Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 03-05-2013, 09:05 AM   #11
homebirthmom's Avatar
homebirthmom
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Posts: 8,965
My Mood:
Re: Stillbirth at 38 weeks

the reason for 6 weeks is so the lining returns back to norm, as well as the size of the uterus. If I were you, I would want the best medicine which would be trying again.
losing a baby that far along is beyond something i could imagine. I am so sorry for your loss. I have had several myself but your situation is incredibly hard.

did they check the placenta to see if it malfunctioned somehow? it seems after 38 weeks there is a higher risk of stillborn with anyone who's placenta is not working as well as it should, hence the reason for weekly checks in the end.

I wish you the best. many hugs

Advertisement

__________________
unassisted, homebirthin mom Had I not birthed children into the world and become a mother... I would not know true love, laughter or insanity.

Last edited by homebirthmom; 03-05-2013 at 09:07 AM.
homebirthmom is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-05-2013, 09:06 AM   #12
nana2peach's Avatar
nana2peach
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Louisiana
Posts: 463
My Mood:
Re: Stillbirth at 38 weeks

I'm so sorry for your loss. My first cousin's firstborn was born sleeping. She had a councillor tell her to wait several months to TTC again because she needed to deal with the loss of her infant son.
Sending healing hugs your way ((((()))))
nana2peach is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-06-2013, 06:11 AM   #13
bhunt479's Avatar
bhunt479
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Mississauga, Ontario
Posts: 204
Re: Stillbirth at 38 weeks

Thanks to all for the kind words.
homebirthmom-placenta was checked throughly at birth and thru autopsy and no issues, same as umblical cord.
I know I can't replace her and emotionally we are still hurting, but I do think this pain will subside and my angel will get me through.
As for DH and I, we've been together 18 years, and this being our first pg, although unplanned, we truly know now that we want to be parents.
It's that feeling of wanting to give a baby our love that's fuelling this need for another. Whether I can heal emotionally in 6 weeks or a year is debatable, but I do know for sure this motherly love has to be expended.
As for the physical part, drinking red raspberry leaf tea to help tone.
What about the hormones, how long do they take to get to normal levels? Or does this matter for the next pg? TIA
bhunt479 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-06-2013, 11:53 AM   #14
*TinyJoys*'s Avatar
*TinyJoys*
Registered Users
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 914
Re: Stillbirth at 38 weeks

Oh mama, I don't have any words of advice for you but I too wanted to say how sorry I am. How devastating! I am praying for peace, strength and eventually that miracle baby.

Years ago, before I was born, my mom had a friend that had a stillbirth. It was her first pregnancy and a devastating experience for her, so devastating she had to move because the reminders were too painful for her. She didn't know if she would ever have the strength to endure pregnancy again, and she was afraid. She also knew that her desire was to have a baby, and fill that void, not replace the one the she lost. Not long after that, she became pregnant again, with a beautiful healthy baby boy. She went on to have 3 beautiful healthy sons. So I guess I just want to say, you WILL get that miracle baby!

Again, I'm so so sorry! Your story made me cry. I admire your strength though, you seem like a very strong woman!
__________________
Happily married to my first love . SAHM to 2 sweet boys. Missing my 8 week angel.
*TinyJoys* is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-08-2013, 08:34 PM   #15
myblessedbaby's Avatar
myblessedbaby
Registered
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Florida
Posts: 4,346
Re: Stillbirth at 38 weeks

no advice, just hugs to you mama.
__________________
-Kate SAHM to John 12/31/07, Grace 10/15/09, Jack ^i^ 5/18/12 , and Jane 5/14/13
myblessedbaby is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-08-2013, 09:12 PM   #16
canadianbakers's Avatar
canadianbakers
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: MB, Canada
Posts: 9,221
My Mood:
Re: Stillbirth at 38 weeks

Oh mama, how heartbreaking I am so sorry for your loss.

I don't know what they would recommend as far as timing to ttc again goes - I would assume Drs would say, physically 6 weeks... but there is the emotional part to it, too. And there's no right answer there.

for peace for you and your DH, through grieving the lost of your precious wee babe.
__________________
~Elena~
Momma to R (12), Z (10), I (8), L (4), P (2) & J (Apr 14, 2015)
remembering Elliana Lucy (2.7.12)
canadianbakers is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-09-2013, 03:13 PM   #17
Pumpkinnoodlemama's Avatar
Pumpkinnoodlemama
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Aloha, OR
Posts: 85
My Mood:
Re: Stillbirth at 38 weeks

I am deeply, deeply sorry for your and your husband's loss. One year is what my doctor recommended (but we conceived through IVF so maybe it is different when conceiving naturally).

I would [I]highly[I] recommend giving your heart and spirit time to heal a bit before trying again. I wonder if being pregnant again might bring up more sadness over your loss than it would if you took time to fully grieve right now?

Lots of light to you, mama.
Pumpkinnoodlemama is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-09-2013, 04:02 PM   #18
abunchoflemons
Registered Users
sitesupporter
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: usa
Posts: 14,622
My Mood:
Re: Stillbirth at 38 weeks

hugs
__________________
Join me making money doing the following: shopkick, Swagbucks, fronto unlockscreen , Perk, receipthog,1Q, Free Eats, panel app, qmee, bzzagent, amazon-my habit, slidejoy unlock screen, smiley360
abunchoflemons is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 03-09-2013, 04:51 PM   #19
firemommaof1's Avatar
firemommaof1
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: By the Blue Lake
Posts: 5,872
My Mood:
Re: Stillbirth at 38 weeks

I am so very sorry mama. I know no words can comfort you in this heartbreaking time. I am truly sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family. I would say 6 weeks to try again but I know some don't wait that long. If your body is healing fine then go for it if your mentally ready.
__________________
* Sage * ~ Married to my handsome man who still makes my heart skip a beat after 12 years!
Mama to My Warrior Son~ 8/19/03 and My Little Mermaid DD~ 5/14/07
Sweet Little Cally 5/23/11
Kai Grayson Arrived June 3 2014
firemommaof1 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-09-2013, 09:09 PM   #20
s2grace's Avatar
s2grace
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Midwest US
Posts: 1,520
Mama, so so sorry to hear this. My daughter was born at 34 weeks and lived for two hours 8 months ago. Our situation was different as we knew she had trisomy 13. I have been a part of a forum on baby center called "perinatal stillbirth and infant loss". It's been so so helpful to "be" w other mamas who understand completely. I'd encourage you to check it out.

Our dr said to wait a year but I've had a v section and that may be part of it. We've been trying though. I've been seeing a counselor(it's been so good to do that!). And she says its important to wait till your heart is ready. That will mean different for all of us but I know I do need to be in a good place before our next little one comes.

I
Again, I know our stories are different but I am praying for you. Please feel free to message me if you'd like to talk!
__________________
Shannon- married to DH for seven years, mom to DD 6/10/08, DS 8/29/10 and Gabriella Marie (Ella), born on 7/5/12 with Trisomy 13 and in heaven with Jesus. And our rainbow- DS2 12/24/13
s2grace is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2014 Escalate Media. All Rights Reserved.