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Old 06-06-2013, 12:56 PM   #11
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I don't think I want visitors this time. Or anyone besides dh and the doula during labor and birth. I was so concerned with pleasing everyone else... Idk what was wrong with me.
It was my best and most relaxed time giving birth. I even requested staying a full 4 days after birth. Mine was an semi emergency c-section. I liked having the recovery time being waited on hand and foot. If I had gone home for sure I would have had more things I had to do.

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I did my second birth completely different than my first and still have some tweaking to do this time.
1. Do not let anyone break my water! I chose this both times to speed things up and although it worked like a charm, I'd like to keep it intact, especially since it can help with pain.
2. Have baby be put on my chest immediately rather than being taken to be weighed/cleaned.
3. Slower pushing so I don't tear.
4. Figure out the squat bar BEFORE pushing...desperately wanted to squat with DD but in my world of pain/chaos of pushing I couldn't focus enough to figure it out.
5. No pain meds after the birth until I really need them. I accepted a percocet after DD was born thinking I got my unmedicated birth so its fine to have drugs now...nope it made me a complete zombie. Don't want to feel that way during my first few hours with baby.
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4. Figure out the squat bar BEFORE pushing...desperately wanted to squat with DD but in my world of pain/chaos of pushing I couldn't focus enough to figure it out.
I practiced squatting my entire first birth . I used to squat holding onto the couch and do like 20-30 kegals every day (sometimes a couple times a day) I wanted to be able to squat.

Not sure about a squat bar (i vaguely remember seeing one on one of my hospital tours) but for a good part of the pushing stage with my first I just squatted at the side of the bed (like I practiced at home). When no contraction I would stand, they raised the bed and put a exercise ball on top of the bed so when I stood it was the right height to lean into it. Not complicated and worked well.
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Very interesting... I'm going to have to look into this.
Me, too! What is PT?
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Re: What would you do differently?

Well, I had a C/S and will with future babies, so my list will probably look a bit different than yours for the actual birth part.

1) Do not refuse painkillers the first day, as staying AHEAD of the pain is a must, otherwise it's very difficult to enjoy baby.
2) No IV in place that will hinder holding baby or BF'ing (they messed up multiple tries and it ended up on the back of my hand. Never again)
3) Bring probiotics to hospital to avoid thrush from preventative antibiotics pre C/S
4) Seek help earlier for PPD, don't attempt to kill husband with death-ray-eye stares when he suggests help may be necessary
5) On this board, this may get me flamed, but: accept that it's okay to fail at breastfeeding, and no matter what herbs and pumping sessions were done, when only four ounces of milk are made in an entire day, my motherhood and sense of self is not defined by being successful or unsuccessful at breastfeeding.

What worked and I will do the same:
1) DH stayed home for 3 weeks after birth
2) Limited visitors
3) Sushi night before C/S
4) Chimes Ginger Chews and Hansens Ginger Ale for nausea on hand at all times
5) Sleep as much as possible, baby doesn't care about messy house. Their vision isn't that great as newborns anyways, even if they are judgy little things.
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Going to birthing center instead of hospital. Taking Bradley classes instead of Hypnobirthing. Planning on following my instincts instead of all the "rules."

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Find someone to watch the kids who isn't my mom. I have decided I really want her to be able to experience my last baby being born. I wanted her to be there with DS but we had just moved and she was the only one to watch dd. I decided that I wanted her there after witnessing a birth and knowing how wonderful it is. Make sure someone takes pictures! I had my doula/friend take pics during DDs birth but dh and the assistant midwife forgot to take pics like they said they would during DSs birth. I plan on that person being my mom next time lol. I can't really think of anything else. I have had pretty much what I want both births....which makes me scared for the next time. I am afraid things will go wrong since I have had 2 great experiences. Dd was a hospital birth...no iv drugs or anything. Ds was at a birthing center.
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Me, too! What is PT?
Sorry. It's physical therapy.
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My first two were much different than my fourth.

1.)The first thing I changed, was I learned after #1 that I didn't want my mother there. It was frustrating worrying about how she felt, was coping, what her opinion on this or that was, etc. I know she meant well, but she has a strong desire to be in control, and we clashed. I was nice, but I resented it.

2.) I turned down the episiotomy the second time. My recovery from it the first time was just awful as was the pain. Next time I had a natural tear. I expected it to be as painful as the episiotomy, but it was nothing like that. I as amazed when I finally understood how a woman could have a baby, then go the grocery store the next day. I could barely walk after my first baby.

3.) After my first two, I chose to have my babies outside of a hospital. I had pitocin and epidural with them, and the hospital gave me so much flack every time I tried to say I didn't want something.

4.) Number 3 was an awesome birth. Wouldn't change a thing. Natural water birth at 42.5 weeks. I would however, never again wait to have a murmur checked out. Everything worked out great, but it's a risk I wouldn't take again.

5.) My fourth I induced with castor oil and herbs because I was a wreck and was afraid they'd make me have her in a hospital. Long complicated story. But anyhow, no more inductions in or out of the hospital without a sound medical reason. It made for a miserable couple of days for me and I expect my baby didn't enjoy it either.
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