Diaper Swappers

MsGiggles · 02-01-2013, 08:17 AM

Do you know if he is introverted? If so, they need their quiet/alone or familiar-surroundings time a lot more than other kids. I've seen two kids like that who resisted going to preschool, but always enjoyed it at the end - but I don't think their moms ever went back to staying while they warmed up - I think that may have made it harder on them.

HeatherlovesCDs · 02-01-2013, 08:57 AM

I'd pull him out. I see no good reason to put him through this. I'm with your husband on this one.

tinytushi · 02-01-2013, 09:21 AM

I remember being forced to preschool and I am now 36 years old. I still remember the resentment issues and feeling abandoned. So not worth the psychological trauma. A 3 to 4 year old is very young and has plenty of time to adjust for work and a lot of maturing between now and even kindergarten. I would pull him out. As a matter of fact I did with my own daughter and when she went back for kindergarten things were much better.

danner · 02-01-2013, 09:40 AM

My daughter is doing very well in New York State Universal pre-K. 5 days a week, 930-12. Everything is predictable and structured. She doesn't resist going much, but she can articulate that if she doesn't care for it, it's because there's a lot of work to do, not enough playing. Not much I can do about that going foward, so I just philosophize about it with my daughter. She's going to Kindergarten next year so a little squishiness can't deter me.

In your case though, if I were in your shoes I would be concerned. I'd talk to teacher and your son and figure it out. If I couldn't figure it out, I would pull him and try again next year.

raisingcropsandbabies · 02-01-2013, 12:47 PM

I side with your dh on this one. Why force him when he's only four... He has lots of time to learn how to deal with others, do things he doesn't want to do, etc. Take the money you spend on his preschool and put it towards something he is excited about (children's interactive museum, zoo, bounce house, etc). He'll get to play with other kids and learn and hang out with you all! Win, win!

02-01-2013, 08:17 AM	#11
MsGiggles Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Ottawa, ON, formerly Vancouver, BC Posts: 853 My Mood:	Re: WWYD? DS hates preschool Do you know if he is introverted? If so, they need their quiet/alone or familiar-surroundings time a lot more than other kids. I've seen two kids like that who resisted going to preschool, but always enjoyed it at the end - but I don't think their moms ever went back to staying while they warmed up - I think that may have made it harder on them. __________________ A (usually) happy wife mama to my BOGO girls, DD1 July 2010 and DD2 Dec 2011.

02-01-2013, 08:57 AM	#12
HeatherlovesCDs Registered Users Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 8,889 Ratings: 98 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: WWYD? DS hates preschool I'd pull him out. I see no good reason to put him through this. I'm with your husband on this one. __________________ Heather SAHM to 6 who are 7 and under, including 2 sets of twins and our last little miracle, a surviving identical twin, born Oct 2012!

02-01-2013, 09:21 AM	#13
tinytushi Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 235	Re: WWYD? DS hates preschool I remember being forced to preschool and I am now 36 years old. I still remember the resentment issues and feeling abandoned. So not worth the psychological trauma. A 3 to 4 year old is very young and has plenty of time to adjust for work and a lot of maturing between now and even kindergarten. I would pull him out. As a matter of fact I did with my own daughter and when she went back for kindergarten things were much better.

02-01-2013, 09:40 AM	#14
danner Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Orchard Park, WNY Posts: 6,830 Ratings: 72 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	My daughter is doing very well in New York State Universal pre-K. 5 days a week, 930-12. Everything is predictable and structured. She doesn't resist going much, but she can articulate that if she doesn't care for it, it's because there's a lot of work to do, not enough playing. Not much I can do about that going foward, so I just philosophize about it with my daughter. She's going to Kindergarten next year so a little squishiness can't deter me. In your case though, if I were in your shoes I would be concerned. I'd talk to teacher and your son and figure it out. If I couldn't figure it out, I would pull him and try again next year. __________________ Danielle, Nick, Gigi ('08) and William (7/11) Happy Family

02-01-2013, 12:47 PM	#15
raisingcropsandbabies Registered Users Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 1,126 Ratings: 1 Feedback: 100%	Re: WWYD? DS hates preschool I side with your dh on this one. Why force him when he's only four... He has lots of time to learn how to deal with others, do things he doesn't want to do, etc. Take the money you spend on his preschool and put it towards something he is excited about (children's interactive museum, zoo, bounce house, etc). He'll get to play with other kids and learn and hang out with you all! Win, win!