Could use some support from non-vaxing mamas.

[Ashhan]

I'm still new to the site, but this is one of the first website I've seen with moms who are proud of not vaccinating their children. We are expecting our first baby in August and have decided not to vaccinate, but I have felt very alienated in our decision. I did the research, read tons of stuff, and I feel we made an educated decision that works for us. Why do people seem to have such a problem with it? A woman I know even suggested that I was putting HER child at danger by not vaccinating my baby. I'm not going to change my decision but some support from like minded mamas would be appreciated.

[momofkali]

It's odd, maybe it's just where I live but people are too polite to tell me I'm doing something wrong.

Even the pediatrician was understanding about the concerns I had and said that I had to do what I felt was right.

Besides people that say you are putting their child at risk that are obviously dense.
If they are vaxing their kid how is their kid gonna ever get sick from it then?
Maybe if you make them think their heads will explode or they will go away =)

[Ashhan]

Haha. I actually pointed that out to her and she had no answer. It's just really nice to finally see someplace that has supportive people out there. We have felt rather alone in our decision.

[Oceanwaveshimd]

I've learned not to mention it to anyone except a few like minded mamas (they still vaccinate but are on the fence) who I consider good friends and my pedi. It can stir up some strong reactions.

[JDT]

I think it's one of those topic's that are best left undiscussed (like politics and religion).

We vax but don't circ. Well you would have thought that I was advocating something illegal the way people acted. It was CRAZY.

Don't worry mama! This is a minor hill to climb. There will be many decisions that you make about your family and child that others will balk at. Other's can't comment on what they don't know.

I share my family choices on a need to know basis.

[jbaxter]

I genrally avoid discussions about vaxing. I have gotten to a point telling people that ask "if I have vaxed yet" by telling them we are delaying them for a bit we perfer to spread them out. Its NONE of their buisines we are delaying till they ae 18yrs old and they can decide for themselves.
My oldest 2 are vaxed exept for anything after middle school ( yes they have NEW ones for older kids) Nathan is mostly to age 15 months and this baby will be vax free.

My pat answer to how did he do with is vax...... We delay ours and spread them out. The 1 in 150 children with autism scare me and Im afraid to over tax his immune system so we are waiting till he is older. ( followed by) Have ou ever asked to see the package insert that comes with the vaccines? Wow I was supprised to see all the chemicals they use in them .... you should read those sometimes..
I havent had anyone choose to continue a discussion after that

If its in an email I include this link from the CDC http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/pubs/pin...nt-table-2.pdf

[sourpatch_babe]

I just ignore those people trying to tell me that I'm putting my kid at risk. A good way to end those conversations is: you do what's best for YOUR family and I will continue doing what's best for MINE. Goodbye.

[Terra]

Originally Posted by momofkali It's odd, maybe it's just where I live but people are too polite to tell me I'm doing something wrong. Even the pediatrician was understanding about the concerns I had and said that I had to do what I felt was right. Besides people that say you are putting their child at risk that are obviously dense. If they are vaxing their kid how is their kid gonna ever get sick from it then? Maybe if you make them think their heads will explode or they will go away =)

And I find that people that make such comments or get kind of bent out of shape when you share that you delay or are not vaxing, have not really done any research [which is evident in the comments they make]...And for me if the conversation comes up and I share my opinion [if asked] and they still continue to badger me I just ask "Have you read/research X,Y,Z?" And when they say "well NO"...then I tell them to read it and then get back to me

Originally Posted by sourpatch_babe I just ignore those people trying to tell me that I'm putting my kid at risk. A good way to end those conversations is: you do what's best for YOUR family and I will continue doing what's best for MINE. Goodbye.

YUP! It's really a no win situation most of the time because most people don't want to be open to learning something new so I don't really discuss it either unless asked.

[nini02]

Originally Posted by momofkali Besides people that say you are putting their child at risk that are obviously dense. If they are vaxing their kid how is their kid gonna ever get sick from it then? Maybe if you make them think their heads will explode or they will go away =)

Exactly. Why bother with vaccines if you still have to worry about your kid getting all those diseases?


We don't tell people anymore, because a JDT is right - people can't comment about it if you don't tell them

[nethridge]

Originally Posted by Ashhan I'm still new to the site, but this is one of the first website I've seen with moms who are proud of not vaccinating their children. We are expecting our first baby in August and have decided not to vaccinate, but I have felt very alienated in our decision. I did the research, read tons of stuff, and I feel we made an educated decision that works for us. Why do people seem to have such a problem with it? A woman I know even suggested that I was putting HER child at danger by not vaccinating my baby. I'm not going to change my decision but some support from like minded mamas would be appreciated.

Be proud that you are making an educated decision, and not just going along with the rest of society. You are doing the right thing! I would not mention it to anyone who you feel would attack you.

Any Mom who tells you that YOU are putting her vaccinated child at risk obviously has no idea what she is talking about. If she truly believes that vaccines work, what is she worried about? Her child is 'protected', isn't she?
And actually, when a child is vaccinated with a live virus vaccine (roto, mmr, etc) the vaccinated child SHEDS the virus and leaves YOUR child (as well as adults) at risk for the disease. Not the other way around.

The more research you do, the more confident you will be come. And when someone wants to attack you, you will be ready with information.

Hugs, mama!