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Old 03-26-2013, 04:10 PM   #11
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I'd lose it. At least she had permission but I would have gone off about the length.

One time my sis was babysitting my brother's girls and decided that the older one needed a trim (split ends make her crazy) so she cut it. My SIL went ballistic and my sister didn't get the big deal. Needless to say, she doesn't watch my kids. Who does that?

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Old 03-26-2013, 04:38 PM   #12
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Re: MIL took my daughter to get her hair cut

I do know stylist always cut off more than I want (on my hair). I now have them show me how much they intend to cut off and I always tell them the cut off less than what I really want because they always cut off more. I think hair stylists have something against long hair. They see long hair and just want to cut it all off. It'll grow back, try to enjoy the cute new look for now knowing in the future you'll be there standing over for any hair cuts.
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Old 03-26-2013, 04:53 PM   #13
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Re: MIL took my daughter to get her hair cut

Oh I'd be mad. Did she have your permission to get her hair cut at all? And if she did...why would she go so short?! I did a bob on my DD when she was little, but she had thin hair that wasn't the same length. I did it to make it the same length but now she has hair like 4 inches below her shoulders...and that is where it will stay (or longer). The bob was cute, but it was a necessity at the time for us.

I hope your little one's hair grows quickly.
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Old 03-26-2013, 07:14 PM   #14
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Re: MIL took my daughter to get her hair cut

Thanks everyone. I'm calmer now, it was just such a shock. MIL is well-meaning, but over-stepping, and our relationship is a bit tense at the best of times. I'd have been less angsty about it if the bloody woman had just said, I'm sorry, I know it's not what you wanted, at least it's still cute.

In the meantime, I've got all my daughter's hair bands for my own use - my hair's longer than hers for the first time since she was 3 months old .
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Old 03-26-2013, 09:29 PM   #15
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I would have lost it. But it definitely sounds like something my MIL would do, mine would do it without permission as well. I feel for you
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Old 03-26-2013, 09:47 PM   #16
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Re: MIL took my daughter to get her hair cut

Oh no. It's so much more shocking when you're not there to see it first. Considering you said it was uneven, I wonder if it's shorter because she kept trying to even it up?
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Old 03-26-2013, 10:11 PM   #17
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I'm so sorry. I would be livid too.

My mil took my nephew for his first cut ever when he spent a weekend with her at 1 yr old. She wasn't ill intentioned, but that's how her mother was with her kids so..she tried to help!
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Old 03-27-2013, 01:04 AM   #18
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Been there. A month or so ago my mother cut my first born's hair, for the first time ever while I was in class, butchered it and didn't even save a lock of it. I'm still not over it. And I'm still livid. So sorry mama.

ETA: Just to add to it, she knew I didn't want his hair cut. I refused to even consider it. He had gorgeous curly flips at the end, and beautiful blond hair. Now he has butchered, uneven, obviously cut with dull crap scissors bangs and I don't even want to take photos of him because it pisses me off to look at them.

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Old 03-27-2013, 03:02 AM   #19
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Re: MIL took my daughter to get her hair cut

Yikes, I'd cry too. My relationship with my MIL sounds pretty similar to yours. By necessity b/c we live so far apart but if we were closer to each other geography-wise, I know it'd be worse. She always always always asks to cut DS's hair when we are there. I find it odd the way she obsesses over it.

Just take a deep breath. It will grow. And repeat that over and over until you feel better b/c I know it'd take me awhile to get over it.
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Old 03-27-2013, 03:44 AM   #20
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This is very much whst happened with Gigi when she was around 19 months. I let mil take her to get a trim and it turned into a short bob which was still cute but not close to what I said. I reconciled it in my mind by blaming myself for giving mil any responsibility or autonomy at all. Every time I have given my mil any latitude I have regretted it and I always blame myself because I should know better by now. I have countless mundane examples.
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