View Poll Results: what age did you leave the kids overnight?
0-2 months 6 4.41%
2-4 months 12 8.82%
6-12 months 10 7.35%
1 year + 75 55.15%
Never left my kids overnight 33 24.26%
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Old 03-15-2013, 01:07 PM   #61
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I honestly don't know. I think DS1 was about 2.5 the first time he stayed over at my parents' house. DS2 was probably 20 months or so. DS1 has had sleepovers with my parents, and with his cousins (my bro/SIL's kids), some just for fun, some because of an odd work schedule. DS2 so far has only had sleepovers with my parents twice, and only due to crazy scheduling. DH and I are homebodies. We don't go out or need a lot of time to ourselves. My parents love our kids very much, but they aren't "drop off the kids any time you want" kind of grandparents.

I couldn't care less what works for other families. This works for my family and everyone is happy with the set up we have. I don't judge anyone for leaving their kids at a younger age or never leaving them at all.

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Old 03-15-2013, 01:14 PM   #62
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I really don't remember with my big girls.... Probably 4 years or older because I can't think of anyone who would have taken them until we moved.

DS is just over 1 and doesn't sleep thru the night . One of his aunts is dying to take him and I'd kill to sleep a full night lol but I'm scared for both of them....

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Old 03-15-2013, 02:09 PM   #63
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Re: what age did you leave child overnight?

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Defensive much? No one is judging you, chill out. It was just a question.

ETA: Went back and read every single post. Literally 0 judgmental or passive aggressive remarks, no claims of never would they ever leave their kids.

So... what was the point of that post exactly?

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I didn't mean to come off so hot, but honestly, without knowing what exactly the OP is lookingn for, we're just comparing data. There's no right answer here. I hate these comparison threads because they carry a vibe that there's a right and a wrong answer when there's not. I was just really surprised to see people justifying why they would have ever left a kid overnight. There's no need for justification. It's not wrong to leave a kid overnight, most of the time.
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Old 03-15-2013, 02:21 PM   #64
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Re: what age did you leave child overnight?

I voted 2-4 months, but it was really closer to 5-6 months but there wasn't that option.
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Re: what age did you leave child overnight?

I let my kids decide when they want to visit Noni overnight. For both of them it was past 2 years of age and they both enjoyed their visit. They love going to see her and spending the night.
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Re: what age did you leave child overnight?

Claire was 22 months. We went on a mini vacation before Micah was born. It was ROUGH. Micah is 12 months this coming week and I can't imagine leaving him overnight any time soon.
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Old 03-15-2013, 06:30 PM   #67
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As this comes up i have just dropped my 2.5 dd and 10 month dd overnight at gramdma and grandpas for no reason except dd asked to go stay. We left when dd said bye now. They were both paying with papa when we left. We will pick them up at about 11 am. This happens at least once if not twice a month.
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I didn't mean to come off so hot, but honestly, without knowing what exactly the OP is lookingn for, we're just comparing data. There's no right answer here. I hate these comparison threads because they carry a vibe that there's a right and a wrong answer when there's not. I was just really surprised to see people justifying why they would have ever left a kid overnight. There's no need for justification. It's not wrong to leave a kid overnight, most of the time.
So why assume she has ulterior motives? It could very well just be that simple. You're correct, there is no wrong answer. There are just answers. But I also don't see people justifying anything. Saying I spent Saturday at the park isn't justifying how I spent my time, it's just sharing the total experience. Details don't equate to justification. I really think you're reading far more into this than is necessary.

ETA: It sounds like you've had some pretty negative judgy experiences. I think we all have tbh. So I can understand hesitation on a question that is often times a loaded one. But I think coming in with shields up and ready to go isn't always necessary. Sometimes mamas are simply curious, or want to know they aren't alone. And thus far, no one has put the thread in that direction. I'm sorry if some people have made you feel like you have to justify your parenting or put you on edge I really don't see any reason to think OP is doing that, though.

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Re: what age did you leave child overnight?

My girls are 2.5 and 5 and have never spent the night away from us. If either set of grandparents lived closer, they probably would have by now, but we have no family nearby.
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Old 03-16-2013, 05:11 AM   #70
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Re: what age did you leave child overnight?

About age 2 or 3. I don't have a lot of places to leave them . My parents have them spend the night 1-2 nights a year. The kids love it. DS1 and DD both went about age 2 for the first time, but DS2 was 3 before he had a chance. It would be nice for us, if they offered more often, but I'll take the couple nights.
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