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Old 06-08-2013, 10:07 PM   #21
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I just had baby #4. There's only one thing I would still do differently- hire a birth photographer. Next time...

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Well, this is my first, so it's not necessarily anything I'm doing different one time to another, but I am doing some things differently after knowing my cousin's troubles with birth 1 and much better experience with birth 2 and then seeing my friend/sister-in-law's birth in person. My plan is for a home birth, but no matter what, these are the things I will be insisting upon based on my research & the above-mentioned experiences that were shared with me.

1. Free movement whenever I feel like it.

2. Eat and drink whenever/whatever I want.

3. No induction with oxytocin ever. If for some reason, induction is recommended, then I will try natural methods with nipple stimulation, exercise, sex, etc., before anything else. As my midwife says, there is no good estimation of the length of gestation, especially when you don't know your ovulation date, when the baby implanted, and exactly how fast your baby is growing. Think of how each toddler learns to walk & talk at different stages: Why wouldn't two fetuses be ready for birth at slightly different rates?

4. No pain medications but especially no epidural.

5. No episiotomy ever.

6. No visitors during labor & birth (well maybe in very early labor, but it's hard to get rid of them once they are there) except maybe my mom. Undecided on visitors after that, but anyone who wants to stay more than an hour will have to do dishes, cook, or some other housework!
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5. No episiotomy ever.
Avoid it yes, Never is a little strong. I pushed for 3 hours until my contraction basically stopped. For me no c-section ever. So they gave me PIT to restart my contractions and a episiotomy so that the baby could get out. He was born with old-man ringlets for pushing against my perineum for so it. It was too strong for him to tear it.

I have no doubt that if those steps weren't taken I would have had a c-section instead. In fact, I heard alot of comments from nurses that they couldn't believe I didn't end up with a c-section.

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I don't have many but these are the ones I can think of:
1. Get a pic of DH and I with baby right after birth. Somehow, we got none with DS and the two of us :-(
2. Get an rx for Zofran for postpartum. I got so sick to my stomach from pure exhaustion. I have already talked to my OB about this one.
3. Make DH get up with me in the night during some of the early weeks of bf'ing. I found that time to be extremely depressing and lonely and wish I had asked him to be up with me more with DS.

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5) On this board, this may get me flamed, but: accept that it's okay to fail at breastfeeding, and no matter what herbs and pumping sessions were done, when only four ounces of milk are made in an entire day, my motherhood and sense of self is not defined by being successful or unsuccessful at breastfeeding.
No flaming at all. I have also resolved to make peace with whatever my body does. I had several hemorrhages after having DS and I just stopped producing much milk after I started having issues. I felt guilted by my OB and several lactation consultants as I kept trying to get a decent supply back. Meanwhile, they had me on loads of drugs (including hormones) which I feel sure were the reason for my halted production. If I require meds to control bleeding again, I will pump what I can and move on to formula. I will not endure that Hell again.

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Avoid it yes, Never is a little strong. I pushed for 3 hours until my contraction basically stopped. For me no c-section ever. So they gave me PIT to restart my contractions and a episiotomy so that the baby could get out. He was born with old-man ringlets for pushing against my perineum for so it. It was too strong for him to tear it.

I have no doubt that if those steps weren't taken I would have had a c-section instead. In fact, I heard alot of comments from nurses that they couldn't believe I didn't end up with a c-section.

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Agreed re: never saying never. There are instances when (I believe) the episiotomy is appropriate.

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I have NO pictures either and it sucks

I also am not playing the breastfeeding hell game again. I had insane oversupply, had to borrow money to rent a hospital grade pump to stave off mastitis. My nipples cracked and bled for weeks even though by all accounts our latch was fine. I leaked all the time. Breastfeeding was excruciating for seriously the entire first two or three months. Every time my baby cried I just wanted to run away because I knew he wanted to nurse and I knew it was going to hurt like hell.

In the end I quit because he was dairy sensitive and I had been through ENOUGH. I was so proud of how far I made it, but honestly, never again. If it sucks and I hate it, I'm quitting. I feel like BFing was a huge part of my ppd and delayed bonding with ds.

I also said no induction, no pit, no epidural, no episiotomy.

Then I developed cholestasis and that was one diagnosis I wasn't going to mess with. So I had the induction, the pit, the epidural, and the episiotomy.

This time I'll be prepared for a possible repeat diagnosis though. I will start trying to ripen my cervix much earlier. I'll accept the pit but I want it turned off after labor is started in earnest. I have decided the epidural wasn't the worst thing in the world and I may have another but weaker. Much weaker. I also hope to do lots of perineal massage to avoid needing an episiotomy.
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Re: What would you do differently?

Only regrets I had were, I wish I had stayed in the hospital the full 4 days to recover. And husband will be home for 3 weeks after birth. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. I will be having a repeat c section with a 20 month old at home.

And no visitors that want to stare at baby! If you come over you get 5-10 mins of staring at baby then you leave or you do something that needs to be done! If you want to hold baby while it take a shower, fine, but no staring!!
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Re: What would you do differently?

I've already pledged that I won't go through "breast feeding hell" again either. I seriously am traumatized from how badly it went and I promised myself that I won't put myself through that again.
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Avoid it yes, Never is a little strong. I pushed for 3 hours until my contraction basically stopped. For me no c-section ever. So they gave me PIT to restart my contractions and a episiotomy so that the baby could get out. He was born with old-man ringlets for pushing against my perineum for so it. It was too strong for him to tear it.

I have no doubt that if those steps weren't taken I would have had a c-section instead. In fact, I heard alot of comments from nurses that they couldn't believe I didn't end up with a c-section.

Good Luck!
I agree with this. If you are tearing into your urethra you definitely will want an episiotomy. Chances are you won't tear upwards but I'd encourage a flexible mindset.
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