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Old 04-27-2013, 07:04 PM   #1
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At what age would you separate your boys and girls?

I have an 8yo DD and 5yo and 3yo DS's. My kids want to share a room and it would be really nice to use our 3rd bedroom as a homeschool/play room. They've shared a room before. I'd just have them get dressed in separate rooms. Is that weird? Would you keep them separated or let them share?

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Old 04-27-2013, 07:09 PM   #2
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Re: Genders And Room Separation

I just officially moved my 11yo DD and 6yo DS into the same room (again) today. They dont like sleeping alone.
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Old 04-27-2013, 08:07 PM   #3
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Re: Genders And Room Separation

The foster parent/DCS rules in our state are that they have to be separated when the oldest child hits 4 years old.

I would not have them share personally.
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Re: Genders And Room Separation

My brothers and I shared until I was 7 and they were 6 and 4. We had a bunk bed with a twin on top (me) and double on the bottom that they shared. It wasn't ideal, but in a 2bd house, it worked. I'd really try to split them before puberty, just so they don't feel uncomfortable.
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Old 04-28-2013, 12:32 AM   #5
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Re: Genders And Room Separation

I have a 4 yr old dd and 2 yr old ds. When ds was born we only had a 2 bd apartment but even though I have moved into a 3 bd they still share a room. Its not an issue at all yet, they only sleep in there and they have no sense of modesty or discomfort yet. I enjoy having a toyroom and so do they, and I'm playing it by ear. If they ask for their own space or when puberty comes we will switch things up.
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Re: Genders And Room Separation

DS and this baby will share a room once we move this one out of our room. I plan to let them share until they ask to stop. To the best of my knowledge, there is no law regarding related bio-kids of opposite genders sharing a room.
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I don't think there is a blanket answer for this. I think it depends on each individual child. If they all want to share, let them. If not, then don't. Each child will have their own comfort levels. I have 2 boys ages 5 yrs and 17 months. My 5 year old has a big need for his own space and alone time. Since we only have 2 bedrooms, I am having to get creative with how I move the toddler into his room. My husband and his sister shared a room til he graduated. He often said when he was about 10 or 11, he wanted his own room.
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We are cramped for space and have our 6yr old DS and 4 yr oldDD bunking together. They only play and eat in there, use the bathroom or living room or even the front porch to get dressed. We did have them separated for a while at our old place but every night was a battle as they would beg to "sleepover"with each other.
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Re: Genders And Room Separation

After school age we stopped sharing as kids.
My two are boys, so no issues so far.
If you the room is just for sleeping then I don't see a problem with it until the kids complain.
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I don't think there is a good answer to this. Dd2(5 1/2) and ds(3 1/2) share a room currently because they begged to do so. They love sharing. Right now they also begged to habe their beds pushed together as well (but they both strongly object to anyone rolling into their space). Probably within a year we'll at least seperate their beds. But if they are willingly sharing a room I don't have an issue with it for now. We have enough bedrooms that at anytime they can have their own room. Since they are sharing a room there isno room for toys in the room so they only sleep in there.

I would imagine by the time dd2 is 10 (ds is 8) we will probably discuss them seperating if they have asked to do so on their own yet.
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