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Just don't have a baby shower-- no big deal. 19 43.18%
Pester the friend about throwing the shower 3 6.82%
Ask another friend to organize the shower 13 29.55%
Have wife/partner organize the shower 4 9.09%
Throw a shower for yourself 5 11.36%
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Old 03-28-2014, 07:36 PM   #21
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I'm sorry that your friends keep backing out. I don't get why people think you should only have a shower with the first baby or why it's not ok to throw one yourself. You're celebrating your baby not yourself! I'd talk to the friend and see if she was still up to it or if she wanted any help or if she would feel better not having to worry about it with no hard feelings attached.
Because showers these days imply gifts. Take a look at Dear abby, dear prudence, or miss manners, and they all detest what showers have become. So when you throw yourself shower you are basically saying I'm having a party for myself so you can bring me presents. It is tacky to do this over and over and over again. People who want to buy you a gift I will buy you a gift. They do not need stork decorations. There are many ways to celebrate a new baby without a shower.

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Because showers these days imply gifts. Take a look at Dear abby, dear prudence, or miss manners, and they all detest what showers have become. So when you throw yourself shower you are basically saying I'm having a party for myself so you can bring me presents. It is tacky to do this over and over and over again. People who want to buy you a gift I will buy you a gift. They do not need stork decorations. There are many ways to celebrate a new baby without a shower.
Ya we have a one month meet the baby celebration after baby is born. We provide yummy foods, cake, and games. My husband bbqs good meats and we buy cigars and beer. We never ask for gifts but ppl bring them anyway.
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Re: Friend dropped ball on organizing my baby shower... WWYD?

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Ya we have a one month meet the baby celebration after baby is born. We provide yummy foods, cake, and games. My husband bbqs good meats and we buy cigars and beer. We never ask for gifts but ppl bring them anyway.
This sounds so much more fun than a traditional baby shower. I would do this just because then you wouldn't have to play silly baby shower games(I detest them).

It is interesting that now it is called meet the baby party when it is after baby is born. When I was a kid it was called a baby shower. Few, if any, baby showers were given before baby was born. They were all done after baby was born. At least in my area it was.
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Old 03-29-2014, 08:01 AM   #24
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Re: Friend dropped ball on organizing my baby shower... WWYD?

A "shower" means gifts and it's something that someone you know VOLUNTEERS to throw. It is not something you ask someone to do for you. IMO

If you want to celebrate the baby without the implication of gifts then I would throw something along the lines of a "blessingway" before birth or a "meet the baby" after the birth. Do it yourself. Invite the girls and your family over for a night of celebrating. Instead of gifts have your guests bring something to encourage you through labor and the rest of the pregnancy. (Inspirations quotes, music, etc) You can do henna on your belly, or have your friends help with a belly cast. Invite people to bring a bead to wear on a necklace/bracelet while you labor. There are so many things you can do that will celebrate this new baby

IF you want a traditional shower with gifts I would talk to family or your DH about hosting one for you.
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