Diaper Swappers

skayers01 · 08-02-2006, 02:15 PM

Interesting artice I found on a mothering thread. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=397672&in_page_id=1879& ico=Homepage&icl=TabModule&icc=FEMAIL&ct=5

KaleidoscopeEyes · 08-02-2006, 02:17 PM

Didn't bother reading the whole artical, but I think if you don't want kids, you shouldn't have them. Kids aren't toys on a shelf that you play with whenever you want

jls~Kain~Drake · 08-02-2006, 02:39 PM

I haven't finished the article, but I just had to share the following:

-"All us bored mothers can take comfort from the fact that our children may yet turn out to be more balanced than those who are love-bombed from the day they are born.

Research increasingly shows that child-centred parenting is creating a generation of narcissistic children who cannot function independently.

'Their demand for external support is enormous,' says Kati St Clair. 'They enter the real world totally ill-prepared. You damage a child just as much by giving them extreme attention as you do by ignoring them altogether. Both are forms of abuse.'"-

Give me a break!

Oh, and these:

-"Because I have categorically said: 'I am not a waitress, a driver or a cleaner,' my children have learned to put away their plates and tidy up their rooms. They've become brilliant planners, often inviting their friends to come for the weekend (because I've forgotten to bother)."-

-"They stopped asking me to take them to the park (how tedious) years ago. But now when I try to entertain them and say: 'Why don't we get out the Monopoly board?' they simply look at me woefully and sigh: 'Don't bother, Mum, you'll just get bored.'

How right they are."-

Geez. I'd be lying if I told you I didn't get bored on occasion...and I don't necessarily mean bored because of nothing to do..but bored for lack of adult interaction...with that said, I would never treat my children the way this woman claims to in her article. I brought my children into this world..it wasn't their choice. It's my responsibility, as their mother, to make sure they're cared for and nurtered in every way possible. Not to shove them off on a nanny and go get a pedicure or do anything at all to spend the majority of my time away from them because they're "boring"....geez! Parenting is not a 24/7 party...while I do love it, it's not just all giggles and fun..all the time. It's just not.

I can't imagine not snuggling with my boys. I would be so lonely in her life. I'm not needy, but I love my children so dearly - even when I'm bored.

christi2705 · 08-02-2006, 03:04 PM

How horrible! I can't imagine never wanting to be around my child! I mean why even have kids? She said that kids only need food, shelter, and to be "told" that they are loved. What about showing them! These are the poor kids who end up in therapy!

ChurchPunkMom · 08-02-2006, 03:04 PM

I think that lady's blathering is what's boring... I didn't finish the article, but yeah.. if you don't want to be a mother of a family, don't make a family.

drenotdoctor · 08-02-2006, 03:14 PM

Absolutely devastating that some one would "parent" their own children like that. Why even have them in the first place if you don't want to love on them, cherish them and play with them?! Never in a million years would I even imagine traeting my kids like that. Never.

"Frankly, as long as you've fed them, sheltered them and told them they are loved, children will be fine."

Maybe they will be Fine, but what about well adjusted, happy, confident, trusting in their parents, not to mention how they feel towards you-as a parent!

UGGGGGHHHH!

MommyMommyMommy · 08-02-2006, 03:20 PM

I've been thinking lately that a great many problems in this world are caused by selfish people and this just proves it!

Lucky Child · 08-02-2006, 03:21 PM

I found it boring too and had to stop reading a long time before I reached the end.

rowynne · 08-02-2006, 03:22 PM

WTF!!!!

Quote:

Geez. I'd be lying if I told you I didn't get bored on occasion...and I don't necessarily mean bored because of nothing to do..but bored for lack of adult interaction...with that said, I would never treat my children the way this woman claims to in her article. I brought my children into this world..it wasn't their choice. It's my responsibility, as their mother, to make sure they're cared for and nurtered in every way possible. Not to shove them off on a nanny and go get a pedicure or do anything at all to spend the majority of my time away from them because they're "boring"....geez! Parenting is not a 24/7 party...while I do love it, it's not just all giggles and fun..all the time. It's just not.

SoftBumBaby · 08-02-2006, 03:47 PM

Holy crap.

