" when DH was at home but my midwife put her in her place. You can insist that baby stay with you at all times and if you need help picking her up for feedings/snuggling that you will ring for the nurse to assist.

7)How awful is it going home...especially with older kiddos (DD1 is 4 and fairly independent, but super active...and sassy. DD2 again will be 21 mos., and she's super attached to me now). I've told DH that he needs to take at least 2 weeks off of work. Will that be enough? Getting others to help is kind of a pain b/c my MIL is super sweet, but drives me nuts so she's only helpful in small doses, my mom usually watches my sister's kids (and not really well) so I end up with 4 kids tearing my house apart instead of just my own 2, and most of my close friends also have kids so I really don't want to burden them...plus again some of them it ends up being more like a circus than any help with the addition of their kids. Your 4 year old should be fine since she has already gone through this. Your 21 month old may be a little jealous and a little less obedient. You will need help for sure. I had DH for a week and it wasn't enough. He "forgot" to ask for the next week and they expected him back right away. I hear ya on the MIL issue, DH's help should be enough and you will likely be feeling pretty much back to normal enough to be alone with the kiddos after the 2nd week.

Lastly, what kind of things will I need/make thigns easier in the hospital and at home. Can anyone reccomend an abdominal binder? If you've used one did it seem to help? I would definitely bring extra pillows for yourself, comfy clothes that are easy to nurse in. Maybe a comfy skirt so that you can get out of the god awful hospital gowns. You will have lots of inspections of your lady bits/incision so something accessible would be good. A good nursing pillow. Make arrangements for a pump at the hospital in case you do have issues BFing right away. For home, set up an area in the living room and your bedroom that will be stocked with everything you could possibly need in case nobody is around and you are having trouble moving around. People to bring food or have some freezer meals prepared or lots of takeout menus because you will not have the energy to cook (let alone the time to do it).

Good luck with the new baby! I'm sure you will do great


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1) How soon before I can hold my baby?
2) How does the csxn affect breastfeeding? How soon can I breastfeed? I've dealt with oversupply with my other two, but I've heard planned csxns often struggle with supply?
3)With my vaginal births I never took anything other than motrin...obviously I'll likely be needing something stronger this time around. How has this affected your LOs when breastfeeding?
4)How soon before usually before you're in a postpartum room typically?
5)I desperately want to be able to see my other 2 girls that afternoon/evening. They are 4 and DD2 will be 21 months when I have this LO...I don't want to traumatize them either...will it be appropriate for them to visit?
6)I'm assuming I'll need someone with me the first night especially if I want to keep baby with me, but I prefer DH to go home with the others kiddos to try and keep things as normal as possible. Will I need someone after the first night with minimal help from the nurses or would I even be able to keep baby with me?
7)How awful is it going home...especially with older kiddos (DD1 is 4 and fairly independent, but super active...and sassy. DD2 again will be 21 mos., and she's super attached to me now). I've told DH that he needs to take at least 2 weeks off of work. Will that be enough?
1) I never went to "recovery." I was wheeled straight from the OR back to the L & D room which is where we had put our stuff inititally, and where we spent the next four days (it was an emergency c due to HELLP). I had a very rough first 24 hrs because of the meds I was on due to HELLP, but the c-section went very well and DH and DS never even left the OR until I was wheeled out. We all went down the hallway back to the room together, DS was never out of my sight. I didn't have to request or demand this at all, this was just how it was done at the hospital. He was placed in my arms shortly after we returned back to the room, I don't know how well I was actually holding him and I'm sure I had help from DH. Sorry I can't remember enough (the meds) to be more specific. The meds were horrific to keep me from having a stroke.

Breastfeeding was VERY rough, and he ended up being FF, I don't know how much of that was inexperience on my part, lack of latch on his part, due to a c-section, etc. We tried like heck. I wish, in retrospect, I had at least gotten a pump and gone that route. But even the lactation consultants couldn't get good breastfeeding established. He lost too much weight, was fussy as heck because he was hungry, and finally bottles were introduced. We tried for weeks to BF but it just never worked for us. There were other issues going on as well though and it just didn't unfortunately happen. Luckily he was a VERY healthy baby and did well on formula.

I would not have had kids visit me, if I'd had other kids (DS was our first, now pregnant with the second) for the first 36 hrs or so. That is strictly because of the high meds I was on, again, due to HELLP. I have virtually no memory of the first 24 hrs after the c-section, I could NOT stay awake no matter how hard I tried, I was throwing up,etc. I was very sick and we were on the high risk foor. We did have visitors, but close friends and family only. If my DS saw me like that, I think he would be freaked out. So if that happens again, he won't be allowed to visit until I'm more normal.

My DH had two weeks off too. We have four big dogs, they are good dogs (don't jump, etc) but there's just no way I could have done everything by myself. I couldn't even hardly get out of bed from a laying position by myself the first week or two because of the incision. I was on good meds, I can't remember what, and it helped but it only dulls the pain so be realistic about recovery. Once I was up I was ok as long as I walked slowly.

If I have to have another c-section, we are planning to use an in home daycare on our street that we use on occasion. He'll go perhaps half a day, then come home for lunch, a nap, then a few hrs before bed. This way it helps with recovery. I simply can't imagine having a toddler (he'll be 2 and 3/4 yrs old when baby #2 is due) and a newborn while recovering from a c-section. He loves the daycare though, and we can afford it with a budget, so I know that may nto be an option for everyone. He'll have more fun there than here with tired parents and a newborn. Not all kids may be the same.
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This is really great info! Thank again mamas. I'm sure nothing will fully prepare me, but I'm feeling better. My greatest concern isn't necessarily the surgery itself, but the recovery with the kids. I do try to do too much typically, and don't "follow the rules. I know that I can't this time. I'm thinking I may have to rely more on my MIL after DH goes back to work than I would like to unfortunately. I just worry b/c it was after DD1 was born, that our relationship became somewhat strained. She's a super sweet person, just has different ideas. While she's very helpful, she sometimes does things "her way" even if I ask her not to. She babysits my girls while I sleep (I work nights), and that has worked out fairly well, but I think only b/c we're not actually together.
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