Diaper Swappers

newmommy13 · 01-04-2013, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by FindingMercy

I would love to reply to all these updates, but I just have a minute.

Abraham had a dr. appt today with our GI specialist. He got a failure to thrive diagnosis. Boo. I have to switch from nursing him to bottle feeding him breastmilk fortified with formula. This is HARD for me. I'm so thankful he's gotten as much breastmilk as he has, but I've never formula fed before and I worked my tail off to make breastfeeding happen. I think I just need to mourn the end of nursing and embrace what we need to do to get him growing again. He only gained 1 oz in the last month, so they were none too pleased.

Ugh so sorry.

I sure hope he starts packing it on! Mourning is a really appropriate word for what you are experiencing and i'm glad you realize that. hearing failure to thrive as a description of your child is devastating!

Stalking for an update on thomas' court hearing!

Msheidiann · 01-08-2013, 10:11 AM

Did I forget to update after the hearing? Oops! The ICWA issue is officially resolved. The judge found that ICWA does NOT apply. So, the judge should be signing the petition to terminate rights this week. We still have to determine what appeal period applies. The county attorney says 60 days, but family court says 180. The attorney is prepared to fight it, so hopefully we will find out later this week!

On an annoying point...we have a stupid home inspection that needs to be done! Annoying because they only HAVE to visit once every 5 years (scary) because of budget cuts, so they choose at random the other years. We were the 1 in 5 chosen. Irritated because we should have been done by now, and able to let our license expire. Oh well. Off to reset the water heater!

newmommy13 · 01-08-2013, 12:26 PM

Yay for some good news! Hope the appeal period is shortened. It makes sense so im sure it will be. Oh wait...ghats not exactly how things work is it? Lol!

FindingMercy · 01-08-2013, 01:14 PM

Yay! Lets hope for 60 days!!! Maybe renewing your home inspection will give you the bug to keep you license active.

Msheidiann · 01-08-2013, 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by newmommy13

Yay for some good news! Hope the appeal period is shortened. It makes sense so im sure it will be. Oh wait...ghats not exactly how things work is it? Lol!

I wish it was logical!!! I am reading conflicting things online...so I am not really sure. The basis for the 180 is because the person cannot be "served or noticed" so I get that...but the county council is SURE it's 60 days...but of course she works over in juvenile court, not family court. So, we'll see. We should finalize in either April, or August. Honestly I won't believe it's happening until we have a date set for finalization.

Finding Mercy...I don't know! Other than a bio sibling to Thomas (which is unlikely)...I think we are one and done. Who knows though!!

mmbreb · 01-09-2013, 03:14 PM

I updated in my other post but our fist "real" placement is here today. Two kids one is 20 months and the other is 4 years. I didn't realize how babish the almost two year old would be. Makes me realize how much my almost three year old has grown!! We had the team meeting and that was an interesting experience for sure. Overall things are going well. We are having some issues with sharing a bedroom but I think it will work itself out. I feel a little alone in all this. Family and friends IRL just don't understand all of this and I don't always know what I can and can't say so I don't so much at all. I get why it is important but I don't want to feel isolated. I am a share all kind of girl so this is hard for me. I am sure I will get used to what is and is not OK though. This is definitely a learning experience.

Msheidiann: Good luck with things happening quickly! I can only imagine how frustrating it must be.

fostermommyJ · 01-09-2013, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by mmbreb

I updated in my other post but our fist "real" placement is here today. Two kids one is 20 months and the other is 4 years. I didn't realize how babish the almost two year old would be. Makes me realize how much my almost three year old has grown!! We had the team meeting and that was an interesting experience for sure. Overall things are going well. We are having some issues with sharing a bedroom but I think it will work itself out. I feel a little alone in all this. Family and friends IRL just don't understand all of this and I don't always know what I can and can't say so I don't so much at all. I get why it is important but I don't want to feel isolated. I am a share all kind of girl so this is hard for me. I am sure I will get used to what is and is not OK though. This is definitely a learning experience.

Msheidiann: Good luck with things happening quickly! I can only imagine how frustrating it must be.

You probably need to try and meet some other foster parents in your county. Our closest friends are foster and adoptive parents, most of whom we met after we started to foster. Other people just don't "get" it. And that includes most of our family members.

mmbreb · 01-09-2013, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by fostermommyJ

You probably need to try and meet some other foster parents in your county. Our closest friends are foster and adoptive parents, most of whom we met after we started to foster. Other people just don't "get" it. And that includes most of our family members.