What a jerk*ff.

08-02-2006, 02:15 PM	#1
skayers01 Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Lacey, Washington Posts: 557 Ratings: -1 Feedback: 45%	Opposite of AP Parenting??? Interesting artice I found on a mothering thread. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=397672&in_page_id=1879& ico=Homepage&icl=TabModule&icc=FEMAIL&ct=5 __________________ katherine-Waterbirthing, breastfeeding, organic eating, and cloth diapering SAHM of Hailyn 11/23/03 and Ashton 05/06/06, and madly in love wife to my hunny, Shane! Last edited by skayers01; 08-02-2006 at 07:47 PM.

08-02-2006, 02:17 PM	#2
KaleidoscopeEyes Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Springfield Missouri Posts: 12,180 Ratings: 66 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Opposire of AP Parenting??? Didn't bother reading the whole artical, but I think if you don't want kids, you shouldn't have them. Kids aren't toys on a shelf that you play with whenever you want __________________ Super crunchy, atheist, vegetarian, liberal WOH and student mama to 4 wonderful, smart homeschooling kids Wesley 14, Seth 7, Pandora Moonlilly 3 and Nevermore Stargazer (11/2012) and married to the love of my life and SAH DH.

08-02-2006, 02:39 PM	#3
jls~Kain~Drake Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,573 Ratings: 17 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Opposire of AP Parenting??? I haven't finished the article, but I just had to share the following: -"All us bored mothers can take comfort from the fact that our children may yet turn out to be more balanced than those who are love-bombed from the day they are born. Research increasingly shows that child-centred parenting is creating a generation of narcissistic children who cannot function independently. 'Their demand for external support is enormous,' says Kati St Clair. 'They enter the real world totally ill-prepared. You damage a child just as much by giving them extreme attention as you do by ignoring them altogether. Both are forms of abuse.'"- Give me a break! Oh, and these: -"Because I have categorically said: 'I am not a waitress, a driver or a cleaner,' my children have learned to put away their plates and tidy up their rooms. They've become brilliant planners, often inviting their friends to come for the weekend (because I've forgotten to bother)."- -"They stopped asking me to take them to the park (how tedious) years ago. But now when I try to entertain them and say: 'Why don't we get out the Monopoly board?' they simply look at me woefully and sigh: 'Don't bother, Mum, you'll just get bored.' How right they are."- Geez. I'd be lying if I told you I didn't get bored on occasion...and I don't necessarily mean bored because of nothing to do..but bored for lack of adult interaction...with that said, I would never treat my children the way this woman claims to in her article. I brought my children into this world..it wasn't their choice. It's my responsibility, as their mother, to make sure they're cared for and nurtered in every way possible. Not to shove them off on a nanny and go get a pedicure or do anything at all to spend the majority of my time away from them because they're "boring"....geez! Parenting is not a 24/7 party...while I do love it, it's not just all giggles and fun..all the time. It's just not. I can't imagine not snuggling with my boys. I would be so lonely in her life. I'm not needy, but I love my children so dearly - even when I'm bored. __________________ Jenelle SAHM to Kain (01/27/04) Drake (08/22/05) ~55 lbs lost, 25 to go!~ Last edited by jls~Kain~Drake; 08-02-2006 at 02:54 PM.

08-02-2006, 03:04 PM	#4
christi2705 Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Tennessee Posts: 929 Ratings: 58 Feedback: 100%	Re: Opposire of AP Parenting??? How horrible! I can't imagine never wanting to be around my child! I mean why even have kids? She said that kids only need food, shelter, and to be "told" that they are loved. What about showing them! These are the poor kids who end up in therapy! __________________ Mom to Emma (10/04) and Hannah (4/07)

08-02-2006, 03:04 PM	#5
ChurchPunkMom Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 2,507 Ratings: 52 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Opposire of AP Parenting??? I think that lady's blathering is what's boring... I didn't finish the article, but yeah.. if you don't want to be a mother of a family, don't make a family. __________________ ~Megan~ On Christ the solid rock I stand, all other ground is sinking sand. Wife to 1 "People want the truth but never want the scars.." Emery Mama to.. too many to list!