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Old 02-11-2014, 02:56 PM   #21
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I have only found one hard and fast rule, that I have learned, that I apply always, and occasionally give as advice, "which is follow what works for your family and let the books be damned". sure books can be as helpful as advice, in that it can be amazing or stupid depending on what your family needs. Otherwise, I rarely give advice, because I know I do things that would never work for other families and that is fine, but don't look down your nose at me for doing them. ** that is the royal you, not you guys

Saying that, people at all stages in the parenting (and funnier childless people) game sure have a ton of advice, wow! Too bad, so much of it is so bad or so poorly given.

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There is a young lady (early 20's) at our church who does not even have kids!!! She thinks her two year degree in childhood education trumps my littles one :headbang:
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Old 02-11-2014, 03:58 PM   #23
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Can I add a complaint that is sort of related (if in a limited way)? I have hyperemesis with this pregnancy. You know, where you puke every 20 minutes around the clock until your kid is born and you have to be on special meds and you loose wait instead of gain it? If one more person asks me if ive tried soda crackers or ginger ale, I'm gonna play Slap-a-Hoe. Seriously.
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Can I add a complaint that is sort of related (if in a limited way)? I have hyperemesis with this pregnancy. You know, where you puke every 20 minutes around the clock until your kid is born and you have to be on special meds and you loose wait instead of gain it? If one more person asks me if ive tried soda crackers or ginger ale, I'm gonna play Slap-a-Hoe. Seriously.
YES!!! I had this with DS and I swear if one more person told me to sip ginger ale I was going to flip. My son came super early (29 weeker) but I had lost nearly 30lbs by then... And I didn't really need to lose anything to begin with.
I was one ginger ale/ cracker/ tums suggestion away from punching someone in the face. "No, I've just spent 5 months puking my brains out and never thought to try the most basic common things. I actually LIKE vomiting 7471846 times a day, thanks!"
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My favorite 'suggestions' come from parents of grown kids who have royally messed up. Like drugs and such. I was told by the father of one of those I needed to beat(with a belt) my kids to make them behave better. That was what he did with his kids. Yup going to follow that suggestion because I really, really want kids just like yours.
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YES!!! I had this with DS and I swear if one more person told me to sip ginger ale I was going to flip. My son came super early (29 weeker) but I had lost nearly 30lbs by then... And I didn't really need to lose anything to begin with. I was one ginger ale/ cracker/ tums suggestion away from punching someone in the face. "No, I've just spent 5 months puking my brains out and never thought to try the most basic common things. I actually LIKE vomiting 7471846 times a day, thanks!"
Hope & Corgi, you two seem a little grumpy........maybe a little ginger ale would help? Lol
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Yeah ok, I admit it. I thought I had this parenting thing down until I had my second child. I do think that most people are trying to be helpful when they offer advice though.

Also the questions on twins, as a woman whose twins died shortly after they were born I always feel a pull towards multiples when I see them in public. Sometimes I strike up a conversation with the Mom just to learn more about what my life might have been like if my children had survived.
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Uggh! We've been dealing with this from SIL (who is right this very second AS WE SPEAK being induced with baby #1) for years. She knows everything, we know nothing, and HER child will certainly NEVER act like XYZ! She goes as far as screaming at our children and trying to discipline them while we aren't even allowed to scold her stupid dog when it steals the kids food or growls at them. And if we dare tell her to leave our kids alone all hell breaks loose. DH and I are secretly hoping her kid acts like the spawn of satan himself!
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FTM here. Let me keep my delusions!

Just kidding, but on a somewhat related note, I have been thinking all day that the person who understands parenting a "non-sleeper" the very least is the parent of a "sleeper." I think a childless person is more help. "Have you tried patting him on the back?" Hmph.

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Can I add a complaint that is sort of related (if in a limited way)? I have hyperemesis with this pregnancy. You know, where you puke every 20 minutes around the clock until your kid is born and you have to be on special meds and you loose wait instead of gain it? If one more person asks me if ive tried soda crackers or ginger ale, I'm gonna play Slap-a-Hoe. Seriously.
Sounds like a related complaint to me!!!

Personally my favorite with dealing with this the second time around is "I feel so bad for you, I puked every morning for the first trimester then felt great! Maybe you will too??" Nope, sorry. An hour after my son was born I distinctly remember thinking oh, so this is what it feels like to not be nauseous, id forgotten how nice this is. Thankfully I'm one of the lucky ones who can gain weight while I'm on zofran even if I still pile randomly. Please video if you play "slap-a-hoe!" Next time I'm hugging the bucket like my life depends on it I will watch that on repeat to take the edge off the misery!
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