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Old 12-13-2012, 11:41 AM   #1
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Baby play etiquette

Specifically, physical contact between babies.

I have taken ds to several different play groups since he was tiny, and even after tons of observation find myself confused about what to expect or allow when babies are interested in each other. Especially now that ds is mobile and touching everything, what are other moms expecting when he's approaching their LOs?

I have my own thoughts about it but am curious what others think.

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Old 12-13-2012, 11:53 AM   #2
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My dd for the most part just lays there and plays with a few toys so it annoys me to no end when a mom let's her baby continue to go up to my dd and touch/hit/pat/drool on her. It's one thing to go check her out, touch her or see if she will play but if the kid is constantly crawling up to her and messing with her face it's time to re-direct. I always move her but there's always one kid in our playgroup who is only goal in life is to steal her nose or chew her hand and the mom doesn't care at all. (which is also why when I host they aren't invited)
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Old 12-13-2012, 12:12 PM   #3
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Re: Baby play group etiquette

I understand babies are curious, but they need to be redirected if they are physically touching anyone, taking toys or their presence is upsetting to a particular kid.
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Specifically, physical contact between babies.

I have taken ds to several different play groups since he was tiny, and even after tons of observation find myself confused about what to expect or allow when babies are interested in each other. Especially now that ds is mobile and touching everything, what are other moms expecting when he's approaching their LOs?

I have my own thoughts about it but am curious what others think.
So what are your thoughts?
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Old 12-13-2012, 07:39 PM   #5
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Re: Baby play etiquette

I try treat others as I would like to be treated. If my baby was being touched by another baby but obviously not bothered in the least, I'd let it be. If another baby was (of course not MEANING to, simply because of the age) smacking my child or taking my child's toy to the point of bothering my baby, I'd deal with it by re-directing the one who was bothering the other. I would hope that mom would notice and move their child.
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Re: Baby play etiquette

When my children became active babies... I would sit on the floor with them and let touching and interaction occur. If one baby was being too rough, I would gently stop it.. move them apart a little bit, offer the "offender" a toy and redirect.

If my baby hit another baby (they don't mean to be mean they're just babies after all), I moved him away and apologize to the other parent.

So.. let them interact, but be right there to keep accidental injuries from happening and to remove babies that have "had enough" from the situation.

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When my children became active babies... I would sit on the floor with them and let touching and interaction occur. If one baby was being too rough, I would gently stop it.. move them apart a little bit, offer the "offender" a toy and redirect.

If my baby hit another baby (they don't mean to be mean they're just babies after all), I moved him away and apologize to the other parent.

So.. let them interact, but be right there to keep accidental injuries from happening and to remove babies that have "had enough" from the situation.

God bless!
What she said! They need to explore to figure things out. I was comfy with all of it, and went by what my guy seemed comfy with, and reassured him that it was fine. I'm not one to get upset by accidental or social learning hitting and wrestling. My friend on the other hand would block most contact with her baby because wishes was afraid he would get hurt or scared. I followed her lead and kept my guy back as much as possible, encouraging side by side play instead. So follow mama and baby's lead.
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Old 12-14-2012, 06:12 AM   #9
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So what are your thoughts?
I'm more along what a few people have said about allowing exploration between similar age/mobility babies as long as both babies are happy and nobody is being rough or excessively slobbered upon. I can appreciates what the first two posters shared and I'm assuming their babies are not yet mobile.......I generally allow ds to approach but not touch babies that are younger. Ds loved that kind of thing before he could move around on his own but most do not.

It's so hard to know what others are comfortable with because most parents won't say anything, just glare when it's too late......but I had an experience a couple days ago when ds approached another baby sitting on his own and touched his leg. The mom took ds's hand and pushed them away then turned his body around away from her kid and said don't touch! It bothered me and I told her I would move him if needed and picked him up and went across the room to play with something else. After that I didn't know if I'm the only one thinking they should just be allowed if everyone was enjoying.
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Old 12-14-2012, 01:01 PM   #10
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Re: Baby play etiquette

I agree with what doodah & mariamommy wrote. I add the rule that we don't touch faces in the hopes of avoiding eye-gouging.
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