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Old 02-14-2014, 03:35 PM   #1
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When do you buy a baby gift?

My niece is four months along. They aren't on the young side, and honestly, I thought they'd never have kids.....so, i'm a little bit excited!

Maybe too excited.

They are super weird. They like the most crazy things. But, happily Etsy HAS all of their geeky weirdness for sale! Even Geeky weird baby stuff! So, YAY.

Anyway, there's a blanket I want to buy. But, I don't want to buy it and give it to them only to have something bad happen. Is four months too soon?

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Old 02-14-2014, 03:39 PM   #2
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Re: When do you buy a baby gift?

IMO, once it's public knowledge, that couple is convinced they ARE indeed having a baby, and are planning for it, and I see nothing wrong with planning right along with them.
ETA: I've experienced pregnancy loss, it didn't change this opinion. It was actually a bit upsetting when I was pregnant with DS how hesitant friends/ family seemed to be excited with us until the second trimester.
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Old 02-14-2014, 03:44 PM   #3
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Re: When do you buy a baby gift?

At that point, unless they know she is high risk, I would go ahead and get it. Besides, should something happen, they would probably like having a gift as a sort of remembrance. I know I would.
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At that point, unless they know she is high risk, I would go ahead and get it. Besides, should something happen, they would probably like having a gift as a sort of remembrance. I know I would.
I agree with this, and I am high risk. We are announcing at 12 weeks because it's when we can comfortably say that barring anything crazy, we ARE planning for a baby once we hit 12 weeks. Those that knew prior to this were told in a "please say prayers for us" sort of way. I think once it's announced, gifts are acceptable, and if I lost a baby that far along, I would love a baby momento.
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After 12 weeks you're typically safe unless there are known high risk issues.
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As soon as my SIL found out she was pregnant (maybe 4 weeks I think) I started buying stuff. Mostly yarn though so I could have a wide variety of colorways to choose from. I would go ahead and buy it.
ETA: You can always buy it now and save it for the babyshower if you want.
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IMO, once it's public knowledge, that couple is convinced they ARE indeed having a baby, and are planning for it, and I see nothing wrong with planning right along with them.
ETA: I've experienced pregnancy loss, it didn't change this opinion. It was actually a bit upsetting when I was pregnant with DS how hesitant friends/ family seemed to be excited with us until the second trimester.
I second this. I have had refusal to be excited until third trimester and it hurt!
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Re: When do you buy a baby gift?

I'd buy it too! 4 months is pretty far along, IMO.
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Re: When do you buy a baby gift?

I lost a baby last summer at 17 weeks ago and it was kinda of painful looking at just the little bit of baby stuff we had accumulated. Special items I loved hurt worse.
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If I were you I may start buying now, but not give it until later (baby shower, etc...). I think everyone is different, so you will just use your own judgement. For me, I think I would have a hard time if I had something unique that was tied in to my geeky loves if I lost the baby. (let's say a Tardis blanket nor something). Every time it saw the Tardis I would probably get emotional. BUT, i do think 4 months is probably in the safe zone for lost unless there are known risks.

I kind of went back and forth here. Probably lot wry helpful. Haha
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