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Old 01-14-2013, 04:52 PM   #1
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19 week stillbirth...what to expect?

We found this morning at our 19 week anatomy scan our baby passed just before Christmas around 14-15 weeks.
I have an appointment shortly to talk options with the OBGYN registrar. I know I will have to go through L&D and that process will probably happen in a few days.
This is the first time I have gone through this as all my other losses have been in the first trimester.
I am pretty numb right now.
What else can I expect?

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Old 01-14-2013, 04:54 PM   #2
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oh no oh no oh no!

Helen I'm so so so sorry!

my sister had a stillbirth at 18weeks and went throught the whole l&d process.
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I'm not sure, but I wanted to say I'm so very sorry for your loss, Helen.
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Hugs, Helen. I am so sorry.
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I don't know what else you should expect but I just wanted to say I am so sorry
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Oh Helen you are in my prayers. Something like this happened to my sister and she was induced and delivered afterwards.
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I'm really so sorry for your loss.

I went through L&D last November with my m/c at 15w. They started the process around 12:30 PM by inserting 6 Cervadil to soften my cervix. The contractions were tolerable (for me) without any pain medication. Nothing worse than monthly cramp-like feeling. Around 7 PM they placed 4 more Cervadil rectally. I was dilated to about a 8. My OB didn't want the amniotic fluid to wash out the latest dose of Cervadil since they needed me to contract to deliver the placenta, hence the rectal insertion. My water broke at 7:39 PM and I delivered our son at the same time. No pushing needed since he was so small. It took about an hour to deliver the placenta. I did have to work at that part, pushing with the contractions. They wrapped our son in a teeny tiny knit bunting and wrapped him in a blanket. We got to spend as much time with him as we wanted/needed. The RNs weighed him and measured him and even got some teeny tiny footprints for us. We also had him baptized. I was discharged around midnight. I was so overwhelmed with everything that we didn't have a funeral or anything like that. I didn't know that many funeral homes offer this service free to those that have had a stillbirth/miscarriage. We let the hospital take our son instead, placing him with the other babies who had been lost. I never asked what they did with them. I don't really want to know or think about it.

I did have complications about a month later (hemorrhaging, leading to a d&c), but I don't think that's the norm.

Many prayers to you, mama.
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