We don't really have a foster parent meet up group in our area and I am bad at being very social. I will have to check and see if there are any foster parent activities or anything though. It would be great to get to know someone we could connect with on the foster parent side of things.

~*~Sunflower~*~ · 01-11-2013, 06:16 PM

We got a call for b/g twins! They might be going to a different family closer to them so we are wait & see. The agency said to keep my phone by me this weekend, she anticipates a lot of calls!!!

dalynn1997 · 01-12-2013, 06:27 AM

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Originally Posted by mmbreb

We don't really have a foster parent meet up group in our area and I am bad at being very social. I will have to check and see if there are any foster parent activities or anything though. It would be great to get to know someone we could connect with on the foster parent side of things.

I used to get on the adoption.com forum. They have a foster care section under states. I met a few Forum friends who foster close by and are now IRL friends. Just an idea. There is a lot of activity on the forum which you may like. I kinda check out when there is lots of complaining and venting. Anyway it may be spomewhere to start.

01-08-2013, 10:11 AM	#32
Msheidiann Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: California Posts: 915 Ratings: 36 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: January 2013 Chat Thread Did I forget to update after the hearing? Oops! The ICWA issue is officially resolved. The judge found that ICWA does NOT apply. So, the judge should be signing the petition to terminate rights this week. We still have to determine what appeal period applies. The county attorney says 60 days, but family court says 180. The attorney is prepared to fight it, so hopefully we will find out later this week! On an annoying point...we have a stupid home inspection that needs to be done! Annoying because they only HAVE to visit once every 5 years (scary) because of budget cuts, so they choose at random the other years. We were the 1 in 5 chosen. Irritated because we should have been done by now, and able to let our license expire. Oh well. Off to reset the water heater! __________________ SAHM/Foster mommy and Wife to Matthew Hopeful forever Mommy to T 9/7/11-present Last edited by Msheidiann; 01-08-2013 at 10:12 AM.

01-08-2013, 12:26 PM	#33
newmommy13 Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 7,547 Ratings: 104 Feedback: 100%	Yay for some good news! Hope the appeal period is shortened. It makes sense so im sure it will be. Oh wait...ghats not exactly how things work is it? Lol! __________________ I, mama to dd A (3-08) and dfs J (10/11) hopeful pre-adoptive foster family

01-08-2013, 01:14 PM	#34
FindingMercy Registered Users Formerly: Evie'sMama Join Date: May 2009 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 2,421 Ratings: 16 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Yay! Lets hope for 60 days!!! Maybe renewing your home inspection will give you the bug to keep you license active. __________________ Helpmeet to Scott and Mama to Evelyn (9.21.08) Annabelle (8.8.10) and Abraham (6.20.12) I blog about our family, trans-racial adoption, gluten-free cooking, and crafting

01-09-2013, 03:14 PM	#36
mmbreb Registered Users Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,401 Ratings: 46 Feedback: 100%	Re: January 2013 Chat Thread I updated in my other post but our fist "real" placement is here today. Two kids one is 20 months and the other is 4 years. I didn't realize how babish the almost two year old would be. Makes me realize how much my almost three year old has grown!! We had the team meeting and that was an interesting experience for sure. Overall things are going well. We are having some issues with sharing a bedroom but I think it will work itself out. I feel a little alone in all this. Family and friends IRL just don't understand all of this and I don't always know what I can and can't say so I don't so much at all. I get why it is important but I don't want to feel isolated. I am a share all kind of girl so this is hard for me. I am sure I will get used to what is and is not OK though. This is definitely a learning experience. Msheidiann: Good luck with things happening quickly! I can only imagine how frustrating it must be. __________________ Wife to Ron and mommy to Ben 5-7-09, Grant 4-22-10and Abby 6-16-12Foster mom to Little-Man Pre-Adopt Mom to Spider-ManYou're so beautiful to think of, but so hard to be without.

01-11-2013, 06:16 PM	#39
~~Sunflower~~ Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: California Posts: 2,159 Ratings: 122 Feedback: 100%	Re: January 2013 Chat Thread We got a call for b/g twins! They might be going to a different family closer to them so we are wait & see. The agency said to keep my phone by me this weekend, she anticipates a lot of calls!!! __________________ Homeschooling mother of 6.