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Old 01-13-2014, 12:46 PM   #1
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s/o Do your kids have birthday parties?

We don't have birthday parties. At least not in the sense that we invite a bunch of kids. I don't like planning it. It's stressful for me for many reasons. My kids also have very few kids who I would invite. We have a couple, but it would be a dinky party. Plus, parties are expensive and we have 6 kids.

Instead, we do something and then have just the grandparents and aunts and uncles over...which is about 10-12 people, including 3 cousins their age. So, we will go to the zoo or a museum or whatever and then meet everyone back at our house for cake and presents. I always make a fun cake for them and we order pizza or something for dinner

Personally, I would prefer to forgo the "party" completely, but neither of our families would take it well.

My kids don't know the difference. We go to very few parties. They enjoy their birthdays and look forward to them. They don't seem to be missing out.

Just curious, are we in the minority? Do you kid birthday parties for your kids' birthdays?

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Our parties sound like your parties. We usually have our closest friends over (10-20 people) and have the kids favorite dinner (pizza/chicken nuggets/whatever) with cake and ice cream and play around. To me that's a party. We did a "big party" 1 year for each kid (think bowling alley with closest friends) and it was like $300 each party- never again (ouch!)
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My kids have birthday parties but I hate planning them/the expense and I hate that the kids always feel disappointed when their friends can't make it. They don't have a ton of friends (mostly just family and one other family with a lot of kids) so if anyone can't make it it seems like no one is there. I just feel guilty because dh and I both grew up having the big birthday parties at places like Chuck E Cheese. This year Tharen's party was cancelled because of ice (December baby) and I never rescheduled. I still feel sort of bad about it but...he had the party with family, party with dh's family, and I think that was plenty. It isn't like they need more toys or anything.
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Our parties sound like your parties. We usually have our closest friends over (10-20 people) and have the kids favorite dinner (pizza/chicken nuggets/whatever) with cake and ice cream and play around. To me that's a party. We did a "big party" 1 year for each kid (think bowling alley with closest friends) and it was like $300 each party- never again (ouch!)
I consider them parties too, but they are very different from the typical "kid" party, especially since often we don't even have any other kids come except our own. We are fine with it though.

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My kids have birthday parties but I hate planning them/the expense and I hate that the kids always feel disappointed when their friends can't make it. They don't have a ton of friends (mostly just family and one other family with a lot of kids) so if anyone can't make it it seems like no one is there. I just feel guilty because dh and I both grew up having the big birthday parties at places like Chuck E Cheese. This year Tharen's party was cancelled because of ice (December baby) and I never rescheduled. I still feel sort of bad about it but...he had the party with family, party with dh's family, and I think that was plenty. It isn't like they need more toys or anything.
We have one set of twins who have Dec b-days. They are a week before Christmas and planning a party would be really rough.

Another thing is we have 4 of our 6 kids, plus my husband (who is a week after Christmas), his father, sister, brother (3 days before my twins) and triplet nieces/nephew all in late fall too (my husband is technically in winter ). It's crazy around here at that time of year. It's all too much.

But, sometimes I do feel badly not giving them the big party, especially when I use the excuse of it being to close to Christmas. If that was the only reason, that would totally stink.
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We mainly do family parties.

Last year DS1 had his first "friend" party, he was 6, he got to invite 3 friends--his two friends from school and the neighbor he plays with. It was just an evening, we did homemade pizza's, cake, and the boys played games and then everyone went home.

So far DS has only been invited to one party from school and his friends Birthday but that was pretty similar to DS's party.

I will probably never do a big party until they are much older.
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We do for every kid every birthday. Birthdays are very important to me. We will have a family party and a friend party separately.

DD is turning 7 next week and hers is at the local gymnastics place. She is so excited!
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Re: s/o Do your kids have birthday parties?

We don't do parties. We go do whatever the kid wants to do for the day; we've gone to museums, zoo, beach, etc... I make whatever cake/desert they pick and we eat whatever dinner they pick out. This tradition works much better for us.
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Re: s/o Do your kids have birthday parties?

Birthdays are important here, but that doesn't equate to 'having a party' to me. For us birthday is a family day. The whole day is planned out with special activities, meals, etc. We usually make a weekend of celebrating actually but it is just the 4 of us.
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The little ones do. Its mostly lunch and cake with friends, very casual
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Just family and not every time, ds2 hasn't had a party yet. I am planning a picnic at the local skate park if it's warm enough in April, he'll be three.
13 kids and 12 adults is a plenty big party for me, ds1and 3 have b'days 5 days apart there will be mostly joint parties in thier future.
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