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Old 02-05-2013, 06:11 PM   #21
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Thanks Ladies!!! I think I'm going to look into my local childrens service agency. I don't know about foster care. I'm scared I won't want to give them up. I'm more than ready for God to bring man into my life. Sometimes I wish he'd hurry up but I know he's moving things at the best pace for me.

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How do you know when a child is the one...meant for your family. There is a little boy coming up for adoption within our agency, actually placed with my friend. My head keeps telling me no...but I just broke down into tears over it again while reading a blog post on adoption. This one... http://aplacecalledsimplicity.blogspot.com/2010/02/i-woke-up-with-some-thoughts-on-my-mind.html They asked us to consider adopting him six months ago when the case started turning south. I melted into tears the second they asked, but said I don't think so. We have five boys already...we have five boys already...we have FIVE boys already! eta: Okay we have FOUR boys...where did THAT come from!!!????
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Old 02-06-2013, 10:26 AM   #23
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That is a great post. Minimalist has been my middle name for the past few months and I'm loving it. I've donated several van loads and have lots more to go. My confidence wavered recently when I met someone with a gorgeous huge $500,000 home and everything that goes with it. Shes an amazing person with a full hsppy home but I admit I was feeling very jealous of all the "things". I needed a reminder about what was really important.
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Old 02-06-2013, 10:33 AM   #24
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Old 02-06-2013, 12:04 PM   #25
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How do you know when a child is the one...meant for your family. There is a little boy coming up for adoption within our agency, actually placed with my friend. My head keeps telling me no...but I just broke down into tears over it again while reading a blog post on adoption. This one... http://aplacecalledsimplicity.blogspot.com/2010/02/i-woke-up-with-some-thoughts-on-my-mind.html They asked us to consider adopting him six months ago when the case started turning south. I melted into tears the second they asked, but said I don't think so. We have five boys already...we have five boys already...we have FIVE boys already! eta: Okay we have FOUR boys...where did THAT come from!!!????

Thanks for sharing that blog!

Whenever something has me super emotional, I know something is up!
You know, I have 5 daughters & 1 son. We had girl, boy,girl. It just seemed natural that the next would be a boy. But it wasn't. And I was disappointed, but she was an awesome baby. Then with the next we hoped for a boy. no dice. And again, we wanted a boy. didn't happen. The one time we got pregnant with another boy, he died in utero. God does not want me to have another biological boy. Why? I don't know. And we love our girls SO MUCH, but we had fun with that one wonderful boy & would love to do it again. So we have told our agency we want BOYS, but in the end, we may never get a boy. We could say no if we get a call for a girl, but maybe God is sending us that girl for a reason! I hope that you are praying on it & that God will give you a sense of peace & help you know what the right decision is.
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Old 02-06-2013, 01:09 PM   #26
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What does your dh say? We are ones that stuck to our guns, and it was the right choice for us. We started out saying we would adopt a girl two and under and do short term/respite while we waited. A couple months waiting and we got a call for an unborn sibling already attached to the termination order (the most perfect adopt from foster case ever! totally unheard of, a newborn with parental rights already terminated, unbelievable). The baby was a boy. I of course, would've took him. Dh said it was not our baby; another family was waiting for him. And that was that. Two more months and we picked up dd2 from the hospital. I still wonder about his family though... never heard where he went.

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Well.... I got my very first placement call!!! I had specified 18 mo and younger due to my dd and it being our first placement... They called with a "2 yr old" little girl who turned out to be 3.5 after I asked for her birthdate. DCF is crazy! I felt horrible having to say no but she was pulled from a VERY tough situation and I was really nervous about the impact on my dd. ughh... Soooo tough to say no.
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Old 02-06-2013, 01:54 PM   #28
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What does your dh say? We are ones that stuck to our guns, and it was the right choice for us. We started out saying we would adopt a girl two and under and do short term/respite while we waited. A couple months waiting and we got a call for an unborn sibling already attached to the termination order (the most perfect adopt from foster case ever! totally unheard of, a newborn with parental rights already terminated, unbelievable). The baby was a boy. I of course, would've took him. Dh said it was not our baby; another family was waiting for him. And that was that. Two more months and we picked up dd2 from the hospital. I still wonder about his family though... never heard where he went.

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Well.... I got my very first placement call!!! I had specified 18 mo and younger due to my dd and it being our first placement... They called with a "2 yr old" little girl who turned out to be 3.5 after I asked for her birthdate. DCF is crazy! I felt horrible having to say no but she was pulled from a VERY tough situation and I was really nervous about the impact on my dd. ughh... Soooo tough to say no.
So hard to say no! My dfs was an "almost one year old" but he was 9 months. Thats a big difference to me! Ok not as big as 2 year old to 3.5 year old. Do you think they purposely lied to get the child placed?
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Well, least you have one girl! All I ever wanted was to be a parent to ONE girl. Didn't happen biologically as I had boy after boy. I hate that boys get such a bad rap. I love mine dearly. I never would have had a clue as to how wonderful they were if God hadn't blessed me with them even though I was indifferent about ever having one. Obviously I still very much want the opportunity to be a mother to a daughter but I'm bewildered as to why everyone only wants girls. I understand bedroom situations, but it seems beyond that. My agency initially gave me a hard time about only taking girls despite them understanding we already had four boys and only one available room.
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I was the opposite. We wanted a boy so bad! Now I'm really hoping with this next potential baby that it will be another boy. Abraham needs a brother I've decided.
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