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Old 01-28-2013, 07:11 PM   #11
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I felt the same way with this baby. I have two boys and was hoping for a girl especially since this is my last baby. It's a boy. I will be happy if he is healthy but I can say I am still dissapointed I will never have a daughter:

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Old 01-28-2013, 07:21 PM   #12
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I have 1 dd and then 4 boys in a row and I felt that way when we found out with the last 2. By the time they were born though I couldn't wait to meet them and can't imagine my life without those silly little guys. I so thought I wanted a girl when I was pregnant, but honestly I feel you get whoever is supposed to be part of your family. Congrats on the baby girl, know that in time you will not know how you lived without her.
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Old 01-28-2013, 07:38 PM   #13
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Thanks to everyone for sharing your feelings. I'm giving myself license to have these feelings and it helps to have a safe place to share them.
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Old 01-28-2013, 09:14 PM   #14
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Thanks to everyone for sharing your feelings. I'm giving myself license to have these feelings and it helps to have a safe place to share them.
Absolutely!! Despite the gender disappointment we all know we'll love our babies no matter what, and we all know we're grateful for a healthy baby. You are entitled to feel your feelings!
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Old 01-28-2013, 10:11 PM   #15
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It really helps to put things into perspective for me. I have a friend from highschool who is due 4 days after me. I found out I was having a boy the same day that she found out she was having a girl (which is what she wanted). I was pretty jealous, and kind of angry (why couldn't I be having a girl, too?)

Then they found out she has a heart problem.

She's going to need surgery within a week of being born, and two more before she is two.

It really helped to put things in perspective. I would SO much rather have a healthy baby boy, than have a baby girl that has something wrong with her, just for my own selfish "want" for a girl. I don't want a girl that might have a bad quality of life, or worse... not be here.

So yeah, definitely helped me look at things differently.
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Old 01-28-2013, 10:48 PM   #16
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Im not preggo but went though this with ds3. i wanted a girl so bad and the hardest part was dd wanted a sister. She still begs for a baby sister and where done. I love ds3 with all my heart but still have a part that longs for a baby girl. your feelings are normal and ok.
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Old 01-28-2013, 11:06 PM   #17
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mama. This is most likely our last one and I'm desperately hoping it is a girl. I feel awful admitting it but seeing that all of you wanted one gender is making me feel better. We only have one DS and I had some complications after having him. We weren't sure if we were going to get more kids at all so I'm throng to just remind myself of how thankful I am to be pregnant again, because I am. But I really want a little girl. I lost my mom when I was young and I long for that mother-daughter connection that I don't have. Logically, I know that I may not get it even if I have a daughter, though. We will find out baby's sex in about 6 weeks. Everything is different w/this pregnancy but I still tend to think it's another boy. We will see.
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We're waiting for boy #4 to make his appearance in March....for me, it wasn't so much a case of gender disappointment (I pretty much planned on another boy) but more a gender non-excitement. It's my fourth kid, another boy.....there's nothing different to get too jazzed about. Which is kind of a sad attitude.

I did really want a girl for many years, but I think I'm at peace with just having boys (this is our last kiddo.) It took me a long time. I finally decided that if I'm going to be an all-boy mom, I'm going to embrace the role and become the neatest all-boy mom you ever met. Kind of the if you can't beat 'em, join 'em mentality.
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Old 01-29-2013, 08:43 AM   #19
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Hugs to all you mamas! I have been in your shoes. When we found out DS #3 was a boy I was heartbroken. Hubby was scheduled to have a vasectomy after he was born. But at the last minute we changed our minds. I decided we were too young to make that decision. At the time there was no room for another baby in our house and financially we couldnt afford it. I was devastated. I love all my boys with all my heart but longed for a daughter. Fastforward 7 years and we decided to have another. We are in a better place financially and we have a bigger house. We are now expecting our little girl. I say all this to say you just never know what will happen in the future. To all of those who say this will be there last please think hard about it before making any permanent decisions. Things change and circumstances change. HUgs to you all because I completely understand.
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Old 01-29-2013, 10:41 AM   #20
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I'm sorry I always felt that I would be a little sad if I never had a daughter, now I have DSD and our girl due in a couple months. DH would really like another boy so we'll just see what the future hold for us
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