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suttonsc · 01-04-2013, 01:02 PM

My mom is living with us permanently and payed for our home to be remodeled. She has developed a pretty unhealthy Co dependent relationship with one of my 4 childre, who is only 3 yrs old. I feel like it's a constant tension between her and I. She focus so much on him the other kids notice and family friends & neighbors ask about her having a favorite. Any suggestions about how to address this? Anyone living with a parent and dealt with a similar concern?

newbiemama · 01-04-2013, 03:37 PM

sounds strange. DH, the kids and i live with my folks now so i KNOW about tension. my parents have a rocky relationship and there's lots of yelling, scolding, and passive-aggressive behavior, it can be quite unhealthy. if that was my situation, instead of confronting it head-on, i would say to mom "i'd really like you to spend more time with the other kids" or "could you spend some one-on-one time with ____, i think he/she feels left out sometimes" or something to that effect. or maybe outright ask that she doesn't focus on the "favorite" kid so much.

JennyAnneC · 01-05-2013, 07:24 AM

I'm in a similar situation. We live next door to my MIL and she favors my middle LO that just turned 2. Since it is MIL I leave the talking to DH. She is mildly aware and will sometimes make a point to give the older one more time. I'll definitely will be waiting for more responses.

MrsCrafty · 01-14-2013, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by newbiemama

sounds strange. DH, the kids and i live with my folks now so i KNOW about tension. my parents have a rocky relationship and there's lots of yelling, scolding, and passive-aggressive behavior, it can be quite unhealthy. if that was my situation, instead of confronting it head-on, i would say to mom "i'd really like you to spend more time with the other kids" or "could you spend some one-on-one time with ____, i think he/she feels left out sometimes" or something to that effect. or maybe outright ask that she doesn't focus on the "favorite" kid so much.

I agree with this

01-04-2013, 01:02 PM	#1
suttonsc Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Rolling Meadows, IL Posts: 10 Ratings: 1 Feedback: 100%	Mom living w/us permanently My mom is living with us permanently and payed for our home to be remodeled. She has developed a pretty unhealthy Co dependent relationship with one of my 4 childre, who is only 3 yrs old. I feel like it's a constant tension between her and I. She focus so much on him the other kids notice and family friends & neighbors ask about her having a favorite. Any suggestions about how to address this? Anyone living with a parent and dealt with a similar concern?

01-04-2013, 03:37 PM	#2
newbiemama Registered Users Formerly: justanauntie Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Twin Cities, MN Posts: 1,717 Ratings: 14 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Mom living w/us permanently sounds strange. DH, the kids and i live with my folks now so i KNOW about tension. my parents have a rocky relationship and there's lots of yelling, scolding, and passive-aggressive behavior, it can be quite unhealthy. if that was my situation, instead of confronting it head-on, i would say to mom "i'd really like you to spend more time with the other kids" or "could you spend some one-on-one time with ____, i think he/she feels left out sometimes" or something to that effect. or maybe outright ask that she doesn't focus on the "favorite" kid so much. __________________ Kalli: Lover of Jesus, Wife of Mike, Mother of Catherine Grace (4/09) and John Gabriel (9/11) AND waiting on Baby Peapod (April 2014) "She is clothed with strength and dignity... She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue... Charm is deceptive, and beauty if fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."

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