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Old 11-26-2012, 12:42 PM   #1
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Enlighten me on toddler feeding problems.....

I have a new daycare boy. He turned two in May. But, developmentally he's about 15 months. This is his first time in daycare. He's very happy, loves kids, and is always in a good mood. (this is his third week at three days a week)

His mom told me he was very small when we talked. But, I have (what I thought) was the smallest 18 month old on the planet. So, I figured "eh..he's probably not that small". (he weighs about 15 lbs..remember he's been two since early summer)

Anyway, his mom also said he needs two bottles of pediasure every day to try to gain weight. (prescribed by the doctor) But, Mom and the grandparents think he is fine, and eats food just fine.

However, he does not eat fine. He LOVES food. Like everything else, he's just a happy goofball and is thrilled with whatever I make, and he digs in with enthusiasm.

But, he chokes on almost every bite. No matter how I fix it. I make it small, he keeps stuffing it in his mouth, and gags. I make it big, he keeps stuffing it in his mouth and gags.

He chokes on all food, and all liquid. He can drink the pediasure, but he coughs and gags the whole time. This is obviously normal, because it doesn't upset anybody but me. They don't even raise an eyebrow.

He has a rattle in his chest. His Mom says he's always had it, the doctor assured her he will outgrow it.

I think something isn't quite right, but, he's also very far behind in everything. So, is he just going to get where everybody else is, but later? Or is there an actual feeding problem that I should address?

In my experience, the kids who are delayed in every single area get there just fine by kindergarten. But, the kids who are very far behind in certain areas tend to need some help. So, without the choking, I wouldn't worry because he's so darn happy. But, this concerns me.

(also he has absolutely no language at all...I am not sure if he can understand, or if he just can't speak... so far, he's never responded to anything I say...he just smiles)

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Old 11-26-2012, 12:53 PM   #2
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What we work on with DS (constantly choker/spitter)...

One bite at a time. I would literally only put one bite on his plate. He does much better with yogurt, sherbert, pudding, and smooth thick textures than real food.

Sounds to me like he is aspirating. It causes aspiration pneumonia, and does lung damage. There are therapists that deal with this! My bet is that the pediatrician has never actually heard him drink/eat. We had to feed our son in front of her to get her to believe us, and she sent us for a swallow study that showed that yes, he was actually aspirating.

If she thinks its fine, she probably wont' go for it, but an Early Intervention screening is free. They come to the house to do it. I would highly recommend one.
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Old 11-26-2012, 12:55 PM   #3
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What we work on with DS (constantly choker/spitter)...

One bite at a time. I would literally only put one bite on his plate. He does much better with yogurt, sherbert, pudding, and smooth thick textures than real food.

Sounds to me like he is aspirating. It causes aspiration pneumonia, and does lung damage. There are therapists that deal with this! My bet is that the pediatrician has never actually heard him drink/eat. We had to feed our son in front of her to get her to believe us, and she sent us for a swallow study that showed that yes, he was actually aspirating.

If she thinks its fine, she probably wont' go for it, but an Early Intervention screening is free. They come to the house to do it. I would highly recommend one.
Thanks, that is kind of what I was thinking about, but I don't know enough about it to suggest they feed him in front of his doctor. I think I will ask her if they've ever done this. Then, maybe suggest it.
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What we work on with DS (constantly choker/spitter)...

One bite at a time. I would literally only put one bite on his plate. He does much better with yogurt, sherbert, pudding, and smooth thick textures than real food.

Sounds to me like he is aspirating. It causes aspiration pneumonia, and does lung damage. There are therapists that deal with this! My bet is that the pediatrician has never actually heard him drink/eat. We had to feed our son in front of her to get her to believe us, and she sent us for a swallow study that showed that yes, he was actually aspirating.

If she thinks its fine, she probably wont' go for it, but an Early Intervention screening is free. They come to the house to do it. I would highly recommend one.
This. Sounds like what he REALLY needs is not EI, but a Videoflouroscopic Swallow Study performed by an ENT or Medical SLP. It's basically a moving X-ray where they watch you swallow to see what the problem is.
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Old 11-26-2012, 01:32 PM   #5
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Re: Enlighten me on toddler feeding problems.....

yeah... that doesn't sound right.

DD had a feeding evaluation for stuffing her mouth, but she spit as opposed to choking and such. And we did have to go to 1 piece at a time for awhile.

luvsviola has good advice, once again.

ETA: honestly, the thing that really bugs me the most is that he can't drink without gagging and coughing. I mean.. liquid? at 2?
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I agree. There is something going on that needs to be checked out. I think the "one bite at a time" thst pp suggested is a good idea in the meantime.
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He needs to see a feeding specialist for a swallow study.

My dd is a stuffer and my other has issues with thin liquids.

For my stuffer we use extra salt or strong flavors on the first few bites. It helps some. But this kid needs a specialist and you shouldnt do anything until his parents take care of it. Since no one knows what the actual issues is (could be sensory, or an actual medical issue) you could do more harm trying to fix it.
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Old 11-26-2012, 03:27 PM   #8
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Since no one knows what the actual issues is (could be sensory, or an actual medical issue) you could do more harm trying to fix it.

No.. I don't want to fix it, just talk to her with some idea of what she should ask the doctor for. (ya know, without saying something stupid like "you should add karo syrup to all his foods")
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No.. I don't want to fix it, just talk to her with some idea of what she should ask the doctor for. (ya know, without saying something stupid like "you should add karo syrup to all his foods")
Lol yeah.

Hopefully keeping the food small, allowing one bite at a time and watching like a hawk until she gets som answers will help.

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Something else I would do... (I am overly cautious, I know)

I would get one of your kiddos large stuffed animals or a large doll and mentally practice giving it the Heimlich. Envision yourself giving it to him. That way, if he really does choke and you have to, you're not quite as freaked out because you've mentally rehearsed it before. God forbid you actually have to do so, but at least if you do, you're prepared. It sounds silly, but it really does help.
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