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Old 09-02-2013, 09:14 PM   #11
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It's good to hear that these things matter. I sometimes think about all the fun things I do with my 2 year old and realize he won't remember any of it. But he does, in important ways.

I think back to when I had my daughter 5 years ago and they took her away from me to put her in the nursery with 43 other newborns. It took forever to get her back, and I'd go down there in my bathrobe to see her because I missed her. I remember all of the crying and the fluorescents so bright. No one ever said, "you know what, you can keep her with you. You don't have to leave her here." I was so ignorant. I did things my way at home, but it took some time to realize that following your instinct is ok.

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Old 09-03-2013, 06:20 AM   #12
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We don't have relatives nearby (yet), but this eases my mommy guilt about daycare. Right now I send my 12 week old 2 hrs a day so she can bond with the teachers for when I go full time in January. Sounds like ND thinks that us a good thing!
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Old 09-03-2013, 07:12 AM   #13
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We're missing the multiple caregivers somewhat. DFs mom has helped us on occasion, nothing frequent or regular, but I guess it's something.
No aunts or uncles or cousins close by unfortunately.
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Old 09-03-2013, 07:39 AM   #14
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This is the first "parenting" article that I have agreed with 100%! We nailed this one out of the park. Everything in it, we do. I never thought this would happen...usually we agree with the main philosophy, but there are some small details that just don't work for us. Not this time!

ETA: maybe it's because the article is short
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Old 09-03-2013, 07:44 AM   #15
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I think that is why those things are our instincts (eventhough many chose to ignore them)
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Old 09-03-2013, 11:17 AM   #16
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Sounds great, but not possible for many people. I mean, even if you're a SAHM and all, if you have more than one child you can't carry the other one around all the time and respond to him right away.
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Old 09-03-2013, 11:32 AM   #17
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Sounds great, but not possible for many people. I mean, even if you're a SAHM and all, if you have more than one child you can't carry the other one around all the time and respond to him right away.
You can if you baby wear. and at some point they do need to learn to wait.
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Sounds great, but not possible for many people. I mean, even if you're a SAHM and all, if you have more than one child you can't carry the other one around all the time and respond to him right away.
Not easily, though that's where having multiple caregivers comes in. Unfortunately, most of us don't live in large extended families though. So we are on our own. I'm the only one with my kids most of the time. The 4rth certainly got less immediate attention than the 1rst, but I've always continued to do the best I could. Ignoring a baby has never felt right for me. Sometimes that means dirty dishes and backed up laundry, but we all survive.
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Old 09-03-2013, 12:41 PM   #19
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Sounds great, but not possible for many people. I mean, even if you're a SAHM and all, if you have more than one child you can't carry the other one around all the time and respond to him right away.
You can, and it gets easier as they are older.

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Re: Interesting Study on Modern Parenting

Interesting. I was going to add more but don't have time for an argument right now.
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